3 MORE Tips On Dating Women

Dating women seems like it’s easy to do – you’re a dude, she’s a lady – you’re attracted to her so it’s time to just go wing it!  Right?  Right?  Unfortunately 90% of the guys out there get their Visa and hearts beat up before they make it past a couple dates because they do more wrong that right – but this advice will help you reverse that.

There are 3 other tips as well in this article so let’s give you 3 more (by the way, they aren’t meant to be read in order – but I would read both of them!)

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Tips On Dating Women#1:  Never Be Uptight About The Process

Let me break this concept down to you:

YOU WILL BE REJECTED.

You can’t let it affect you – it happens to everyone.  You’re a tall guy with blonde hair and her dream guy is Mario Lopez all the way back to  the poster she had in her bedroom from his “Saved By The Bell” days (Google that one if you’re not sure what I’m talking about!)

Point being is that you will not appeal to every girl in every situation – or maybe you do appeal to  her but she’s got a boyfriend or a husband – or she’s moving 1,000 miles away in a week or (etc., etc., etc.)

They must be INTERESTED and AVAILABLE for you to have a shot (obviously) and you won’t hit 100% of the pitches thrown your way.  The idea is not to be embittered, uptight, depressed or have any lasting negative emotion when you’re pursuing her because you never know when the right one is going to turn the corner.

If you start getting a “chip on your shoulder” because of all the rejection you’re taking then Ms. Right is going to pick up on your being bitter/desperate.  Believe me when I tell you that you’ll be much better off if you look at every woman like a salesman looks at a potential customer – he approaches, gives his best pitch and not everyone buys.

He doesn’t wander around being angry at the prospects that didn’t purchase because he’s too busy making new proposals.

In summary it’s okay to be aggravated/angry/frustrated when you get flushed by a girl you really like as long as you keep it in perspective and move quickly onto the next girl!

Tips On Dating Women#2:  Make Her Laugh

You might be thinking “I’m not funny.”

Fair enough.

GET funny.

Quickly.

I know you probably won’t be groomed by Jimmy Kimmel to take his place someday – but that doesn’t mean you can’t improve your humor.   Thousands of times I’ve heard this from women:  “I want a man to make me laugh.”  They like to have fun on dates guy – dates aren’t meant to be a serious thing – they’re an escape from real life and problems – a chance to chill and relax for a few hours.

You don’t have to be a stand up comedian either – you just have to learn to have light and funny banter and there are a ton of ways to do this.  I’m detailing some below but if you’re looking for more ideas, call me on my Dating Women Radio Show every Wednesday at 5:00 p.m. PT/8:00 p.m. ET – get more information here

*Watch the Cary Grant movies – one of the BEST at light/funny banter

*Take an improv or stand up class (no, you won’t be performing but the classes will help you tweak your funny bone)

*Get a book on being funnier

*Pay attention to people that are funny and ask how they do it if you can – sometimes they won’t be able to explain it but it’s worth a shot

*Develop in your mind that she likes you to keep it light and funny so groove your mind and actions to do just that

Tips On Dating Women#3:  Really Get To Know Her

Ask questions and listen for the answers – ask follow up questions on what you heard and listen more.  No, you’re not an interviewer where she feels as if she’s on the hot seat.  Think more along the lines of Jimmy Kimmel or Jimmy Fallon – that late night talk show banter where the guest (in this case, your date) is doing most of the talking but the host (in this case, you) is moving things along by really listening and interjecting funny stuff based on what’s going on in the conversation.

In fact, it’s great to watch those guys interview people because they’re very adept at the light and funny banter you want to develop and by engaging with her this way she will relax and be more comfortable with you.

That’s the whole object – you want her to feel as if you’re different than 90% of the guys out there and if you internalize my materials I guarantee you will be because many guys just fumble around dates while you’ll have a game plan to get to know her as she’s totally at ease, having fun and wondering when the next date will be.

It’s really not rocket science but you do have to TAKE YOUR TIME and look at this as a campaign instead of a “I’m doing it all on THIS date” type of way (which many guys do – they want to get to the relationship so fast that they miss just building something slowly with her).

One of the chief complaints women has is that men don’t listen – and you will be different my friend because with me on your side you’ll learn how to stand out in her eyes.

