Dating Tips For Men – 3 Things Men Think They Should Do – BUT SHOULDN’T

If you want a chance with Ms. Right, then there are 3 things you should avoid. It’s really easy to do what I’m about to lay out below because common sense has gone out the window as more and more guys are taking their advice from female-oriented love doctors, major media, movies and more sources that have no idea what to tell a real man that’s looking for a good woman in his life. It’s amazing to me that not more folks come at this from the male point of view but it’s almost as if guys have become an afterthought when some of these “dating gurus” start spouting their brainwashing and nonsense.

If you want real talk for real guys then keep on reading – because you have to avoid the 3 C’s early on to have a shot with her – “compliments, candy and communication.”

Dating Tips For Men#1: Avoid Compliments

If she’s attractive, and of course she is since you’re pursuing her, then she’s been told how beautiful she is from an early age – and she’s either tired of it or it’s not going to have any impact on her if you’re the one saying it for the 56,789th time in her life. Even worse than that? Telling her how kind, nice, intelligent, wonderful, etc., she is on date 1 – because she’s a stranger to you and her BS meter will be firing when you’re gushing over her brains before the dessert arrives. She’ll smile, laugh and thank you on the outside while on the inside think you’re a huge phony because you don’t know her at all.

If compliments really worked then shouldn’t you just wander up to women on the street and compliment them say 100x until they marry you? Wait, maybe it’s 150? 200? I forget what the magic number of laying it on thick is – the compliment to relationship ratio if you will.

There is no ratio simply because compliments don’t work – it’s the base level of what every guy tries to do but I’m here to tell you that you’re not on a game show entitled “Kissing Up To Get The Girl” so just tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and that you had a fun time when dropping her off . You’ll stand out from 90% of the guys she’s dated (and gotten rid of by the way!)

Dating Tips For Men#2: Avoid Candy

Just like compliments, gifts don’t work either (unless she’s a mercenary and then you can max out your Visa until she finds someone with more money and stupidity). Gifts can be candy, flowers, jewelry, or whatever else you have to pull $ out of your wallet for to give her JUST BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU HER # OR WENT OUT WITH YOU. Ugh – isn’t it enough that you had the courage to walk over to her, talk, get the #, arrange the date, pick her up AND pay? Now you have to show up with candy and flowers too? At least some guys think you do.

If candy and other gifts really worked then guys of less economic means would always lose out to guys with more – there would be no way to hook up unless you made six figures or more – only those guys that can FTD every other day have a chance of winning the heart of Ms. Right!

Of course, that’s ridiculous – there are good women out there that get into relationships with men because – and I know this is shocking – but because they actually like the dude and he makes them happy. Yes, yes, yes, there are those out there – the mercenaries – that are for sale to the highest bidder – but we’re avoiding those types anyway.

You cannot buy your way into the heart of a good girl – and in fact you’ll turn her off if you treat her in such a superficial way.

I’m all about giving her gifts and spoiling her – once she’s EARNED IT – so no candy or other trinkets of affection until she’s your girlfriend!

Dating Tips For Men#3: Avoid Communication

Think of yourself on a date where you say this sentence to her over and over again: “I like you, do you like me? I hope you like me because I really like you. Do you think you’ll keep liking me? ” I know that sounds absolutely absurd and ridiculous but when you communicate with her between dates – whether it’s texting, Facebook, the phone, Twitter, Snapchat, smoke signals or whatever then that’s exactly the message you’re getting across to Ms. Right.

Guys think they have to sell, sell, sell, and sell some more to knock the other guys out of the box that are pursuing her. So, after that great date you want to make sure she remembers you. You’ve heard that women like attention so it’s attention you’ll give! She can’t forget you and refuse to go out with you for the next date because you’ve made sure to hit her up multiple times since the last date.

You are selling her – on the idea of not going out with you again! Women want MYSTERY and a CHALLENGE. She had a fun time with you and now you’ve disappeared – she’s wondering if she’ll see you again and you’re not in her face so her feelings will grow for you. I know it sounds counter-intuitive but the ladies get more into a guy they’re not sure of and is not making it obvious they want to be her boyfriend.

I know from all the brainwashing you’ve gotten that you are probably saying “Doc, she’ll forget about me” or “I have to prove to her I like her more than the next guy that’s after her.” I understand where you’re coming from if you feel that way but you’re wrong – because you’ve done enough!

Remember YOU had to walk over to her and meet her, YOU had to ask for her #, YOU had to call her and ask for a date, YOU had to figure out where to go and pick her up and YOU had to pay – and now YOU have to repeat the process over and over again for the next few months until she MIGHT be your girlfriend (everything but the walk over and get the # part).

