3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men – FOR MEN

3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men - FOR MENI’m not knocking the female gender but when it comes to giving dating advice many of them fall short of the mark because a lot of times women themselves don’t even know how they operate within dating/relationships.

You hear many female relationship coaches tell you that you shouldn’t give up if you want her, give her more flowers or gifts in general, be sensitive, give her lots of attention and compliments etc., etc. – I know you’ve heard the BRAINWASHING that gets you beat up in the real world of dating over and over again.  You see what they miss is the fact that it’s the FEMALE INTEREST LEVEL that counts – I’m the only one in the world with that concept.

INTEREST LEVEL is a degree of love – 49% or lower and you’re out – 51% or higher and you have a chance – all the way up to 100% which is true she’ll sell all her possessions to move out of the country with you.

Many of the things they speak of – gifts, sensitivity, being there for her are fine after you have TIME in with her and that her INTEREST LEVEL is in the 80’s and soaring.  Many guys try to give up the farm on the first couple dates overwhelming her with gifts, attention, compliments and it’s too much too soon.

The dating advice you receive is from men – specifically thousands of them that have written YOU CHANGED MY LIFE LETTERS and have helped me mold my dating course called THE SYSTEM (of course I’ve interviewed over 10,000 women as well – I truly teach men what I learned from women and then as guys go out and put my principles into practice THE SYSTEM grows and has been for over 30 years now).

I really come at this from a guy’s point of view and give you REAL TALK that won’t get you crushed on the street.  Of course there are women giving good advice just as there are men giving bad advice – one of the frequent targets of sub-standard dating advice for men is from Men’s Health – you’d think they’d be helping guys but I frequently feature their stuff on my dating women radio show. However, there is no other relationship coach I know of that puts it all together like me – so enjoy the 3 pieces of advice below – they will really help you out there against the dating realities you’re up against.

3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men – FOR MEN #1:  Stop Over-Complimenting
She has known since a young age that her looks are appealing to the opposite sex and it’s BORING to her to hear how beautiful she is over and over again.  She gets it.  Don’t do it.

You might change tactics and say “Okay Doc, I’ll compliment her on her mind.”  That won’t work either.  Let’s say that you’re out with her on the first date and are telling her how smart she is, how engaging she is, or some other tactic designed to say something nice about her besides her looks.  She’ll sniff you out as a PHONY quickly.  Why?  Because she knows she’s a complete stranger to her so how are you supposed to know anything about her intellect and personality in the first couple of hours?  You can’t and she knows it.

The better approach is to tell her she looks nice when you pick her up (even if she doesn’t) and tell her you had a fun time (even if you didn’t) when you drop her off.

Let’s put it another way – if over-complimenting really worked why don’t you see guys just wandering around throwing down compliments every 5 minutes to women they’re interested in? The more the better, right?  It just doesn’t work guys, forget it.

3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men - FOR MEN3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men – FOR MEN #2:  Treat Her Like A Stranger
Of course you want to be respectful and make sure she has a fun time but just because you’re super-attracted to her doesn’t mean that she’s the girl of your dreams.  I know in our Snap Chat/tweeting/here’s what I had for breakfast status update world that it’s easy to think that everything should be instant – but that will never include dating and relationships.

I love technology but it has given us a false sense that everything is fast and whirlwind – it’s not.  You have to really get to know her.  I have guys call my dating women radio show  and they’ll tell me how much integrity the new girl in their life has – or how fun she is – or how intelligent she is.  I then ask how many times they’ve been out with her and in many cases it’s less than 5 dates!

I teach in THE SYSTEM (which you can think of as a relationship dating education course) that you need at least 10 dates with NO RED FLAGS to start considering whether or not she can be your girlfriend or not – if you are less than 2 months/10 dates in you know NOTHING about her.

Your job in the first 10 dates is to understand she’s a stranger that you’re getting to know SLOWLY – and to never overrate anything you *think* she’s doing or how she is.  You really don’t know.

3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men - FOR MEN3 Great Pieces of Dating Advice From Men – FOR MEN #3:  Girls Just Want To Have Fun
You might have to use that Google thing for this as this song was from the 80’s but Cyndi Lauper sang a perfect song (Girls Just Want To Have Fun) to sum up how you should approach dating women – remember they just want to have fun!