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DATING WOMEN ADVICE FOR GUYS: DOES ANGELINA REJECT BRAD WHEN HE DOESN’T WORK?

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Hey Doc,

I met Kaylee two years ago when she was a cashier at the grocery store where I often bought produce for the kitchen I ran at a local bar. I knew she liked me but never took it anywhere, until one night when she jumped over the bar and kissed me on the cheek. I gave her my number and took it slow for a few weeks until things really heated up, then it was fantastic. In early December I accepted a job managing a new kitchen because the offer was just too good to turn down. But the job fell through. I was panicked because I couldn’t pay my bills, and I got depressed and lost my self-confidence.  

At that point I felt Kaylee’s interest plummet. She still spent a lot of time at my apartment, but she was absorbed in her cell phone. She has been in the police academy for some time and will graduate in the spring. I expressed to her that I was worried she would leave me for one of the guys in the academy. She got really upset, and even though she continued to spend a lot of time here she lost more interest. Even though I succeeded in landing another job, I still sensed a distance. A couple days before Christmas, Kaylee came over, I kissed her and she started crying. She said she needed a break. She said that she didn’t know what she wanted anymore and didn’t want to hurt me.  

She checked on me at work later that night, asking if I was okay. I told her I’d make it but asked her to take my dog overnight so I wouldn’t neglect him in my depressed state. When she brought him back the next morning and I was out at church, I left a note saying I wished it wasn’t this way but I hoped she would find what she wanted. When I got back, she exclaimed “Why did you say that!? That hurts!! Apparently you don’t get that I love you to death! I still want to be with you! I just need some space!” 

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I did my best to provide her with space over the next couple of weeks. Then I put the romance on and sent her flowers and candy and slipped in a cute note asking her out for the New Year’s holiday. The message I got back was that she had plans with a flaky girlfriend that she thought might fall through, but would let me know for sure the next day. 

I was upset to be Kaylee’s backup plan. She didn’t even confirm or deny the date, leaving me checking my phone the better part of the night. I finally heard from her at noon on New Year’s Day. I was upset until she informed me she actually stayed home sick. We made plans to grab a bite later in the week. 

At that point I started reading “The System.” After informing me she could not make our Friday night date, Kaylee made a weak counteroffer of Saturday morning. I figured, based on her lack of enthusiasm and other factors, that her interest was probably 30% at best. I called her and said “I know you broke up with me because I got depressed and unconfident after losing my job. I can tell that you don’t really have feelings for me anymore and I would like to drop off your stuff and get my keys back please.”  

We did that, I said goodbye and we parted. Doc, despite how helpful I’m finding your book I don’t know what to do. I really loved this girl and the thought of losing her forever is killing me. I know your book says that this is a lost cause and I’m beating a dead horse, but everything was so perfect before this whole job thing happened. Do I have any chance with Kaylee? 

Buck – who is heartbroken

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Hi Buck, 

When you took it slow for a few weeks with Kaylee, you were actually touching on CHALLENGE, but you didn’t know it because you didn’t have my book. Can you imagine how masterful you would have been with this girl if you’d already memorized “The System?” Too bad you acted so late in the game, my friend. Everything would be different right now and you wouldn’t be in such distress. 

One of the biggest problems you had was that you were dating a girl when you didn’t have a job and money in the bank. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “If she’s clinically sane, no female wants to date a broke fellow.” Kaylee spent all kinds of time absorbed in her cell phone because she was miserable being with you when you were down and out. 

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Then you went and accused her of being disloyal by expressing your fear that she would leave you for another cadet. This is the girl you’re supposed to be in love with, Buck! Hey, you’re really sharp, man! But when she said that she needed a break from you, right then and there you were out. To you Psych majors, whenever a babe tells you that she needs distance from you, IT’S OVER. 

Next, you asked Kaylee to look after your dog because you were too depressed to do it yourself. Notice how open you’ve been with Kaylee about all of your fears and anxieties and how it keeps backfiring in your face? All of our self-help and psychology texts, marriage counselors and psychiatrists advise men to be open about their vulnerabilities and feelings, but all it does is LOWER INTEREST LEVEL. I have news for you, Buck: ROMANTIC LOVE IS CONDITIONAL. Women do not want to be with a moping, depressed, fearful man. It’s unattractive. It isn’t fun. It’s a big drag. 