Isn’t it enough that you have to do all this work to show her a good time? Isn’t it enough that she can REJECT you at any time at any point? All the power lies with her and she knows it. You begin to even the balance of power by making sure she has fun and having her anticipate the next date, hoping it will happen because you’re not in her face making it obvious that it will.

Guys that lay back and let the woman come to them are much better off – because a good girl at some point will naturally want to see you more and start to chase you – and if she’s chasing you then she can’t be rejecting you!

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DATING WOMEN ADVICE FOR GUYS: WOULD NICOLE KIDMAN EVER HANG OUT WITH TOM CRUISE?

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Hey Doc,

First of all, let me thank you for “The System.” I have it and I’m reading it, though I haven’t memorized it yet.

Like most other guys, I’m not going to tell a story about how we began and how we ended up here. I’m just going directly into the important stuff. The way I see it, Jenny is a Flexible Giver. Here are the signs:

  • She invites me to her place
  • She cooks me delicious dinners
  • She is very romantic with me and afterwards serves me great drinks
  • She tells me how much she loves me
  • Once when I was sick, she cooked me soup and brought it over in spite of the fact that she was tired after work
  • She tells me almost everything that happens when I’m not around, which demonstrates Integrity
  • She never hides her phone or laptop
  • When we have problems, she listens to me and sometimes changes her behavior out of respect for me

Now here are the problems:

  • She has a two-year-old daughter with her ex-husband
  • Her ex-husband is in the picture because he supports the kid financially
  • She sometimes goes out with her ex-husband on shopping trips
  • Her ex-husband buys stuff for her (fruits, cactuses, etc.)

From what I understand from reading “The System,” a woman who spends time with another man (like her ex-husband) has lower Interest Level than 90% in the man she’s currently dating. If this other guy was her ex-boyfriend and there was no kid in the scene, I would have to move on. But now I don’t know what to do.

The question is this: when a woman is a package deal, but there is one more item in this package that is the ex-husband, how much she is allowed to be with him? What boundaries should I draw?

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I know that Jenny’s ex is the father of her kid, and since I love the kid (she’s truly lovely) I know that she needs her natural father to be there for her, forever. But I don’t feel good when they’re all together. I mean, father + daughter, that’s okay. But the entire family together? That bothers me. How should I deal with this situation?

Noel – who is torn

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Hi Noel,

Let me remind you first that the information in both my book and CDs must be memorized. If my techniques and principles are not natural to you, you are not going to be successful with women.

From your description of Jenny, you do indeed have a FLEXIBLE GIVER on your hands, my friend. But as always, there’s a bad part.

So let me ask you this: exactly what are Jenny and her ex-husband buying on these shopping trips? Are they buying diapers? If that’s the case, why does Jenny’s ex-husband have to be there? This is where I smell the rat in this situation, buddy. Why does the ex-husband have to go on these trips at all? Jenny can dress her little girl. She can buy food and diapers. In other words, she doesn’t have to schlep all over the place with her ex-husband. In most broken marriages, the father picks the kids up and that’s it. If he wants to buy gifts for the kids, that’s what he’ll do when he’s with them for his visitation. The point is that he doesn’t need his ex around for that. What this ex-husband is doing is bringing Jenny along because he wants her back. And she’s too naïve to see it.

If Jenny’s ex is buying food for her and the kid, you can’t say anything about it. But if he’s buying things just for Jenny, then there’s a problem. It’s a sign that he’s trying to win her back. He doesn’t seem to realize that he’s the ex-husband, which is going to cause problems for you whenever you bump into him. And like my cousin Fast Eddie Love says, “You don’t want him bringing a baseball bat down on your head.”

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Interest level is not a problem here, Noel. It’s obvious that Jenny has high Interest Level in you. She has demonstrated it. But she’s spending all this extra time with her ex-husband because she thinks it’s for the good of her daughter. But it’s really not – it’s for him to work his way back in. And you can’t bring this subject matter up with Jenny because you risk causing a big problem, especially if she happens to mention it to her ex-husband.

You don’t know what to do now because you have a package deal on your hands. If Jenny’s daughter was 16, she would be out of the house in two years, when she’s 18. But since she’s only two years old, she’s going to be around for at least another 16 years. And that means that you are going to have to deal with Jenny’s ex-husband for a long, long time – like at least 16 years. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “You have to hope that this ex-husband meets someone else in order to get him off your back.”