They don’t care about:

*Your nasty divorce
*The hamster that ran away when you were 7
*Hearing about your toys
*How you get angry sometimes
*Your opinion of the next Presidential Election
*How you plan to rise up the corporate ladder

Keep this phrase in mind:  “Keep it light, keep it funny, no heavy subjects, no put downs.”

You are on a date – make sure to make her laugh and make her want another date.  It’s pretty tough to make her your girlfriend if you can’t make it from date 5 to 6, right?  The object of all of this is to keep her wanting more because if she’s having a tremendous time with you and keeps wishing that the dates would be longer and more frequent with you then she’s not going to pull out the dreaded “let’s be friends” speech.

During this whole time you’ll be vetting her of course.  Is she FLEXIBLE and GIVING or is she STRUCTURED and a TAKER.  Are there things you can’t deal with over the long term (IE, she smokes and you don’t like smoking), does she have integrity, is she kind?  All of these things you have to look for because it’s strange how date 1 can turn into 40 years – it’s important to really get to know her and that can only happen SLOWLY over time.

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Hey Doc, 

I am 22 years old and recently out of my first ever relationship, with a woman named Renee. I just stumbled on your work, but, sadly, a little too late.

We started dating five months ago and split up three weeks ago. The problem is the big difference in our characters. Renee is strong, ambitious, driven and very dominant, whereas I’m more passive and very submissive. It was clear that this was an area that needed work, and I applied myself to becoming a little more assertive. For the first two months every day was bliss. We moved in together very fast. The submissive side of me just yielded and went along with her choices in spite of my better judgment.

We were very excited about the future. Then Renee landed a new job with long hours, and the stress of her commute, a strained relationship with her stepfather, and my not handling it well culminated in her decision to break up. Renee felt that I’d lost my strength and that she felt burdened around me rather than relieved. I guess I became too needy with her and it turned into a habit.

That aside, after we talked it over she did mention that things might work out once she’s had time to sort herself out, to get away from her stressors, find stability in her own life and I’ve had some time to grow and work on my issues. It remained positive like this for a couple of weeks. Her plan was to move out, but she also hinted at us getting back together and still expressed her faith in the two of us having a future together. But I chose to be a little more assertive and told her that this plan wouldn’t work for me so soon and that I needed more time. We parted on a good note and she moved out, but the next morning I received a long message from her telling me she didn’t want me to wait for her and how we were not going to work out and that it was over.

Since then I’ve caught several glimpses of Renee on social media platforms. She seems to be doing well, and she’s happy with her new male friends. It hurts like hell, but I know I should be happy for her. 

Doc, is there a chance that I could win her back, and if so, what approach should I take?

Jordan – who thinks he made a mistake by not going along with her plan

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Hi Jordan, 

Every guy who gets my book tells me that they should have gotten it a long time ago. But you haven’t even mentioned that you’re getting it, which makes you an extra sad case. What are you waiting for, man? 

You and Renee didn’t split up. She dropped you. To you Psych majors, one person always drops the other person in a relationship. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 51% to 49% at exactly the same time for both people in a romantic relationship. 

Regarding the differences in your characters, you should be flexible once in a while in the relationship. But when you’re submissive, and you’re with a woman who dominates, there’s no way she can respect you over time. Interest Level is built on the man having a backbone and the woman having respect for him because he can stand up for himself once in a while. 


Jordan, you can’t apply yourself to becoming more assertive because you don’t know even how to be a manly man without “The System.” Moving in with Renee very quickly because she wanted to do it was a huge, huge mistake. You didn’t know this woman for one thing, and for another you admit that you’re a wimp. Therefore it was a recipe for disaster. And like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “I don’t think you have a submissive side, my son. Both of your sides are submissive.” 

Renee’s long hours and relationship with her stepfather have nothing whatsoever to do with breaking you and her up. The fact that you can’t handle anything does. So you’re just looking for excuses here, dude. It’s called rationalizing. 

When a woman feels burdened by a man, the queen becomes the king. And once that happens, she becomes BORED. Your neediness became a habit because you’re a needy person by nature. That’s what being submissive means. 


Things are NOT going to work between you two. When Renee told you they might, it was the old “get lost-false hope” pitch. All of Renee’s problems might eventually disappear, but without memorizing my book you’ll never grow, Jordan, and she’s never going to have any respect for you. Like my cousin General Love says, “You’ll stay stunted as a man.” But she insisted that you might have a future together. And the sad part is that you believed her. 