But Kaylee – in perfect WOMANESE – insisted that she still loved you and wanted to be with you. And you should have said to her, “I wish you’d start hating me, then maybe you’d treat me better!” 

Why in the world are you sending Kaylee flowers and candy after she told you she didn’t want to be around you anymore? Buck, you are the poster boy for the American Wimp! Of course you were upset to be her backup plan, but that’s the position a WIMP takes. And you are a wimp, and you don’t even know it, which is really sad, Buckaroo. 

If you’d have started reading my book before you asked Kaylee out, she would be begging you for marriage and babies right now. But every guy says “I should have gotten ‘The System’ much sooner!” And that’s your problem, guy. You simply don’t know what to do when it comes to women. 

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When you called and told Kaylee all the things wrong with you, you left out that you were a WIMP. But finally on the way out you showed some sign of growing a backbone and asked for your keys back. Congrats, Buck! You’re on your way! 

When you say you’re losing Kaylee, you’re using the wrong tense. She’s already LOST. And you’re right about what happens when her interest hit 30%. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “It’s hasta luego, baby!” 

Don’t blame all of this mess on your lost job, pal. You would have still gone down with this girl because you’re a WIMP. It was only a matter of time. Being a Wimpus Americanus was your biggest problem. And you didn’t have any money in the bank. Finally, Kaylee saw too much of you and all the warts came out. 

Is there any chance with this babe? About as much as beating the Vegas odds, Buck. 

Remember, guys: you can give her anything, but don’t ever give her boredom.

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Older Men Dating Younger Women: No Country For Old Men

(Editors note:  this article first appeared in the Doc Love Club’s ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS in 2011 & is one of 80+ ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS articles available in MASTERY IV)

Older Man Dating Younger WomenHugh Hefner, Rush Limbaugh, Howard Stern (among others) would certainly dispute the title of this article.

What’s Hefner’s new fiancé?  24?  He was 60 before she was born, by the way Hefner’s worth 47 million dollars- she loves him.

Mr. Limbaugh’s lovely wife is 33 and Mr. Limbaugh’s what?  59?  About 26 years her senior, Limbaugh makes millions of dollars EVERY year- she loves him.

Howard Stern (for years) has played the raunchy morning jock, but always faithful to his first wife, well, exit first wife (with a hefty settlement) and enter Mr. Stern’s beautiful young Barbie Doll wife, he’s also worth millions and she loves him.

Rich older guy marries beautiful young trophy wife, nothing new.

What does rich older guys marrying trophy wives have to do with THE SYSTEM?

First, we all agree that Hefner, Limbaugh and Stern (if they were regular guys) would not stand out in a large crowd of guys.  IE, women would not flock to them- hardly.

We could also say that if these older gents’ current wives were hooked up to lie detectors and asked “did your husband’s money have anything to do with your marrying him?  If they said “it didn’t have to do anything with why I married him,” the needle would jump like there was a 9.4 earthquake on the Richter scale- or how about asking her the question “is he the most physically attractive man you’ve ever been attracted to?  There goes that needle again….

The radio guy Don Imus jokes about marrying a younger woman.  He makes himself the butt of a lot of jokes about the older man married to the younger woman.  It’s an act, obviously.

One thing those older rich guys have in common, they all have huge egos.

THE SYSTEMLike THE SYSTEM says, “put your ego aside.”  These rich older guys with the young wives never do.

All of the women that have married (or are about to) older rich men have at least one thing in common.  Their rich husband’s INTEREST LEVEL is higher than theirs.  Oh, they have high INTEREST LEVEL to marry for security, IE- money, but romantic love?  Uh-uh.

Hefner, Limbaugh, Imus and Stern have 9 marriages between them (soon to be 10 when Hefner marries for the 3rd time).

They can twist it, rationalize it, and joke about it, whatever.  The simple fact is that they bought their wives.

The odds that they stay married to their current trophy wives?  Less than 50/50.

Guys, whether you have millions of dollars, or not, if your INTEREST LEVEL is higher than the INTEREST LEVEL of your girlfriend, fiancé or wife, you’re just a stand in.