The boundaries should be that the ex-husband just picks the kid up and leaves. Many divorced women meet their exes at McDonalds and hand the children off. Most ex-wives don’t even want the husbands coming to the house to pick their children up. So this business of going on shopping trips together is out of the ordinary, Noel. Jenny, as I said earlier, is naïve. And I think your relationship runs the risk of getting screwed up by her relationship with her ex-husband over the long term. For instance, what happens when they go shopping for a whole day when you’re supposed to have a date with her, and he decides to block you by spending as much time with Jenny as possible? Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “I see a potential can of worms here.”

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There are only two ways to deal with this situation, guy. You either drop Jenny or keep your mouth shut. There is no middle ground here. You can’t forbid Jenny from going shopping with her ex because she might think you’re out to hurt her daughter in some way. In other words, you got a mess on your hands.

Remember, guys: there’s no such thing as a clean deal.

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Does She Like Me? 3 Foolproof Ways To Tell!

I know the question of “does she like me?” has perplexed men since Adam was wandering around the garden but I’m here to tell you that it’s not as hard as it may seem – and if it hard at all then the answer to the question is NO. Guys want to take what is VERY SIMPLE and turn it into a complex paradigm and I think it’s because of the amount of brainwashing we are bombarded with in media, movies and modern culture. Somehow women’s interest in dating you has become this impossible problem that even Einstein couldn’t figure out – but it’s much more straightforward than that. Prepare to have your confusion lifted with the 3 foolproof ways to tell below!

Does She Like Me#1: It’s EASY To Talk To Her

I’m going to hit you with the bold capped italicized font here so this burns into your brain – please remember that WOMEN HELP YOU WHEN THEY LIKE YOU.

When she likes you then she wants to stay around you and talk, she doesn’t look away in boredom and somehow you just became a combination of Jimmy Fallon, Chris Rock and Louis C.K. all rolled into one because of how all your jokes are met with her guffaws and giggles (I wouldn’t advise taking your act on the road though – because the audience doesn’t find you as attractive as she does).

Get all that bad B movie brainwashing out of your head – the girl that started out hating you in real life ends up calling the cops if you keep pursuing her. Ending up with a harassment charge is much more likely than having one of those Hollywood endings where she realizes that you were the one for her (just before the credits and cheesy music roll).

In my dating education course called THE SYSTEM I teach you about the concept of female INTEREST LEVEL and how that drives her decisions for dating – if she doesn’t have it for you FROM THE BEGINNING then you are spinning your wheels and wasting time.

Does She Like Me#2: No Hesitation On The 7 Digits

You ask for her number and she punches it into your phone with NO hesitation. Period.

Oh, wait…you want more explanation than that?

Okay, I’ll expand on it and say the same thing in longer paragraph format – and I’m being purposely facetious here so you really get the concept as being as simple as it really sounds. You see, the male ego can’t believe that it just got turned down and puts up all sort of defenses such as “I caught her at a bad time” or “she really wanted to give me the number but it’s a tough time in her life” or “I’ll wear her down.”

Women that really like you give you the number right away – NO questions asked – when you ask for it. It should go something like this for you to tell if she’s into you:

“What’s your number?”

“555-402-5615″

Boom.

If you get a question to your question of “what’s your number” such as “why do you want that?” or “can I have your number instead?” then you have her confused with someone that you actually have a chance with.

Does She Like Me#3: It’s NEVER An Issue To Get Her On A Date

I’m not talking about getting her out on date 1 or date 3 or even date 15 – I’m telling you that EVERY single time you ask she is ready, willing and able to go out with you – and in fact she starts asking you out. You don’t have that nagging gut feeling of “does she really want to be out with me?” No, it’s obvious she wants to be out with you because she’s front and center every time you ask – or at least she’s making a counter-offer (such as you ask for a Wednesday but she has to work but immediately says “I can’t make it Wednesday but I’m free Thursday.”)

Guys mistakenly think that it’s got to be hard – and I blame Hollywood, the media, etc. for making dating into this ridiculously complex thing when it’s not. Women are portrayed at operating at a higher level than men so we think that we have to win them over and break them down as they play hard to get but the reason they’re hard to get is some of them don’t want to be gotten by the guy trying to get them! Ever see women at a concert – even adult, supposedly mature women – grasping at the star on stage? They’re just as human as us fellas – they know what they like and they go after what they like just as hard as we do.

Don’t let the brainwashing fool you – the woman that really wants to be with you is with you – she makes it easy – and if it’s not easy then there’s a simple reason – she doesn’t want it to be easy for you so move onto someone that will make it easy for you.

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Dating A Woman With Kids? 3 Things To Keep In Mind

We live in unprecedented times with many children being raised in single-parent households. I’m not here to make a social statement on this phenomenon but to give you some common sense coaching on what you need to keep in mind as a guy out there in the dating scene. My dating relationship education course entitled THE SYSTEM is designed from the man’s point of view and you cannot get information like this anywhere else – my approach is unique and protects your heart, wallet, time and most important your sanity.