But you did tell Renee that you needed a little more time before going along with her new plan. Finally, you showed her that you had a little bit of a backbone, Jordan! I’m shocked! 

You didn’t part on a good note. Renee parted on a good note because she’s getting out, but it’s a bad note for you because you think she’s actually going to come back! 

Now you’ve made sightings of Renee with all of her new boyfriends and you feel guilty because you’re not happy for her. Buddy, you should be sad for yourself because you didn’t get “The System” and study it and you could have saved this thing. 

The odds of you winning Renee back are about the same as getting struck by lightning. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “It ain’t gonna happen.” 

Remember, guys: men who are submissive are boring.


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3 MUST HAVE Strategies To Be Successful In Meeting Single Women Online

Time to throw a statistic at you – about one in five relationships start online so if you’re considering meeting single women online then you aren’t alone and it’s only getting bigger.  These aren’t the newspaper personals from the dark and distant past – online dating is rapidly becoming the mode that busy single folks are using to meet other singles.

To maximize your chances in meeting and keeping Ms. Right I’ve outlined 3 strategies you can use right now so you get the maximum amount of attention for yourself.

Forget about the selfies – forget about the bathroom pic – and don’t ever do a shirtless photo.  You want two professional shots (yes, it will cost you but it’s worth it to stand out from the other guys you’re competing against).  Professional photo one should be in business attire while the second features you in more casual clothes.  A professional photographer will make sure to put you in the best lighting, suggest clothes that bring out the best in you and help pose you for maximum results.  They are professionals at “getting your good side” so hire them and pay them.

You are up against hundreds if not thousands of other guys (depending on your city size) and with a millisecond click of the mouse she can be onto the next profile.  Make sure yours stands out and you put your best foot forward so that she stops and thinks “who’s that?”

When I’m giving dating and relationship advice to men via my website and books I always tell them to be a MYSTERY – in other words don’t let everything about yourself hang out there. Getting two professional photographs is only half the battle – you have to then say enough on your profile to interest her without giving her the world.  Remember, you’re a mouse click from failure so don’t give her a reason to click to the next guy and forget you.

Don’t ever talk about negatives – she doesn’t care that you couldn’t get the parakeet to say your name when you were five.  Don’t write a book – if it looks like it’s going to be too much for her to read then she probably won’t read it – get to your point quickly.  Don’t write a laundry list of what you’re looking for and never brag.  Really you should write something along these lines:

I’m looking for a self-reliant woman that would like to get to know me slowly over coffee – I promise to make you laugh a few times, I won’t text you 10,000,000 times after our first meeting and I understand the concept of opening your door.

You see where I’m building this?  You want her to be attracted to you via your great photos in strategy one and then when she’s intrigued enough to read about you make sure you give her enough that she’s interested but not too much that she writes you off.

Remember this concept in online dating – NOTHING HAPPENS IN CYBERSPACE except for you to move it to the real world ASAP.  You cannot date her online and you’re not looking for an email pal – you want to move along to get her out with you as soon as you can to see if you have actual chemistry with her.

3 MUST HAVE Strategies To Be Successful In Meeting Single Women Online

All of this is great but it is likely you will be contacting the ladies yourself – although sometimes if they’re REALLY INTERESTED they contact you first – that’s always a good position to be in. Regardless your strategy should always be to make her comfortable enough to meet you – that means to:

*Never be creepy – don’t talk about sex, how hot she is, etc. etc.
*Instead, talk about her interests, what she likes, her hobbies, anything where you meet her on an intellectual level
*Don’t be afraid to be humorous with her – don’t force it but if something she says in an email or her profile strikes you as funny, go with it
*Get a meeting with her after about 3-4 emails back and forth – and don’t email her continuously for weeks on end – you need to move this to the real world ASAP

The bottom line is that you want to get her comfortable enough with you to meet you for coffee or a drink – and always be very respectful when asking.  You don’t ever want to creep her out because again, you’re a mouse click from getting flushed!

 After building some rapport with her be direct when asking to meet her:

 Let’s see if we have real world chemistry – you open to meeting for an hour at <NAME POPULAR COFFEE SHOP/RESTAURANT/BAR HERE – SOMETHING EVERYONE IN YOUR TOWN KNOWS AND IS COMFORTABLE WITH>.  I promise to make you laugh a few times!

If she doesn’t want to meet, freaks out, makes an excuse then get used to saying the word NEXT in your head – just as there are hundreds if not thousands of guys that YOU’RE up against you have to flip the script and think “she’s up against hundreds if not thousands of other women vying for MY attention.”