Hefner, Limbaugh, Imus or Stern may be in control of their wife’s daily life, but they’re not in control of their hearts, oh if they knew what their young wives were really thinking, these huge egos would take a hit- harder than NFL Linebackers deliver on Sundays.

Why do they keep marrying young attractive women?  Because they’re young and attractive – it’s why older men start dating younger women to begin with.  They reject women their own age. Why?  Because older women remind them of themselves.

Picture a woman that looks exactly like Imus, Stern, Limbaugh, or, are you ready?  Hugh Hefner!  Oh Lord….

Guys, let me say it again “if you marry a woman with low INTEREST LEVEL in you, get ready for the pain.”

Let me revise the title of this article from- “No Country For Old Men” to “No Country For Foolish Old Men.”

They can afford to be foolish and play the fool, don’t you do it.  There are already too many children being raised in single parent homes.

Note, one quick piece of advice for older guys married to younger women, when you jump out of bed and have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night (and you will)- make sure you cover that elephant arse you have, your young wife has enough to deal with.

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DATING WOMEN ADVICE FOR GUYS: DOES PINK EVER WANT AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP?

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Hey Doc,

Chantal and I have been together for six years. She’s outgoing and confident, and likes to enjoy new experiences. We’ve talked about a future together, and have basically agreed we want to share our lives. I was ready for that and had saved up for a ring, but now I don’t know if I can still trust her because of what’s been going on over the past couple of months.

We recently hit a rough patch in which Chantal revealed that she’s afraid of cheating on me, wants us to consider open relationships in the future, is upset because I hadn’t asked her to marry me, thinks I’m too clingy, and she’s scared of losing her freedom. Now I’m asking myself if I can trust someone who can’t trust herself.

I’ve not had any problems with Chantal having male friends, but all of this has made me suspicious of everything. I started looking for clues and signs in her behavior, and in conversations either with her or her friends on what could really be going on. A lack of answers from Chantal forced me to snoop through her phone in order to get to the bottom of it. I discovered that she’s been exchanging cute little texts with a guy friend of hers a whole bunch of times a day, and that this has been going on for months! The texts aren’t anything lusty or romantic, but it looks a little flirty and playful. And she’s talking to this guy a lot more than she does with me. The guy lives in a different country, and I met him once when he was in town a few months ago.

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I think Chantal has one foot out the door, but she keeps talking about a future together if we can work our issues out. I’ve started feeling jealous, betrayed and resentful of her, and I can’t help but think we’re too screwed up to make it work. And that she doesn’t know what she really wants, and is keeping this other guy primed for later or on the side.

I haven’t confronted Chantal about this new intelligence because of how I got it, on the really slim chance she and this other guy are really just friends. Want to know the kicker? I saved up for a ring, and I was going to propose a month from now! But we’ve agreed not to make any life-changing decisions for a while, and focus on what’s wrong in our relationship.

Doc, I don’t see Chantal’s Interest Level anywhere near what you prescribe for a healthy relationship. My friends tell me to work harder to get her back, but I’m thinking it’s over now. Am I right about that, or am I overreacting and only seeing demons in the shadows of my own insecurities? How do I deal with this if there’s a fighting chance of getting her back? Is it even worth trying to mend?

Russell – who has the blues

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Hi Russell,

Why would a woman who you’ve been with for six years – and who supposedly loves you – suddenly start talking about cheating? This is a HUGE RED FLAG, my friend. Chantal might talk about open relationships, but you don’t want an open relationship. Hey, most normal guys don’t want another man involved in their love life. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “It’s one on one or nothing.” So we’re talking about monogamy here. Without monogamy in a relationship – and Chantal is not in favor of monogamy – “The System” says she’s OUT. Can you trust someone who can’t trust herself? The answer is a big, fat NO. It’s that simple.

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So you’ve discovered that Chantal is in flirtatious contact with another man. Now let me ask you this: do you consider her loyal? Remember that in “The System,” LOYALTY is the number one quality you want in a woman.

Russell, the real problem here is that your girlfriend has LOW INTEREST LEVEL, which you don’t talk about, so I have to assume that you don’t have my book. Chantal at one time had high interest in you, and now she’s flirting with other guys and she’s talking about bringing other people into your romantic life. THIS IS THE WAY A WOMAN WITH LOW INTEREST TALKS AND ACTS. And you’re not built that way, guy. You might have suspicions about what she’s going to do with this other guy, but it still gets back to Chantal’s feelings for you. So you’re addressing all the wrong things here.