Dating A Woman With Kids#1: Children Are The NUMBER ONE Priority

My materials are designed for long-term relationships and when you date a woman with kids then you have to accept the fact that raising her children will become a part of what you do as things progress in the relationship. There is nothing more important that we can do as humans than raise and protect our young. I know she looks really good in the skirt with her hair all done when you pick her up but remember behind all the smiles and fun is a woman that has a serious obligation in her life – and at some point that obligation will fall on you to share. Are you ready for it?

Dating A Woman With Kids#2: Baby Daddy Drama Could Be There

It would be nice if she has a amicable relationship with the ex and the way they split up raising their children does not affect their “adult relationship.” You would hope it would be that way for the kid’s sake but Doc Love lives in the real world so there is the distinct possibility that you will be encountering a bitter ex you have to deal with.

Many times he’s still in his children’s lives and he could be angry that she rejected him and will take it out on new guy – YOU. Is it irrational? Yes. Anytime you cause drama for no good reason it’s stupid and crazy but you might have to deal with verbal if not physical confrontations depending on what kind of ex she has.

Dating A Woman With Kids#3: What Is Their Age?

If you’re a 50-something and her children are in their 20’s in their own career 5 states away that’s one thing – if they’re 3, 7 and 10 that’s quite another. What are YOU prepared to deal with? Do you want an instant family? Are you ready to deal with trying to integrate with her children? What if they themselves are bitter that “dear old dad” got flushed in the relationship? I spoke about “Baby Daddy Drama” above but what about just “Baby Drama” – children , especially younger ones, are conservative by nature. They don’t like a lot of change and they certainly don’t like random stranger guy telling them to eat their peas. Even adult children might pose a problem depending on how the sides were drawn out in the divorce battle.

Also, how is she moving you into her children’s lives? I prefer that women wait a long time – at least 6 months – to bring you around. It’s more respectful to her children if she doesn’t run every Tom, Dick and Harry up to the house so he can be “Dad for 2 weeks.” Of course if the children are in their mid-20’s then it’s different than say meeting a 6-year old, but still, the focus should be on your relationship with her and not immediately sucking you into the family vortex. If a woman tries to rush you in this manner – RUN!

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Never Had A Girlfriend Before? 3 Things To Help

It’s frustrating, maddening and lonely if you’re in this boat and I totally understand why you feel the way you do. Many guys that start out with my dating and relationship education course called THE SYSTEM were once in your shoes – and they were able to turn it around. I’ve received thousands of you changed my life letters from guys that have found Ms. Right. Will it work for you? Read on below and find out for yourself.

Never Had A Girlfriend Before#1: Don’t Follow A “Guru” Blindly

Many “love doctors” online will give you all these “techniques” to get her – as if women are idiots! Pheromones, matching her breathing pattern, becoming a character from a romance novel – all of this stuff is designed to prey on lonely guys and inspire you to spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars to blindly follow their program.

I’m not saying that they don’t have nuggets of truth mixed in with the ridiculous advice – but buyer beware. Anyone that says they can 100% guarantee success with any woman you want is a fraud – because it’s not possible due to something you have to pay attention to in item #2 below.

Never Had A Girlfriend Before?  3 Things To Help#2: “Just Be Yourself & Don’t Worry About Looks” – NONSENSE

You have to pass what I call a PHYSICAL ATTRACTION TEST by her. You don’t have to be a Men’s Health cover model (but it doesn’t hurt!) but you better have something that allows her to think “hmm, he’s kind of cute.” So many guys are brainwashed (usually by well-meaning women friends) into thinking that “looks don’t matter – it’s your personality.” They are right that personality does matter but you better start with her seeing SOMETHING in you.

Let’s take an example – you like 3 different sedans and you dislike trucks – so when you’re shopping for the car you are considering an Altima, Accord and a Fusion – now someone could come at you with an F-150 but you won’t even consider it – only the salespeople that have the Altima, Accord and Fusion will be able to show their “personality” to sell you because you want a sedan and not a truck.

Are you a sedan or a truck in her eyes? So, don’t head trip yourself on women that will never like you no matter what.

However, you need to keep yourself as good as possible for the women that are kicking your tires. I need you to be in the best shape you can be, fix your teeth if something is wrong, pay attention to how you dress, keep groomed (trim the nose hair, ear hair, neck hair and keep the nails short) and basically be as tip top as is possible for you.

Why?

You increase your odds of attracting more women that like sedans (you) when you maximize your assets.