If you employ the strategies above you’ll be that much closer to meeting and keeping Ms. Right

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Three Great Ways To Meet Single Women Free NOW

Looking to meet single women free?  I have 3 great strategies for you but keep in mind that while you can MEET her for free you can’t keep her without spending a little dough.  Dating can be expensive but don’t worry, I have a solution for you to cut your costs in dating that’s truly free at the end of the article.

Dating websites that are free like Plenty of Fish or the Smartphone app Tinder offer no cost platforms to meet tons of single ladies – and I’m sure if you dig around you can find more – but those are two of the more popular ones that I hear guys talking about.  Depending on your city size there are hundreds if not thousands of eligible females waiting for you virtually and you don’t have to guess if they’re looking for a guy or not because most of them consciously put their information on the Plenty of Fish or Tinder because they’re single and looking.

The drawback to these “freebie” dating platforms is the volume of guys that can send messages – and women generally get more messages than guys anyway – so you are up against any dude that has a computer and/or a Smartphone like yourself!  If you want to stand out from the other men then get some dating and relationship advice from me that has changed the lives of thousands around the world.

There are a ton of free events and seminars in your town so cruise around and look for them – plus the bonus is that you’ll probably learn something you’re interested in.  It could be a free outdoor concert, wandering around a free day at the museum, a seminar at a college, etc. – there are just a ton of events going on anymore and you should take advantage of these because most likely women will be in attendance.

The nice thing is that if you truly have an interest in whatever is going on at the event there is already commonality that you can use to strike up a conversation.  I always teach guys in my dating and relationship education course that it is much better to be in an environment that’s non-threatening and have things to talk about – such as a wedding – where people’s guards are down and you can meet in a non-pressure way.

The bonus if you start dating her?  You’ll be able to go to more events like the one you met at and have some built in date ideas!

Look around – there are women everywhere!  Don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation at the bank, grocery store, or while you’re waiting for your oil to get changed.  Make sure, however, to talk naturally with her though.  I would give you the same advice that I did in strategy two where you try to talk about something you have in common – except instead of speaking about the presentation you just heard, you’ll bring up something related to the environment you’re in.

For example, say your both in the waiting area at the oil change place and it’s taking a long time for your cars to get done or some guy was acting goofy at the counter or the weekend is supposed to be nice in your city – whatever – just find something that makes sense as to what’s going on around you at that moment.

Remember not to be creepy! You’re not going to strike up a conversation to talk about her body parts or how attractive you find her or anything else that puts pressure on her as if you’re trying to get a date with her. YES, I know that’s what you’re trying to do but just come at her naturally with the conversation – if she really likes you and is not hooked up she’ll be amiable to your charms – if not it was just a 5 minute conversation before you paid for your oil change – no biggie!

Guys these days think you have to spend a ton of money on dating and I’m here to tell you that you need to follow a strategy so that you truly make sure she’s interested before pulling out your Visa Card for the Surf & Turf.  If you take my 7-day free trial at the hyper-popular Doc Love Club that gets you over 90 hours of audio and articles for members only then you’ll see that by following MY SYSTEM you will weed out the time wasters that want to burn your money and only spend your precious money and time on Ms. Right.  Not sure what my SYSTEM is?  That’s okay – when you take the 7-day free trial you’ll get 8 FREE chapters (out of 176) to my SYSTEM Audio Book – and it’s all FREE!

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Three Must Have Tips On Dating Women!

The world of dating is confusing to a lot of guys – and most of you are pretty good at it but you could use some tweaks.  Hey, even a plane flying cross country has to keep making adjustments so that it doesn’t take a bunch of folks looking to enjoy a Vegas Vacation and end up depositing them somewhere in Oregon.

What are the adjustments you need to make so that you end up as her boyfriend (and more) instead of getting the dreaded “let’s just be friends” speech -and doesn’t that USUALLY happen after you’ve dinged your Visa to the point that Morgan Freeman shows up on your doorstep and thanks you for buying enough to extend his commercial contract another few years!

Pretty callous right?  I don’t care how you feel guy – we’re men and our feelings don’t count when it comes to dating women.  Why?  It’s assumed that you’re not an idiot and that you actually asked a girl out that you like and it doesn’t matter how much you like her.  Many men project their own feelings onto the lady assuming that since they like her so much she will like you back equally – but it doesn’t work that way.