Dude, don’t ever tell Chantal that you went into her phone. If everything is going right with your girl and you do something like that, you’re a sneak. But if everything is going wrong, it’s okay to check. Like my cousin General Love says, “All’s fair in love and war.”

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Whose idea was it not to make life-changing decisions for a while? You and Chantal certainly didn’t make that decision simultaneously. It had to come out of one person’s mouth first, and I’d bet the ranch that it was hers. Here’s the truth: you lowered Chantal’s Interest Level. At one time you owned this girl, but you failed to maintain her interest. So whose fault is it that her Interest Level isn’t where it should be for a healthy relationship?

At this point Chantal has a lot of problems. She’s not ready to marry you. The only thing you can do now is have my book overnighted to you. Then you have to memorize it and start learning how to get her interest back into the 90s and keep it there.

It’s worth trying to mend your relationship with Chantal because you have six years in with her. But remember that you are dealing with lots of huge red flags here and when she talks about bringing other people into your love life, it’s a deal-breaker.

Remember, guys: if she’s not monogamous, she’s history.

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Questions To Ask On A First Date – 3 Great Ones

Questions To Ask On A First DateThe first date is the most nerve-wracking time for a dude.  We like to play like were so macho but when you meet her, can’t stop thinking about her and then actually get to go out with her? Yeah, you’re not such a manly man anymore – you feel like it’s the first day of high school and the bell rang without you having a clue as to where your first class is located.

I’ve got 3 great questions for you to ask on a first date below but I also wanted you to realize that in the dating relationship education course I teach called THE SYSTEM you don’t have to get everything accomplished on date 1 because this is a marathon, not a sprint – just relax and have fun with her.

Before you start reading below REMEMBER NOT TO MAKE THIS LIKE AN INTERVIEW – you might only get to one or two of the questions below and that’s okay.  They’re designed to start conversation so if you end up going off on tangents then go with them – again, you just want to relax and have fun.  Make sure also to really LISTEN to her answers because if you rapid fire through questions without showing comprehension then she is going to get turned off.

Oh, and always keep things light, keep them funny, never give her put downs and stay away from heavy subjects.  Okay, are you ready for some conversation starters?

Questions To Ask On A First Date#1:  What Do You Love About (Career, Volunteer Work, Exercise Routine, Etc.)

In the process of getting the number you probably learned a few things about her – such as she’s a high powered attorney or loves the kittens at the animal shelter she volunteers at, swims 5 days a week – whatever it is she’s passionate about something so the best way to start the conversation in a positive way is to ask her about things she loves.

Don’t be afraid to throw in your own examples of things you love but always tilt the conversation back to her – we want her talking on the date 80% of the time because women love to talk about things they’re into and the less you talk the better – too many guys oversell themselves when they should just lay back and be a mystery – because women love mystery in a guy – they love finding out about you slowly.  You’ll find that’s a common theme in my giving you questions to ask – they are all to spark conversation from mostly her.

Questions To Ask On A First Date#2:  When You’re Not Out With A Handsome Gentleman, What Do You Like To Do For Fun?

Again, you’re getting her to talk about herself and also you’re gathering future date ideas. Win- win!  Make sure to say the handsome gentleman part with a nod or a wink so she knows you’re not pulling some kind of ego move on her. As I said when I opened this article you want to keep it light, keep it funny, with no put downs or heavy subjects.

Also, a bonus to this question is that you might find out she’s, for example, super into playing volleyball  and you play beach volleyball all summer – now you have a point of commonality you didn’t have before.  The more she talks about what’s fun to her the better – because it’s keeping the date on a positive spin and you never know what things will pop out that will show how similar you two are.

Questions To Ask On A First Date#3:  The Lottery Question (aka, a goofy “get to know you” inquiry)

I’m never afraid to be playful on a date and admit I have a goofy “get to know you” first date question – it disarms her because she knows I’m a confident enough guy that I have zero problem admitting that were in the awkward phase of getting to know each other – I mean there’s nothing more awkward than a first date.