Never Had A Girlfriend Before#3: Work On Your Personality/Don’t Be Needy

I know you’ve never had a girlfriend but you don’t need to broadcast that – we might feel sorry for the underdog but that doesn’t make him more attractive. Fake it until you make it man and improve that personality. You need to learn how to have light and funny banter with women. You don’t need to be a comedian but making them laugh is never a bad thing and act like you don’t need them. You’ll be polite and respectful but don’t fall into the trap of falling all over yourself buying gifts (even a drink is a gift!), doing favors or acting grateful just because she’s talking to you.

You’d be amazed at how many guys shoot their chances in the foot by being over the top when they first meet a woman they’re attracted to – or are so under-confident the lady can’t see herself even going on a date with them.

Remember that dating is supposed to be fun and if she thinks that it will be a nerve-wracking experience because you’re so nervous and needy then you won’t get the number.

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How To Overcome The Fear Of Rejection In Dating – 3 Strategies

In dating some men are paralyzed by the fear of rejection. They’d rather get a root canal with no pain killer than walk up and have her laugh at them (or whatever doomsday scenario they have in mind). If you never try you can’t be rejected so you’re safe – but you’re extremely bored as well and missing out on a lot of fun. I’ll give you 3 strategies below to overcome it.

Overcome The Fear Of Rejection#1: Calm Your Ego Down

If you’re scared of rejection I bet the last thing you think you have is a big ego – but you do. You don’t have that stereotypical “I am the man – everyone else is below me” type of persona but your big ego is out of control enough to try to protect you from the image it’s created and that image is so fragile it can’t withstand her staring off into space hoping you’ll go away when you’re trying to talk to her.

If you didn’t go over there in the first place your ego can keep the image of “I’m the man” going because it can create a scenario that you could have gone over, you could have gotten the number, you could have made her your wife – but you just chose not to.

You’re completely protected as you wander home alone – again – to fire up the PS4 – again.

Overcome The Fear Of Rejection#2: It Happens To Everyone

Rejection and failure are a natural offshoot of trying. I bet you stunk at your job when you first started – compared to where you are now. I imagine you made a ton of mistakes and looked stupid at times (at least in your mind) before you “got it” and became competent. Did you give up on trying to make a living? I am thinking you didn’t because you’re probably motivated to eat and pay your rent.

It’s the same when it comes to dating – how do you know what will or won’t work if you’re not in the mix trying out different strategies? Do you think you’ll get that great girl you’ve always wanted if you always sit on the sidelines all the time? How will you ever talk to her? How will you keep the conversation going or make her laugh or make her anticipate the next date with you if you’re so scared that she’s going to laugh in your face in the first 10 seconds of meeting her?

(If she does that then she was a tool you didn’t want anyway).

You might as well tell your ego now that you’re going to fall flat on your face, just like you did for anything you were new at – your job, a new sport or hobby, etc. – but that the only way to get better is to KEEP TRYING and throw out what doesn’t work as you hone in on what does.

Overcome The Fear Of Rejection#3: I Like Your Odds

You’re one guy that needs one girl – with about 7 billion or so homo sapiens running around – half of them being of the female gender, you are looking pretty good in the eyes of Las Vegas to meet someone that won’t reject you. Your deal is to stop head tripping yourself and remember that if I gave you 10 G’s to roll over and ask for the number, you could do it no problem. Why? Because you wouldn’t care about her laughing because you’d be laughing all the way to the bank as you lighten my wallet of 10 grand.

You have to take the same approach and not make it all personal – it’s a 5 minute max encounter with someone you probably won’t even remember in the next month and hey, when you wander over, she might be happy you did because she noticed you and wanted to meet you (at that point you’ll be happy you told your big ego to take a long walk off a short pier).

I’m gonna get all cliche on you now but there’s a reason these cliches find their way into our speech – because they are grounded in something true. “You will miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Your ego might feel all warm and fuzzy as it keeps feeding you “you’re the man” delusions but try to tell that to your brain that is absolutely sick of Call of Duty Friday night marathons.

Remember man – what you should be really afraid of is never getting off the dime to try because that almost assures you of a lonely life – and that would be a shame since you love women!

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Should I Text Her? 3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO

Technology is changing – human nature isn’t. When considering tapping out a quick message on your iPhone 6+ (because the screen is so big and it’s so easy!) then consider the 3 reasons below why it’s a bad idea to stay in constant contact with her.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#1: Body Language & Tone Are Out The Window

If you’re sitting right across from her you can tell your stories in such a way they come off humorous and light & see her reaction. You get instant feedback on your interaction – because you’re in the real world face to face with her.