Welcome to the concept of FEMALE INTEREST LEVEL.  INTEREST LEVEL itself is a degree of love – anything below 50% is the “let’s be friends” speech and 100% is her robbing banks for you (not really but you get the point).

Again, I assume your INTEREST LEVEL is high so what matters is her INTEREST LEVEL – you have to be able to look for signs that she has at least 51% INTEREST LEVEL in you (which I teach guys to do in what you could call my “relationship dating education course” called THE SYSTEM).

If HER INTEREST LEVEL isn’t 51% or higher then you have no shot and Mr. Freeman is warming up his golden pipes in anticipation of all the money you’ll waste on his employer.

If going rapidly in dating really worked then why not wander up to women on the street with a ring in your pocket bending down on one knee to the first girl that locks eyes with you.  Try that a few times and then when you get sick of having the sheriff haul you off then I have a better idea for you.

Listen, I’m being ridiculous up there to make a point – guys these days roll so FAST.  I think it’s because of our go-go-go-GOOOOOOOOOOO  society where your updates come to you in 6 second videos or 140 characters – we’re used to instantaneously getting – well, pretty much EVERYTHING.

However, the “mating dance” hasn’t changed in thousands of years – so be aware of what she needs and your role in it.

What is the “mating dance” I refer to?  The female of the species has being getting pursued by the male of the species forever and holds the REJECTION CARD.  You know the one where she either outright tells you no or “just can’t see you until the Cleveland Browns win a Super Bowl” (in other words – a LONG TIME).

When you think about it, that REJECTION CARD can appear any time – from the time you get the courage to walk up to her, to calling her, to setting a date, to picking her up, and then rinsing and repeating – at any time during that period she can just say TIME OUT – YOU’RE OUT.  Why?  Because you’re always ASKING!




She’s like one of those old time stereotypical CEO’s in those grainy black and white movies where the worker is coming to beg for a penny a year raise and gets glared at – she can flush you at anytime.

Before you pull your hair out or explode – I have a solution to this – YOU FLIP THE SCRIPT ON HER.  MOST EVERY GUY calls within a day or two (sometimes an hour or two) so you wait 5-9 days and do many other things that I teach that will set you apart from all the other guys just waiting to have a rejection card dropped on them like your average NFL DB is looking for the flag after he looks at a WR the wrong way.

The bottom line is you blunt THE REJECTION CARD by going in slower than the other guys and being a bit of a mystery to her because no other guy does that.

I could break this tip down to the don’ts – namely DON’T talk about your problems, DON’T talk about your exes, DON’T talk about the trike that broke when you were 3 (and caused you to be in therapy until your teenage acne attack caused more angst), DON’T stare at the waitresses….ANYTHING (even if she is hotter than your date), DON’T ask for the next date during the date, DON’T talk about the future, DON’T reveal how much you like her, DON’T dominate the conversation (let her talk mostly), DON’T let the date go on too long (let her want more) and DON’T put your mitts on her or get in her space.

All you care about is that she laughs a lot, feels respected and is hungry for another date with you because she can’t quite figure you out or where you’re coming from.  She’s pretty must used to guys tripping over themselves trying to make her the girlfriend and you’re going to be different – YOU’RE GOING TO BE A MYSTERY AND A CHALLENGE if you allow me to train you.

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“Why Can’t I Find A Girlfriend?” 3 Possible Reasons Why

"Why Can't I Find A Girlfriend?" 3 Possible Reasons WhyIf you ever asked yourself the question “why can’t I find a girlfriend” then you are asking something many guys have grappled with but the key is to not let it paralyze you.  If you let it your brain will come up with all sorts of negative reasons why.  If you ask that question and then start to answer “Because I’m too <fat, skinny, tall, short, smart, dumb, etc., etc.>” then you’ve already set yourself up for failure.

The better thing to do is start with YOU – finding a girlfriend doesn’t begin with her – it is all about what you bring to the table.  I teach guys that they have to be the type of guy she wants to be with – in other words you attract what you become.

Keeping that in mind, here are 3 possible reasons why you’re struggling:

"Why Can't I Find A Girlfriend?" 3 Possible Reasons WhyReason #1:  You Don’t Pay Enough Attention To The Image You Present
If you want a classy lady you can go long-term with you have to be a classy guy.  Yes, yes, I know you’ve seen beautiful women with what you consider to be dirtbags but take that out of your skull – you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors in their relationship and just because she’s beautiful and articulate doesn’t mean she isn’t a dirtbag either.  I teach guys to look for FLEXIBLE GIVERS THAT ARE KIND AND GENTLE (you can get more in my relationship advice column weekly found on my blog).

