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Hey Doc,

I have read your book again and again whenever I feel something is wrong with a girl I’m going out with. I just want to say that your book is GOLD! When I read your book, I realized that I had been living my life as a WIMP! A pushover and a stooge! But I’m doing my best to improve day by day.

So here’s my story. The woman’s name is Caroline – she’s hot, funny and she’s a little bit older than me. I’m 25 and she’s…38. She’s a single mom and has a kid. Anyway, we work at the same office but on different floors. I don’t know how I pulled it off, but I asked her out for ice cream and she agreed, and we have been going out on a weekly basis ever since.

As you said in your book, always keep things light and funny, always make her laugh, and no emotional garbage. But Caroline is the one to talk about her past, so I don’t know what else to do but listen. We have been going out for five months now, and her questions to me are getting more and more personal (awkward questions too) and she often asks me to tell her more about myself, but I feel like I’ve already told her everything. And she has compared me to her ex, which is weird.

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If I don’t ask her out, Caroline does the initiating. You said no group dates, but I screwed that one up. She asked me if she could bring her son along once and I said okay. Being with her son made me feel like I was “Dad” or something. It was kind of awkward.

After a date I always give Caroline a kiss on the cheek. I can’t bring myself to kiss her on the lips, but I think she’s fine with it. From what I can see, she is a Flexible Giver. She cooks for me once in a while. She has Integrity, but once a month she and her kid have to meet with the biological father, just so the kid can see his dad. She did say that she was only doing it for the kid and nothing more.

Am I on the right track with Caroline? Or am I not seeing something here? Doc, please give me an assessment. What more do I need to do? Do we just keep going out until something happens?

Truman – who still has lots to learn

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Hi Truman,

Instead of picking up “The System” and reading it when you’re having trouble with a girl, you should read seven pages a night before you go to sleep. If you do that, you’ll end up reading the book once a month. Don’t go to it only when you have a problem – always be in the book and have the book inside your head.

On the other hand, look at how much you’ve learned so far. You’ve realized how you’ve been coming across to women, and you now see what changes need to made in order to improve. Most men don’t have the foresight and guts to do even that.

Dude, Caroline is NOT a “little” bit older than you. She’s a LOT older than you. If she were 28 I’d say she was a “little” older than you. She could and should be dating guys 45 to 50 years old. So why are you trying to change the reality of the numbers? In addition, she has 10 years lead time on you because romantic love is the woman’s turf. So in reality you’re going out with a 48-year-old — someone almost twice as old as you.

When Caroline talks about her past, ask her questions. Don’t just be a “yes man.” You have to show interest in her because she has the ability to hurt your heart. And if you feel like you’ve told her everything there is to know about your 25 years on earth, just repeat yourself. That’s all you have to do. Regarding her ex, all women COMPARE. But they hate to be compared to other females. Ironic, isn’t it?

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You should have turned Caroline down when she wanted to include her son in your date. It was too soon to meet her kid. To you Psych majors, you should have at least six months in with a woman before you meet her children and you’re already mumbling about marriage or where your relationship might be going. But if you have to see her kid, just play “Uncle Truman.” You’re not his dad and you don’t have to be his dad.

But something else you have to realize is that when you get Caroline, you’re really getting TWO people – her and her kid. And when you’re 37, she’s going to be 50. She’ll not only be older, she’ll be a lot older looking than you. So that’s also going to be factor, as well as the fact that you’re going to be raising someone else’s kid. And what about if she want kids with you who will be half-siblings to her son? Is this what you really want, Truman?

Now let me get this straight. You’ve been going out with Caroline for five months and you haven’t kissed her on the lips yet? Doesn’t she ever ask you why? And she just goes along with this? Don’t you think it’s strange that you’ve been going with someone for 150 days and you’re afraid to kiss her on the mouth? Something’s not right here. It says in my book that on the second date you have to kiss the girl on the lips, and you’re not doing it. You say you read “The System” from time to time, but you don’t have it memorized, otherwise you wouldn’t be acting like this.

Of course Caroline’s only seeing her ex on account of her kid. She doesn’t dig her ex – she got rid of him. Have you ever asked why and what he did wrong?

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My friend, I think you’re getting in over your head with Caroline. You should be going out with women between the ages of 22 and 25. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “You’re a generation removed from this woman.” And given that age difference, maybe she doesn’t want any more kids and you’ll want your own.

What you need to do is memorize my book. You haven’t read it once a week for 15 weeks like you’re supposed to – if you had, you’d be kissing Caroline on the mouth. And I don’t like that she’s brought her kid around you. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “He’s going to get mixed up about who his old man is.”