Over text you lose that human to human interaction – and it’s a clunky way to have a conversation. It’s impossible to keep your fingers moving as fast as you can move your vocal cords and you really have no idea what impact your words had until the next text rolls in. Compare that to INSTANTLY seeing her eyes light up with your funny joke.

Also, you have to explain yourself too much in texts – especially if you don’t know her that well because you want to make sure she’s interpreting your commentary in the right way – you don’t want her to be insulted by something you’re kidding about, right? In person with your body language, tone of voice and the way you deliver things she can instantly know where you’re coming from – but in texts you have to overload the “LOL’s,” “J/K’s” and smiley faces to make the point that it’s a joke sometimes.

No matter what, a conversation via text is a bad look because there is so LITTLE feedback you can get for your words versus real world conversation.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#2: Want Her To Think You Have No Life?

She wants you to text her after the date to make sure “you got home safely” or likes hearing from you when she wakes up or enjoys taking a break in the middle of the day to read your texts. Aren’t life and love grand? Who knew that $100 a month you spent on your Smart Phone was the key to getting her to fall in love with her?

It isn’t.

I love chocolate ice cream and when I’m really hungry for it I can eat the whole half-gallon but on the rare occasions I do something that dumb my stomach resembles a drunken brawl among rival sports fans. Even though I love chocolate ice cream and THOUGHT I WANTED to eat the whole half-gallon I really didn’t.

Same with her – she THINKS SHE WANTS a guy to constantly communicate with her as he lavishes her with attention 160 characters at a time but in reality she’ll get sick of you texting just as my stomach got sick of having Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie poured into it.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#3: Can You Do This For 40 Years?

Okay, let’s just say you have a really insecure girl and she loves the fact that you text her all day long – because it’s validation of your undying love. You’re more than happy to oblige because it’s so cute she wants all this attention – and man, that long hair, those beautiful eyes , her soft voice as she laughs – how could you not want to stay in contact with this angel?

I’m here to tell you that’s it’s all fun and games until your orthopedic surgeon gleefully exclaims “New Porsche for me!” as he’s looking over your carpal tunnel. Okay, maybe not to that extreme but can you imagine having your HTC One be your electronic leash for the next 6 months, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 40 years???? Because that’s what it will be. Once you start the texting habit you won’t be able to go back.

Believe me when I tell you what once was “cute” will become a mind-numbing chore as you pass the 2,000,000 text mark quicker than you get to your silver anniversary.

There’s really only one of two ways to go with texting – either you have a woman with normal to high self-esteem that will get sick of your texting and drop you or you’ll get a low self-esteem type to constantly need a text “hit” from you as you rapidly dream of a day where you can sink your phone in the nearest body of water!

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3 Signs Of Falling In Love – And Why You Need To Chill!

3 Signs Of Falling In LoveYou love her, right tough guy? You’ve been spending a lot of time with her and it’s undeniable – you know she’s the one for you and she seems to be equally into you. I’m going to give you three sure fire signs below but also ask you proceed with caution because the “falling” part of falling in love can be pretty dangerous if you try to sprint instead of run a marathon.

So, you’ll get 3 signs of falling in love below along with some words of caution from the dating relationship education course I teach (called THE SYSTEM) so you don’t blow it with her!

3 Signs Of Falling In Love

#1: You Think About Her All The Time

I got the chicken dance song stuck in my head the other day – along with the images of people flapping their arms – not a fun thing to have on auto-repeat. Now in your case I’m sure that it’s her smile, perfume, beautiful hair, the skirt she wore when you picked her up Saturday that are stuck in your head.

Awesome, right? You’re just staring away at that spreadsheet you should have been working on for the last 20 minutes and the blinking cursor represents her dancing (yeah, you’re gone!)

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: It’s great to feel this way but you’ll blow it if you stay in constant contact with her. You know how you’re greatly anticipating the next date with her? She should be doing the same thing – so don’t short circuit that process by getting in her face by trying to see her every day or texting her all day long. Space is what you need so that both of your feelings grow.

3 Signs Of Falling In Love#2: She’s The Only One You See Even In A Crowded Room

There are plenty of people around you when you’re out but as far as you’re concerned she’s real and in full color and they’re vague black and white shadows. It’s unbelievable that you could exclude everything else in your head besides her – but here you are!

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: If you two are in love you might go the distance – I know your hormones and the newness of everything has kicked in but all of this is the opening gun to the NYC Marathon and not an Olympic 100 M dash – so pace yourself and be careful not to try to exclude everything else when out with her. It’s natural to want her all to yourself because all you could think of was her all week long and now that she’s here you want 100% – but it’s not realistic – at some point you two will settle into a relationship that has time with friends, time apart and of course your time together. All I’m saying is not to go too over the top when your hormones are in Mexican Jumping Bean mode so you don’t scare her off.