If you want to attract a lady like that pay attention to your teeth (FIX THEM if they’re bad), your clothes, and the way you groom yourself (growing a forest out of your nose? get out the chainsaw – err, nose clippers).

Beyond your physical appearance do you pay attention to the way you speak to women?  Do you have a light and funny demeanor or are you Mr. Serious or even Mr. Angry?  Remember that she’ll be attracted to the way you look (so look the best you can) but also if you’re what SHE considers a DIRTBAG then you have no shot.

"Why Can't I Find A Girlfriend?" 3 Possible Reasons WhyReason #2:  You’re Too Needy (Or Too Macho)
FLEXIBLE GIVERS don’t want a guy up in their grills (texting her 3 minutes after you get her number, sending flowers the next day, calling all the time) nor do they want a caveman that thinks he owns her.  Women want a GENTLEMAN – the perfect mix of Mr. Sensitive and Mr. Cro-Magnon.  You also have to learn how to be a CHALLENGE because women, whether they like to admit it or not, love the chase.

Reason #3:  You Start Out Strong And Finish Weak
Everything was going GREAT for the first few months or so and then bam – once again you’re out in the cold.  Why?  In many cases it’s because the guy thinks he can relax once he’s got her. First of all UNTIL SHE’S YOUR GIRLFRIEND COUNT ON NOTHING WHEN IT COMES TO HER.  I don’t care if you’ve had 8 dates with her and you think she’s the greatest thing going since the networks decided to show football nearly all week long – she is a STRANGER until you really vet her out.

I see so many guys OVERRATE her feelings towards them just because they’re attracted to her and she *seems* like a good girl.  I teach guys to go SLOWLY and really make sure she has long-term potential.

Assuming that you found a long-term potential candidate – and I assure you that if you’re reading my materials for the first time your definition of what constitutes long-term potential is much different from mine (due to all the brainwashing in your head from the major media and Hollywood) – don’t veer from what got her.

So many guys start out one way with the girl and think they can “relax and be themselves” once she’s showing signs of being into you (or if she’s your girlfriend).


Remember this – ROMANTIC LOVE IS CONDITIONAL – if you want her long-term you must start out strong and stay strong – for, say, about 40 years (or however long you’re together).

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Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50

Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50 -It seems like all the dating tips for men are geared to the younger dudes – what about dating tips for men over 40 or dating tips for men over 50?  The principles I’m about to give you are good for any age but your strategy has to be a bit different because your pool of available women without scars and baggage has decreased.

Let’s take for example when you were in your teens and 20’s – you likely knew a lot of single women that just wanted to have fun and it seemed like there was a lot of them around because if you’re like a typical guy there were.  Now that you’re dating in your 40’s and 50’s you are likely seeing the same faces at work, at the gym and during your favorite happy hour stops and the women you are seeing could be unavailable, bitter or have baggage – that’s not to say that every woman is like that but just like you have buddies that have joined the “he man woman haters club” due to a bad experience, there are women like that too.

The paragraph above basically says that your options shrink as you get older plus if you’re like most folks in today’s economy your time has shrunk too (but if you’re a successful guy who has retired in your 40’s or 50’s – bravo – you’ll have more time to implement the strategies below – and if you have limited time – well, the strategies are just for you).

As a guy dating over 40 or 50 you have to be very efficient in your search.  First of all if you’re not finding the right women for you right now then STOP doing what you’re doing.  Running into the same faces over and over again?  Then it’s time to change up your routine.

Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50 -Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50 – Tip # 1:   Get online ASAP
At this point in the article you could call it “online dating tips for men” because I’m going to tell you to go online for maximum efficiency.  If you’re a guy over 40 or 50 you can remember a time when the personal ads were in a newspaper (younger guys reading this can’t fathom what a personal ad is and they’re rapidly having trouble with what a newspaper is).  Do you recall how you felt about guys you heard were using personal ads?  Yeah, I bet it wasn’t flattering.  TAKE ALL THAT OUT OF YOUR HEAD because online dating is not the personal ads moved online – it’s a way for you to efficiently get through hundreds (depending on your city) eligible women in an afternoon.