On the surface it looks as if you and Caroline get along, but I see your age difference becoming a huge problem down the road.

Remember, guys: when you’re young, date women who are younger than you.

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Dating Single Women – 3 Types To Avoid

What’s that old proverb – a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step – or something to that effect. Well, a 40-year relationship can start with a single date. Will it be a relationship that is fun and enhances your life well into the regular Social Security payment years or will you feel as if you got locked in a prison cell with a crazy, vindictive guard?

I can tell you that taking any of the 3 types of women below seriously for a relationship is akin to driving drunk with your lights off towards a DUI checkpoint – you’re asking for trouble and will be going away for a long time!

Dating Single Women#1: The Easy Crier/Drama Queen

Listen, if her dog died or if her career blew up or some other serious thing happened to her, of course she’ll cry – but I’m speaking of the woman that has tears for every single little thing in her life. We had a caller on my Dating Women Radio Show a little while back that blubbered when he called her out for going running with a dude and not bothering to tell him! Really? She hides the fact that she’s going running with a guy because of course she knew her boyfriend would have an issue with it and then when busted the tears flowed like Niagara Falls!

In the dating relationship education course I teach called THE SYSTEM there’s a chapter in there called “Actress” that basically states that some women know how to manipulate guys via different methods – tears being one of them.

The “crier/drama queen” seems like a sensitive, sweet girl but she’s really a control freak trying to get her way via emotional control of you. Instead of having a real deal debate about issues she goes into waterworks mode ending any discussion other than the option that let’s her get her way.

Oh, there is one more possibility – she may not be a control freak – she might just have serious mental problems.

Either way, have fun for the next 40 years guy!

Dating Single Women#2: The Blogger Personality

She may not be a blogger per se but her whole life is lived on social media – her status updates are fast and furious about EVERYTHING and she just doesn’t have a few photos – she’s got THOUSANDS. Are you ready to have your life – especially your private life with her – put on blast for the whole world to see every single stinking minute?

It’s all cute when she’s putting up photos of you two kissing on date 5 with a nice little caption that says “back off girls, he’s mine” but on year 7 when she calls you out to 3,500 “loyal” followers for letting the dog walk in with poop on his paws, then the dew will be off the rose.

I know privacy is out the window in our ever increasing connected world and you know I’m not an out of touch technology guy – I myself have a blog, YouTube account, Twitter followers, a Facebook business account, email newsletter, a membership site and oh yes, my regular site, but that still doesn’t mean that DISCRETION can’t be followed for some things – like your deeply personal relationships.

You can’t easily keep your private life private anymore but you can do things to exacerbate the situation – like offering up EVERYTHING to EVERYONE when there are still some things that aren’t necessary for the world to know – like the intimate details of your relationship that should be between you and her – however it’s not going to be!

Dating Single Women#3: Superficial Friends

If she tells you she has a big group of “besties” then RUN. I’m not saying she’s not allowed to have friends – but if she counts this huge group of people as her “best friends” then look out (and sometimes dudes are in the mix too with that whole wolf’s in sheep clothing thing – pretending to be buds with a hidden agenda).

Just like with the “blogger woman” your relationship is going to be analyzed, dissected, approved, disapproved, re-approved, talked about, and then talked about some more with the group. If she states to you that “this group is SO IMPORTANT to me” then you have signed up to be a part of that group and have them sanction your relationship – which will not be just for you and her – but for every Tom, Dick, Harry, Sally, Jennifer and Megan that she hangs with.

Given a choice between 40 years with her and her group and one room in a remote cabin, then I’m off to the hardware store to see if they sell bear traps! Seriously, I don’t need to sign up for an instant social circle that I not only am now automatically obligated to hang with but has to approve of me for her – and basically that’s what she’s saying when she tells you early on that “my friends mean everything to me” – or some kind of variation.

The real girl you want to end up with has a few good friends and has no need to get ANYONE’S approval to be with you – and she’d rather get a root canal with no shot before spilling ANY part of her private life with you to ANYONE.

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Dating Single Women – 3 Things You Don’t Know But Should

Dating in the 2010’s is more complex and complicated than ever – and single women have more options than ever – but I’m going to give you a mix of Smartphone technology with rotary phone common sense (remember those? if not, hit up Google!) to tell you 3 things that you need to know when approaching and trying to date these elusive ladies!

Dating Single Women#1: They Don’t ‘Need’ A Man But Many Still ‘Want’ A Man

Women are making more money than ever, are gaining more and more economic freedom and many are at the top levels of our society in terms of money, power and prestige. I’m all for this and have zero issue with career women or ladies that make it happen to keep the US Economy rolling. It’s not 1955 where she has little options beyond the secretarial pool and it totally dependent on finding a man – and again, this is a good thing.