3 Signs Of Falling In Love#3: Her Kiss Vibrates Through You

This requires no explanation – you might be able to bench 250 but when she locks lips with you this 110# woman has you exactly where she wants you – or at least that’s what your brain is telling you! All I know is a variation of “YEAH, THAT’S RIGHT” pulsates from your head to your toes.

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: As Jodeci once said in the great song “Stay” she feels so sexy and so good – and that’s cool – as long as you keep that feeling to yourself. It was okay for Jodeci to sing it and make millions but it’s not okay for you to utter it and blow it with her.

YOUR ACTIONS with her and not you saying a bunch of stuff is what’s going to keep her feelings (INTEREST LEVEL) for you high. The biggest mistake guys in love make is to blurt out a bunch of stuff about how into her they are and even use the “L” word and tell her they love her. It’s ANTI-CHALLENGE and while you think you’re scoring points with her all your doing is stamping down the ability for her to fall for you more deeply.

Listen – she is into you already – keep treating her well via what you do instead of what you say and you’ll be much further ahead.

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Get An Ex Girlfriend Back? 3 Reasons It’s a BAD Idea

Ugh.

All over the internet – all day long – I keep seeing all these products that show you a multitude of ways to get an ex girlfriend back and I’m here to tell you that you’re wasting your money and time.

If you’re ready to move past the false hope and stop living in a time that’s never coming back then read on. If you want to ensure you get half the relationship you deserve with the old girl versus the great relationship you could get with a new lady in your life then stop reading.

Your choice.

Get An Ex Girlfriend Back#1: There Was A Reason You Broke Up

Person A loves person B and vice versa – they always have a great time together and people comment all the time as to how in love they are.

Then why did person A just flush person B down the tubes?

It can’t happen if what I said in the first sentence was true – if two people are in love and having a great time then one can’t blow off the other (unless one of them has something really wrong in their thought processes).

In the game of love there is but one parachute on the plane – and in a crash one is going to survive and one is going down. It’s the one that loses their feelings first and gets out that floats to the earth ready to get on another flight (probably even have their ticket already) while the other experiences the emotional equivalent of careening into the mountain.

People don’t just simultaneously lose their feelings for each other – usually one person’s interest is dipping down until it’s time to move on – and in the relationship education course I teach called THE SYSTEM, 90% of the time it’s a guy that got her to fall in love but couldn’t keep her in love.

Point is – someone is really hurting because they got blindsided while the other has enough reasons in their head to be the one that wanted out and their emotion is one of relief to be gone.

Get An Ex Girlfriend Back#2: How Are You Going To Find Someone New?

She’s out and around – dating Tom, laughing with Dick and having fun with Harry – and you’re in front of the computer with your friend Jack Daniels thinking that your life is over . Do I paint a pretty accurate picture?

If your mind is bent on getting her back then all you’re doing is living in the past and trying to get to a time that will never be again.

In my course the female INTEREST LEVEL is most important – think of it as a degree of love – in the 90’s she’s madly in love and you can do no wrong in her eyes – when it gets to 49 or lower then she’s got a date with Harry and you’re waking up with a splitting hangover thanks to your buddy Jack.

You think if she was once in love then you can get her there again – and you’d be wrong. She might forgive and forget all the mistakes that caused her to leave on an intellectual level but her INTEREST LEVEL will never rise above 49 again – she cannot at a base emotional level ever feel the way she felt again – it’s just not possible!

Get An Ex Girlfriend Back#3: “But But But I Know Of Couples That Got Back Together”

Yes, yes, yes – there are PLENTY of examples of this happening – I can wander around for the next month interviewing couples and I bet I can find plenty of examples that go something like this for our hero and heroine Tom and Caprice.

*Tom and Caprice are in love.

*Caprice slowly falls out of love until one night she blindsides Tom with the “I need my space”/”We might need to take a break”/”I don’t feel the same about you anymore”/”You’ll always be special to me”/”etc.” speech.

*Lots of tears are involved.

*Surprisingly Tom’s friends say they spotted Caprice two days later with another man! Shocking!

*Tom spends the next months pathetically leaving messages and staying in touch so she knows he’s available – after all she’s his one true love, right? Love conquers all! (ugh).

*Caprice surprisingly doesn’t care because she’s got HIGH INTEREST LEVEL in the new guy and Tom’s messages are just irritants she has to endure.

*Caprice then gets flushed by new guy (or a series of new guys) and is feeling hurt, rejected and doesn’t like to be alone.

*She goes back to old reliable (Tom) whose been staying home just waiting for her call – he’s now allowed to come back off the bench and go into the starting lineup!