One out of five relationships start online and the number is only growing.  You have Match.com, eHarmony, Date.com, Zoosk, an app for your smartphone called Tinder and so much more.  My #1 recommendation of a dating tip for men over 40 and 50 is to get online.

Call my dating women radio show  if you want advice from me on this – I take calls every Wednesday from 5:00 p.m. – 6:00 p.m. PT / 8:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. ET

Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50 – Tip #2:  Speed dating
The other thing I suggest is speed dating – if you’re not sure what speed dating is just plug that into your favorite search engine.  You get anywhere from 3-8 minutes with a lady in your age range before you move onto the next one – if you both like each other then the organizer of the event (usually held in a nice bar/restaurant) will give each of you the contact information of the other and then it’s on you.

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Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50 – Tip #3: Think like a great salesperson
You see where I’m going with all of this?  Why do you think I suggest online dating and speed dating as my 2 best ways to meet women efficiently?  Because my dating tips for men are always sales-based.  You want as many QUALITY LEADS as you can get – like if you were selling cars.  You wouldn’t want to get in front of a bunch of people that have just signed an auto lease or those that had terrible credit, right?  You want to be in front of as many people as you can that have the means to buy now and are ready to buy now.

Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50When you do online dating and speed dating at least you know the women there are “ready to buy” – like you they’re online or at the speed dating event because they’re looking for a relationship (or at least some of them are).

Of course all the leads in the world won’t matter if you blow them – finding where to meet women open to a relationship is one thing but making sure you go out with them and then figuring out which ones are right for you is another.

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From time to time I like to publish a good “you changed my life” letter and we will cover this on tonight’s (1/16/14) www.datingwomenradioshow.com so tune in at 4:00 p.m. PT/7:00 p.m. ET

In his own words….

Hi Doc, 

I started reading your articles back in 2006, but I was young and stupid and did not buy your book until 2011.  After years of failed relationships, heartbreak, wasted time, money, and emotion, I put my ego aside and realized that I needed real help. 

Your book and radio shows changed my life. 

I’m a fairly good looking guy.  I’m confident, have a good job, am a gentleman, and a have a golden retriever.  But I went through life dating whoever I found attractive and happened to like me back without much thought to anything else.  You showed me how I could raise my standards and what qualities I needed to find to make a lasting happy relationship.  

I had confidence down, but you taught me the importance of (self) CONTROL and CHALLENGE

Thanks to The System, I found the love of my life.  We met at the young adult group at my church.  Prior to learning your System, instead of asking for her number, I would have hung out around her for a few months hoping to get a hint whether or not she liked me first before maybe asking her to “hang out.”  Instead, I confidently asked for her number, waited 7 days, asked her out, and won her over with charm and confidence in person on the date.  

Also, before learning The System, I would have texted her in between dates.  My (now) wife says that it drove her nuts in between dates that I didn’t text her, but at the same time, she loved it.  She says not texting told her that I was secure in my self and that I had a life of my own.  Also, it added MYSTERY.  Let me be clear, I am NOT a naturally mysterious man.  But this simple bit of self-control made me seem like a mysterious man, which upped her Interest Level

Also, she was ready to say the “L” word after about 4 months of dating, but I didn’t give in.  I saved it for the day I proposed.  She says that because I waited to say it at such an important time and made her wait, that made her respect me even more. 

Additionally, I never pushed the physical boundaries of the relationship.  We discussed our boundaries early and established that sex is for marriage.  The fact that I didn’t just say it and had the self-CONTROL to do it, made her respect and love me even more. 

Also, she thinks my corny jokes are hilarious. (They aren’t that funny, but she thinks they are.)  Humor, as you say, is absolutely the GLUE of our relationship. 

On top of all of this, she is a flexible giver.  Every morning she wakes up and makes my morning cappuccino and breakfast while I get dressed for work even though she doesn’t have to get up for another 2 hours.  She lets me lead and actively wants to learn more about the things I am interested in, even if it’s something she never had previous interest in, like football and baseball. 

Not to mention, she is absolutely drop dead gorgeous.  If we have daughters, I am going to have to keep an eye on them and train them to only date “System” guys. 

Coming from a family with a strong history of divorce, I am confident in saying that I will be the one who breaks the chain.  I am confident in this because of two things:  my faith and the “System.” 

I may have been able to find her, but I never would have been able to KEEP her without you, Jeff, and the “System.” 

Once again, THANK YOU. 


Austin, TX


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