However, economics meets biology and there are still a lot of ladies out there that want a REAL man to come home to – just as you want a kind, flexible and giving woman to come home to.

It’s easy to take those snippets of women that get the headlines looking for a sperm donor so they don’t have to end up with a guy but the reason they make the “what’s trending” part of your news feed is because I believe they’re the exception rather than the rule – there are still a lot of great women out there that are smart, motivated, kind, flexible, giving and yes, they want you – as long as you’re a strong gentleman that is strong enough to say no once in a while but secure enough to be sensitive too (at the right times).

Today’s lady wants a mixture of Cro-Magnon man that also has a softer, intelligent side – just like it’s been since the dawn of time!

Dating Single Women#2: You Don’t Have To Be Anything But Yourself – The Best Version Of Yourself

Today’s woman is more smart and motivated than ever so the lady you really want to end up with (the one I described above) is not going to fall for lines or BS. Oh sure, I’m not naive – I know there are the “players” out there that have the Handsome Harry looks and prowl the clubs looking for their next conquest but I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT ONE NIGHT STANDS HERE – I’m talking about building a real relationship (by the way, I’m not making a moral judgment on the one night stand guys – I’m just stating that the focus of what I teach is on long-term relationships).

If you’re really going to interest the woman that you should end up with then be yourself – don’t be a line machine – but also be the BEST version of yourself. If “yourself” is to not dress well, have bad teeth, not groom yourself, be uptight, or any other bad qualities, then you need to clean those up.

Before you get all over me saying that “I don’t want a superficial woman” then slow your roll right there – NEWS FLASH – were all superficial with our initial attraction.

She’ll never get to know the real you if she’s turned off by your 45 degree angled front tooth – just like you wouldn’t like her if you were attracted to athletic women and she happened to be morbidly obese – we like what we like and women are no different.

So, be you – don’t try to be the next guy – but be the best you that you can be and remember to always TALK to her intelligently and REALLY LISTEN. Dating single women in the 2010’s is a marathon and not a sprint – you want to get to know her over time because you might be spending 40 years with her tough guy!

Dating Single Women#3: She’s Got The New School Toys & The Old School Brain

She might have all the latest gadgets, can make your head spin about all sorts of stuff that she does in her career and have an outwardly impressive appearance (because who else would you be attracted to?) but the old laws of dating that have been around since Oog was trying to impress the future Mrs. Oog with his Mastadon kill still apply.

My dating and relationship course entitled THE SYSTEM gives you A TON OF STRATEGIES but just keep this in mind to start you on the road to success: Do not rush into rejection.

Women these days are more impressive than ever and many men think they have to over-sell, over-communicate and keep in her face – but back to prehistoric days she doesn’t want a guy that hasn’t had a date in 10 years – and that’s how you’ll come across if you’re trying to text, tweet, Snapchat and Facebook 43x in the first 3 dates. SLOW down and let her get to know you. If she’s really interested in you then she can’t be rejecting you as long as you let her come to you. Believe me when I tell you that she’ll let you know if she’s into you because women help you when they like you.

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Dating Tips For Men – 3 Things Men Think They Should Do – BUT SHOULDN’T

If you want a chance with Ms. Right, then there are 3 things you should avoid. It’s really easy to do what I’m about to lay out below because common sense has gone out the window as more and more guys are taking their advice from female-oriented love doctors, major media, movies and more sources that have no idea what to tell a real man that’s looking for a good woman in his life. It’s amazing to me that not more folks come at this from the male point of view but it’s almost as if guys have become an afterthought when some of these “dating gurus” start spouting their brainwashing and nonsense.

If you want real talk for real guys then keep on reading – because you have to avoid the 3 C’s early on to have a shot with her – “compliments, candy and communication.”

Dating Tips For Men#1: Avoid Compliments

If she’s attractive, and of course she is since you’re pursuing her, then she’s been told how beautiful she is from an early age – and she’s either tired of it or it’s not going to have any impact on her if you’re the one saying it for the 56,789th time in her life. Even worse than that? Telling her how kind, nice, intelligent, wonderful, etc., she is on date 1 – because she’s a stranger to you and her BS meter will be firing when you’re gushing over her brains before the dessert arrives. She’ll smile, laugh and thank you on the outside while on the inside think you’re a huge phony because you don’t know her at all.