*Cue the cheesy music – let the credits roll – she came back! They will live happily ever after….except….

*Caprice still has the feelings that caused her to leave imprinted on her brain – but she’s back because she couldn’t do any better. She’ll spend the next couple decades subtly (or not so subtly) telling Tom why he doesn’t really measure up and Tom will utter the phrase “What’s the matter honey” multiple times as she stares out the window dreaming about the stud that got away.

If they leave it was because their INTEREST LEVEL plummeted – so if you can put up with half a relationship when she’s back just because you can’t be without her then prepare for a nasty ride. Personally I think it’s better to be alone than it is to be with a girl that’s half interested in you.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do? 3 Ways To Make It Sting Less!

The end of a relationship can be painful because 90% of the guys never see it coming.

On the dating women radio show that I host guys will call in and talk about their breakups and those that don’t have my materials yet are usually surprised because they don’t understand that the lady has been planning her exit strategy for weeks or even months.

If you have that feeling of being kicked in your gut right now I’m here to coach you to make things better so please take the 3 strategies to heart below.  By the way, feel free to call me weekly on my radio show if you need more advice (get the numbers and more details here).

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do#1: She Could CARE LESS About You Now

Ouch! I know that was painful but believe me when I tell you that accepting this will help you feel better faster. You have to understand that women are very calculating when it comes to dating. She’s been giving out many signs you’ve missed in the last weeks or months but her INTEREST LEVEL (a degree of love I teach in my course) has been steadily going down. Once she built up enough resentment for you then she planned her escape.

DON’T BELIEVE HER TEARS, HER DESPONDENCY OR ANYTHING ELSE THAT MAKES IT SEEM LIKE SHE’S SO TORN BY HER DECISION – SHE’S NOT.

She has been planning this for awhile and she’s trying to slip away with the least drama possible so she’ll do whatever it takes to soothe your damaged ego by making it seem like it was such a tough decision. At one point it probably was for her but she built up enough resentment for you that now she’s ready to move on and don’t be surprised if another guy magically shows up in her life soon after she flushes you.

Guy, that’s the way they operate and the sooner you realize that, the better. You’re sitting at home on Friday night with Jack Daniels and sob songs on the radio while she’s out with the new dude. Don’t let yourself wallow too long because she’s not upset about the end of your relationship, no matter how many waterworks she pours on when she’s breaking up with you!

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do#2: Do Positive Things

I know that when you’re wandering around feeling like someone fired a cannonball at your gut that it’s hard to feel positive and I’m not asking you to feel that way because all your brain is going to do is scream “BS…I DON’T WANT TO BE POSITIVE” at you. So, I’m not discounting your feelings – you feel like crap and you’ll continue to feel like crap for a little while. However, you can compound this crappy feeling by doing negative things.

If your reaction is to pour yourself into food, booze, cigarettes or any other vice then all you’re going to do is physically feel like crap to go along with your mental state of feeling bad. If you cut yourself off socially then all you’re doing is getting out of practice for the next girl and you might be out there as a less svelte and more angry version of the guy you used to be if you do the wrong things.

No matter what you’re going to feel bad if you loved her because no one likes to be rejected and you’re going to go through the grief process but you can make it worse by doing negative things.

Do positive things because at some point you will be ready to move on and find another girl and you want to do that as the best version of yourself. I know you don’t feel like doing positive things but believe me you’ll thank yourself for doing so because your odds of getting a new girl go up when you are in the right place physically and mentally.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do#3: Don’t Listen To Your Ego

Your ego is your worst enemy right now because all it wants to is strike back at her for calling its coolness into question. The ego suffers greatly when rejected so it conjures up all sorts of negativity.

Harming her, her new guy, yourself or anything of that nature is something your ego will bring up to you but as you sit in jail for 15 years for assault then you won’t remember why you felt the need to go nuts – but you’ll be paying the price for it. So, control any negativity surrounding her and the situation – remember strategy #1 that she doesn’t care about you anymore no matter what you do.

You might be saying “well, I’d never do anything like that” and I sincerely hope you wouldn’t but there are other ways your ego can harm you – like thinking you have to sleep around to prove a point to her (again, remember she doesn’t care) or overcompensating in another area like the gym or work to show her how incredible you can be.

Don’t get me wrong – negativity can fuel motivation as long as you channel it right and I’d rather see you obsessing at the gym or work rather than seeing how many shots of vodka you can drink – but remember that no matter what you do you’ll feel bad for awhile – just try to be as balanced and positive as you can be for awhile and just realize this will take time.

The bottom line message I want to get across to you is that you will be okay as long as you don’t let yourself get out of control. If you got her to fall in love with you, you can get someone else.

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