If compliments really worked then shouldn’t you just wander up to women on the street and compliment them say 100x until they marry you? Wait, maybe it’s 150? 200? I forget what the magic number of laying it on thick is – the compliment to relationship ratio if you will.

There is no ratio simply because compliments don’t work – it’s the base level of what every guy tries to do but I’m here to tell you that you’re not on a game show entitled “Kissing Up To Get The Girl” so just tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and that you had a fun time when dropping her off . You’ll stand out from 90% of the guys she’s dated (and gotten rid of by the way!)

Dating Tips For Men#2: Avoid Candy

Just like compliments, gifts don’t work either (unless she’s a mercenary and then you can max out your Visa until she finds someone with more money and stupidity). Gifts can be candy, flowers, jewelry, or whatever else you have to pull $ out of your wallet for to give her JUST BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU HER # OR WENT OUT WITH YOU. Ugh – isn’t it enough that you had the courage to walk over to her, talk, get the #, arrange the date, pick her up AND pay? Now you have to show up with candy and flowers too? At least some guys think you do.

If candy and other gifts really worked then guys of less economic means would always lose out to guys with more – there would be no way to hook up unless you made six figures or more – only those guys that can FTD every other day have a chance of winning the heart of Ms. Right!

Of course, that’s ridiculous – there are good women out there that get into relationships with men because – and I know this is shocking – but because they actually like the dude and he makes them happy. Yes, yes, yes, there are those out there – the mercenaries – that are for sale to the highest bidder – but we’re avoiding those types anyway.

You cannot buy your way into the heart of a good girl – and in fact you’ll turn her off if you treat her in such a superficial way.

I’m all about giving her gifts and spoiling her – once she’s EARNED IT – so no candy or other trinkets of affection until she’s your girlfriend!

Dating Tips For Men#3: Avoid Communication

Think of yourself on a date where you say this sentence to her over and over again: “I like you, do you like me? I hope you like me because I really like you. Do you think you’ll keep liking me? ” I know that sounds absolutely absurd and ridiculous but when you communicate with her between dates – whether it’s texting, Facebook, the phone, Twitter, Snapchat, smoke signals or whatever then that’s exactly the message you’re getting across to Ms. Right.

Guys think they have to sell, sell, sell, and sell some more to knock the other guys out of the box that are pursuing her. So, after that great date you want to make sure she remembers you. You’ve heard that women like attention so it’s attention you’ll give! She can’t forget you and refuse to go out with you for the next date because you’ve made sure to hit her up multiple times since the last date.

You are selling her – on the idea of not going out with you again! Women want MYSTERY and a CHALLENGE. She had a fun time with you and now you’ve disappeared – she’s wondering if she’ll see you again and you’re not in her face so her feelings will grow for you. I know it sounds counter-intuitive but the ladies get more into a guy they’re not sure of and is not making it obvious they want to be her boyfriend.

I know from all the brainwashing you’ve gotten that you are probably saying “Doc, she’ll forget about me” or “I have to prove to her I like her more than the next guy that’s after her.” I understand where you’re coming from if you feel that way but you’re wrong – because you’ve done enough!

Remember YOU had to walk over to her and meet her, YOU had to ask for her #, YOU had to call her and ask for a date, YOU had to figure out where to go and pick her up and YOU had to pay – and now YOU have to repeat the process over and over again for the next few months until she MIGHT be your girlfriend (everything but the walk over and get the # part).

Isn’t it enough that you have to do all this work to show her a good time? Isn’t it enough that she can REJECT you at any time at any point? All the power lies with her and she knows it. You begin to even the balance of power by making sure she has fun and having her anticipate the next date, hoping it will happen because you’re not in her face making it obvious that it will.

Guys that lay back and let the woman come to them are much better off – because a good girl at some point will naturally want to see you more and start to chase you – and if she’s chasing you then she can’t be rejecting you!

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Does She Like Me? 3 Foolproof Ways To Tell!

I know the question of “does she like me?” has perplexed men since Adam was wandering around the garden but I’m here to tell you that it’s not as hard as it may seem – and if it hard at all then the answer to the question is NO. Guys want to take what is VERY SIMPLE and turn it into a complex paradigm and I think it’s because of the amount of brainwashing we are bombarded with in media, movies and modern culture. Somehow women’s interest in dating you has become this impossible problem that even Einstein couldn’t figure out – but it’s much more straightforward than that. Prepare to have your confusion lifted with the 3 foolproof ways to tell below!

Does She Like Me#1: It’s EASY To Talk To Her

I’m going to hit you with the bold capped italicized font here so this burns into your brain – please remember that WOMEN HELP YOU WHEN THEY LIKE YOU.

When she likes you then she wants to stay around you and talk, she doesn’t look away in boredom and somehow you just became a combination of Jimmy Fallon, Chris Rock and Louis C.K. all rolled into one because of how all your jokes are met with her guffaws and giggles (I wouldn’t advise taking your act on the road though – because the audience doesn’t find you as attractive as she does).

Get all that bad B movie brainwashing out of your head – the girl that started out hating you in real life ends up calling the cops if you keep pursuing her. Ending up with a harassment charge is much more likely than having one of those Hollywood endings where she realizes that you were the one for her (just before the credits and cheesy music roll).

In my dating education course called THE SYSTEM I teach you about the concept of female INTEREST LEVEL and how that drives her decisions for dating – if she doesn’t have it for you FROM THE BEGINNING then you are spinning your wheels and wasting time.

Does She Like Me#2: No Hesitation On The 7 Digits

You ask for her number and she punches it into your phone with NO hesitation. Period.

Oh, wait…you want more explanation than that?

Okay, I’ll expand on it and say the same thing in longer paragraph format – and I’m being purposely facetious here so you really get the concept as being as simple as it really sounds. You see, the male ego can’t believe that it just got turned down and puts up all sort of defenses such as “I caught her at a bad time” or “she really wanted to give me the number but it’s a tough time in her life” or “I’ll wear her down.”

Women that really like you give you the number right away – NO questions asked – when you ask for it. It should go something like this for you to tell if she’s into you:

“What’s your number?”

“555-402-5615″

Boom.

If you get a question to your question of “what’s your number” such as “why do you want that?” or “can I have your number instead?” then you have her confused with someone that you actually have a chance with.

Does She Like Me#3: It’s NEVER An Issue To Get Her On A Date

I’m not talking about getting her out on date 1 or date 3 or even date 15 – I’m telling you that EVERY single time you ask she is ready, willing and able to go out with you – and in fact she starts asking you out. You don’t have that nagging gut feeling of “does she really want to be out with me?” No, it’s obvious she wants to be out with you because she’s front and center every time you ask – or at least she’s making a counter-offer (such as you ask for a Wednesday but she has to work but immediately says “I can’t make it Wednesday but I’m free Thursday.”)

Guys mistakenly think that it’s got to be hard – and I blame Hollywood, the media, etc. for making dating into this ridiculously complex thing when it’s not. Women are portrayed at operating at a higher level than men so we think that we have to win them over and break them down as they play hard to get but the reason they’re hard to get is some of them don’t want to be gotten by the guy trying to get them! Ever see women at a concert – even adult, supposedly mature women – grasping at the star on stage? They’re just as human as us fellas – they know what they like and they go after what they like just as hard as we do.

Don’t let the brainwashing fool you – the woman that really wants to be with you is with you – she makes it easy – and if it’s not easy then there’s a simple reason – she doesn’t want it to be easy for you so move onto someone that will make it easy for you.

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Dating A Woman With Kids? 3 Things To Keep In Mind

We live in unprecedented times with many children being raised in single-parent households. I’m not here to make a social statement on this phenomenon but to give you some common sense coaching on what you need to keep in mind as a guy out there in the dating scene. My dating relationship education course entitled THE SYSTEM is designed from the man’s point of view and you cannot get information like this anywhere else – my approach is unique and protects your heart, wallet, time and most important your sanity.

Dating A Woman With Kids#1: Children Are The NUMBER ONE Priority

My materials are designed for long-term relationships and when you date a woman with kids then you have to accept the fact that raising her children will become a part of what you do as things progress in the relationship. There is nothing more important that we can do as humans than raise and protect our young. I know she looks really good in the skirt with her hair all done when you pick her up but remember behind all the smiles and fun is a woman that has a serious obligation in her life – and at some point that obligation will fall on you to share. Are you ready for it?

Dating A Woman With Kids#2: Baby Daddy Drama Could Be There

It would be nice if she has a amicable relationship with the ex and the way they split up raising their children does not affect their “adult relationship.” You would hope it would be that way for the kid’s sake but Doc Love lives in the real world so there is the distinct possibility that you will be encountering a bitter ex you have to deal with.

Many times he’s still in his children’s lives and he could be angry that she rejected him and will take it out on new guy – YOU. Is it irrational? Yes. Anytime you cause drama for no good reason it’s stupid and crazy but you might have to deal with verbal if not physical confrontations depending on what kind of ex she has.

Dating A Woman With Kids#3: What Is Their Age?

If you’re a 50-something and her children are in their 20’s in their own career 5 states away that’s one thing – if they’re 3, 7 and 10 that’s quite another. What are YOU prepared to deal with? Do you want an instant family? Are you ready to deal with trying to integrate with her children? What if they themselves are bitter that “dear old dad” got flushed in the relationship? I spoke about “Baby Daddy Drama” above but what about just “Baby Drama” – children , especially younger ones, are conservative by nature. They don’t like a lot of change and they certainly don’t like random stranger guy telling them to eat their peas. Even adult children might pose a problem depending on how the sides were drawn out in the divorce battle.

Also, how is she moving you into her children’s lives? I prefer that women wait a long time – at least 6 months – to bring you around. It’s more respectful to her children if she doesn’t run every Tom, Dick and Harry up to the house so he can be “Dad for 2 weeks.” Of course if the children are in their mid-20’s then it’s different than say meeting a 6-year old, but still, the focus should be on your relationship with her and not immediately sucking you into the family vortex. If a woman tries to rush you in this manner – RUN!

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Never Had A Girlfriend Before? 3 Things To Help

It’s frustrating, maddening and lonely if you’re in this boat and I totally understand why you feel the way you do. Many guys that start out with my dating and relationship education course called THE SYSTEM were once in your shoes – and they were able to turn it around. I’ve received thousands of you changed my life letters from guys that have found Ms. Right. Will it work for you? Read on below and find out for yourself.

Never Had A Girlfriend Before#1: Don’t Follow A “Guru” Blindly

Many “love doctors” online will give you all these “techniques” to get her – as if women are idiots! Pheromones, matching her breathing pattern, becoming a character from a romance novel – all of this stuff is designed to prey on lonely guys and inspire you to spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars to blindly follow their program.

I’m not saying that they don’t have nuggets of truth mixed in with the ridiculous advice – but buyer beware. Anyone that says they can 100% guarantee success with any woman you want is a fraud – because it’s not possible due to something you have to pay attention to in item #2 below.

Never Had A Girlfriend Before?  3 Things To Help#2: “Just Be Yourself & Don’t Worry About Looks” – NONSENSE

You have to pass what I call a PHYSICAL ATTRACTION TEST by her. You don’t have to be a Men’s Health cover model (but it doesn’t hurt!) but you better have something that allows her to think “hmm, he’s kind of cute.” So many guys are brainwashed (usually by well-meaning women friends) into thinking that “looks don’t matter – it’s your personality.” They are right that personality does matter but you better start with her seeing SOMETHING in you.

Let’s take an example – you like 3 different sedans and you dislike trucks – so when you’re shopping for the car you are considering an Altima, Accord and a Fusion – now someone could come at you with an F-150 but you won’t even consider it – only the salespeople that have the Altima, Accord and Fusion will be able to show their “personality” to sell you because you want a sedan and not a truck.

Are you a sedan or a truck in her eyes? So, don’t head trip yourself on women that will never like you no matter what.

However, you need to keep yourself as good as possible for the women that are kicking your tires. I need you to be in the best shape you can be, fix your teeth if something is wrong, pay attention to how you dress, keep groomed (trim the nose hair, ear hair, neck hair and keep the nails short) and basically be as tip top as is possible for you.

Why?

You increase your odds of attracting more women that like sedans (you) when you maximize your assets.

Never Had A Girlfriend Before#3: Work On Your Personality/Don’t Be Needy

I know you’ve never had a girlfriend but you don’t need to broadcast that – we might feel sorry for the underdog but that doesn’t make him more attractive. Fake it until you make it man and improve that personality. You need to learn how to have light and funny banter with women. You don’t need to be a comedian but making them laugh is never a bad thing and act like you don’t need them. You’ll be polite and respectful but don’t fall into the trap of falling all over yourself buying gifts (even a drink is a gift!), doing favors or acting grateful just because she’s talking to you.

You’d be amazed at how many guys shoot their chances in the foot by being over the top when they first meet a woman they’re attracted to – or are so under-confident the lady can’t see herself even going on a date with them.

Remember that dating is supposed to be fun and if she thinks that it will be a nerve-wracking experience because you’re so nervous and needy then you won’t get the number.

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How To Overcome The Fear Of Rejection In Dating – 3 Strategies

In dating some men are paralyzed by the fear of rejection. They’d rather get a root canal with no pain killer than walk up and have her laugh at them (or whatever doomsday scenario they have in mind). If you never try you can’t be rejected so you’re safe – but you’re extremely bored as well and missing out on a lot of fun. I’ll give you 3 strategies below to overcome it.

Overcome The Fear Of Rejection#1: Calm Your Ego Down

If you’re scared of rejection I bet the last thing you think you have is a big ego – but you do. You don’t have that stereotypical “I am the man – everyone else is below me” type of persona but your big ego is out of control enough to try to protect you from the image it’s created and that image is so fragile it can’t withstand her staring off into space hoping you’ll go away when you’re trying to talk to her.

If you didn’t go over there in the first place your ego can keep the image of “I’m the man” going because it can create a scenario that you could have gone over, you could have gotten the number, you could have made her your wife – but you just chose not to.

You’re completely protected as you wander home alone – again – to fire up the PS4 – again.

Overcome The Fear Of Rejection#2: It Happens To Everyone

Rejection and failure are a natural offshoot of trying. I bet you stunk at your job when you first started – compared to where you are now. I imagine you made a ton of mistakes and looked stupid at times (at least in your mind) before you “got it” and became competent. Did you give up on trying to make a living? I am thinking you didn’t because you’re probably motivated to eat and pay your rent.

It’s the same when it comes to dating – how do you know what will or won’t work if you’re not in the mix trying out different strategies? Do you think you’ll get that great girl you’ve always wanted if you always sit on the sidelines all the time? How will you ever talk to her? How will you keep the conversation going or make her laugh or make her anticipate the next date with you if you’re so scared that she’s going to laugh in your face in the first 10 seconds of meeting her?

(If she does that then she was a tool you didn’t want anyway).

You might as well tell your ego now that you’re going to fall flat on your face, just like you did for anything you were new at – your job, a new sport or hobby, etc. – but that the only way to get better is to KEEP TRYING and throw out what doesn’t work as you hone in on what does.

Overcome The Fear Of Rejection#3: I Like Your Odds

You’re one guy that needs one girl – with about 7 billion or so homo sapiens running around – half of them being of the female gender, you are looking pretty good in the eyes of Las Vegas to meet someone that won’t reject you. Your deal is to stop head tripping yourself and remember that if I gave you 10 G’s to roll over and ask for the number, you could do it no problem. Why? Because you wouldn’t care about her laughing because you’d be laughing all the way to the bank as you lighten my wallet of 10 grand.

You have to take the same approach and not make it all personal – it’s a 5 minute max encounter with someone you probably won’t even remember in the next month and hey, when you wander over, she might be happy you did because she noticed you and wanted to meet you (at that point you’ll be happy you told your big ego to take a long walk off a short pier).

I’m gonna get all cliche on you now but there’s a reason these cliches find their way into our speech – because they are grounded in something true. “You will miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Your ego might feel all warm and fuzzy as it keeps feeding you “you’re the man” delusions but try to tell that to your brain that is absolutely sick of Call of Duty Friday night marathons.

Remember man – what you should be really afraid of is never getting off the dime to try because that almost assures you of a lonely life – and that would be a shame since you love women!

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Should I Text Her? 3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO

Technology is changing – human nature isn’t. When considering tapping out a quick message on your iPhone 6+ (because the screen is so big and it’s so easy!) then consider the 3 reasons below why it’s a bad idea to stay in constant contact with her.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#1: Body Language & Tone Are Out The Window

If you’re sitting right across from her you can tell your stories in such a way they come off humorous and light & see her reaction. You get instant feedback on your interaction – because you’re in the real world face to face with her.

Over text you lose that human to human interaction – and it’s a clunky way to have a conversation. It’s impossible to keep your fingers moving as fast as you can move your vocal cords and you really have no idea what impact your words had until the next text rolls in. Compare that to INSTANTLY seeing her eyes light up with your funny joke.

Also, you have to explain yourself too much in texts – especially if you don’t know her that well because you want to make sure she’s interpreting your commentary in the right way – you don’t want her to be insulted by something you’re kidding about, right? In person with your body language, tone of voice and the way you deliver things she can instantly know where you’re coming from – but in texts you have to overload the “LOL’s,” “J/K’s” and smiley faces to make the point that it’s a joke sometimes.

No matter what, a conversation via text is a bad look because there is so LITTLE feedback you can get for your words versus real world conversation.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#2: Want Her To Think You Have No Life?

She wants you to text her after the date to make sure “you got home safely” or likes hearing from you when she wakes up or enjoys taking a break in the middle of the day to read your texts. Aren’t life and love grand? Who knew that $100 a month you spent on your Smart Phone was the key to getting her to fall in love with her?

It isn’t.

I love chocolate ice cream and when I’m really hungry for it I can eat the whole half-gallon but on the rare occasions I do something that dumb my stomach resembles a drunken brawl among rival sports fans. Even though I love chocolate ice cream and THOUGHT I WANTED to eat the whole half-gallon I really didn’t.

Same with her – she THINKS SHE WANTS a guy to constantly communicate with her as he lavishes her with attention 160 characters at a time but in reality she’ll get sick of you texting just as my stomach got sick of having Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie poured into it.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#3: Can You Do This For 40 Years?

Okay, let’s just say you have a really insecure girl and she loves the fact that you text her all day long – because it’s validation of your undying love. You’re more than happy to oblige because it’s so cute she wants all this attention – and man, that long hair, those beautiful eyes , her soft voice as she laughs – how could you not want to stay in contact with this angel?

I’m here to tell you that’s it’s all fun and games until your orthopedic surgeon gleefully exclaims “New Porsche for me!” as he’s looking over your carpal tunnel. Okay, maybe not to that extreme but can you imagine having your HTC One be your electronic leash for the next 6 months, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 40 years???? Because that’s what it will be. Once you start the texting habit you won’t be able to go back.

Believe me when I tell you what once was “cute” will become a mind-numbing chore as you pass the 2,000,000 text mark quicker than you get to your silver anniversary.

There’s really only one of two ways to go with texting – either you have a woman with normal to high self-esteem that will get sick of your texting and drop you or you’ll get a low self-esteem type to constantly need a text “hit” from you as you rapidly dream of a day where you can sink your phone in the nearest body of water!

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3 Signs Of Falling In Love – And Why You Need To Chill!

3 Signs Of Falling In LoveYou love her, right tough guy? You’ve been spending a lot of time with her and it’s undeniable – you know she’s the one for you and she seems to be equally into you. I’m going to give you three sure fire signs below but also ask you proceed with caution because the “falling” part of falling in love can be pretty dangerous if you try to sprint instead of run a marathon.

So, you’ll get 3 signs of falling in love below along with some words of caution from the dating relationship education course I teach (called THE SYSTEM) so you don’t blow it with her!

3 Signs Of Falling In Love

#1: You Think About Her All The Time

I got the chicken dance song stuck in my head the other day – along with the images of people flapping their arms – not a fun thing to have on auto-repeat. Now in your case I’m sure that it’s her smile, perfume, beautiful hair, the skirt she wore when you picked her up Saturday that are stuck in your head.

Awesome, right? You’re just staring away at that spreadsheet you should have been working on for the last 20 minutes and the blinking cursor represents her dancing (yeah, you’re gone!)

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: It’s great to feel this way but you’ll blow it if you stay in constant contact with her. You know how you’re greatly anticipating the next date with her? She should be doing the same thing – so don’t short circuit that process by getting in her face by trying to see her every day or texting her all day long. Space is what you need so that both of your feelings grow.

3 Signs Of Falling In Love#2: She’s The Only One You See Even In A Crowded Room

There are plenty of people around you when you’re out but as far as you’re concerned she’s real and in full color and they’re vague black and white shadows. It’s unbelievable that you could exclude everything else in your head besides her – but here you are!

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: If you two are in love you might go the distance – I know your hormones and the newness of everything has kicked in but all of this is the opening gun to the NYC Marathon and not an Olympic 100 M dash – so pace yourself and be careful not to try to exclude everything else when out with her. It’s natural to want her all to yourself because all you could think of was her all week long and now that she’s here you want 100% – but it’s not realistic – at some point you two will settle into a relationship that has time with friends, time apart and of course your time together. All I’m saying is not to go too over the top when your hormones are in Mexican Jumping Bean mode so you don’t scare her off.

3 Signs Of Falling In Love#3: Her Kiss Vibrates Through You

This requires no explanation – you might be able to bench 250 but when she locks lips with you this 110# woman has you exactly where she wants you – or at least that’s what your brain is telling you! All I know is a variation of “YEAH, THAT’S RIGHT” pulsates from your head to your toes.

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: As Jodeci once said in the great song “Stay” she feels so sexy and so good – and that’s cool – as long as you keep that feeling to yourself. It was okay for Jodeci to sing it and make millions but it’s not okay for you to utter it and blow it with her.

YOUR ACTIONS with her and not you saying a bunch of stuff is what’s going to keep her feelings (INTEREST LEVEL) for you high. The biggest mistake guys in love make is to blurt out a bunch of stuff about how into her they are and even use the “L” word and tell her they love her. It’s ANTI-CHALLENGE and while you think you’re scoring points with her all your doing is stamping down the ability for her to fall for you more deeply.

Listen – she is into you already – keep treating her well via what you do instead of what you say and you’ll be much further ahead.

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