My favorite way to say this is:  “Ready for a goofy first date ‘get to know you’ question?”  If she’s playful and having fun (I wouldn’t do this question right off the bat by the way – you need a little rapport first) then she’ll smile and be open to it.  You continue on with something like “Let’s say our bartender is a secret millionaire and he won the lottery last night but has decided to give the next person that tips him more than 15% all the winnings – you’re that lucky person – what do you do with millions?”

Her answer should be fun and it will spark further conversation (and if it doesn’t then you have a non-playful woman on your hands so it’s good you found out now!)

Think about what your answer would be as well – because it’s likely she is going to reverse this question back on you (and also, the first 2 questions as well – always be prepared with what YOU’D answer).

Don’t be afraid to be a little playful with your initial answer – don’t default to what you’d think she’d want to hear like “I’d feed the homeless for a year.” You might intend to do that but you’re not trying to win a beauty pageant so don’t give that type of answer because you’ll come off stiff and not fun. I might say something like “After I buy my island, fleet of 14 cars and re-invest the rest of the money in that stock tip from the guy that recently friended me on Facebook gave me, I oughta be ready for – well, another lottery ticket to try to get out of the hole I dug with the first batch of winnings!”

She should at least chuckle at your scenario that shows you ending up broke because of a bad string of investments and then you can hit her with what you’d REALLY do with the money. The idea is to never take yourself or the date too seriously – the first date is the opening bell of a 15 round match so just have fun and make her laugh enough so she wants date 2 with you.

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Overcoming Jealousy In A Relationship – 3 Strategies

Overcoming Jealousy In A RelationshipAh jealousy, one of the oldest ways to sabotage yourself in what was a good relationship.  We all have the feelings – ALL OF US – they’re natural – but when you act on them and she’s a good, trustworthy girl with class then you will get a one-way ticket good for spending weekends alone. The 3 strategies below should coach you not to act on those feelings and for you to realize how stupid they really are.

#1:  She’s Not An Idiot, Right?

When you pull the jealousy move you’re really telling her how dumb she is. Since she’s with you but you assume she’d rather be with him then she must not be that sharp of a knife since she actually likes steak but keeps ordering liver.

That’s right – RELAX – SHE CHOSE YOU – YOU’RE THE STEAK TO HER – she didn’t choose random guy at the party – she doesn’t even know random guy at the party and didn’t even notice him until YOU STOPPED TALKING TO HER and started staring at him.

Bottom line?  She’s with you – for now – so don’t give her a reason to think she made a bad choice.

Overcoming Jealousy In A Relationship#2:  You’re Not An Idiot, Right?

When you have that elevated heartbeat and feel your anger rising because she’s going out with her girlfriends and you just know guys will be hitting on her and taking her from you, are you engaging in fantasy or do you have reason to believe that the random guys will be successful?

If the former than refer to tip #1 above – she’s not an idiot and if she chose you then you have nothing to worry about.  If it’s the latter and you really do have to worry about her getting into some kind of trouble without you around to stare coldly at any guy that notices her, THEN WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH HER?

Why in the world would you make a conscious decision to delete every other number in your phone and go out with her exclusively if you can’t really trust her?

If that is the case then you are with the wrong girl my friend and need to re-evaluate your choice of  women to get into serious relationships with.

More likely than not you weren’t an idiot – you chose a really good girl that would never think of cheating once she commits to a guy so refer to tip #1

Overcoming Jealousy In A Relationship#3:  Get Over It – She’s Attractive!

You know the feeling you got when you first saw her? Yeah, you were into her – and the reason you have a relationship now is because she felt the same way – I love it when a plan comes together!

However, you’re not the only dude in the world with working eyes and active hormones.  No matter where your honey goes she is going to get noticed and guess what?  That’s a good thing! Again, if you’re with a good, trustworthy girl (and if you’re not, refer to tip #2, you’re an idiot) then you can imagine the other guys suffering as they hit on her and hear the words:  “I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.”

You should love it when she gets hit on a lot because many want her but only one has her – YOU!

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Where Can I Meet Women? 3 Ideas

I know where you’re not going to meet women – staring at the football game or having a game controller in your hand – yes, you can meet women online and it’s a great place to start but I’ll give you 3 additional ways to encounter them in the real world below.

Where Can I Meet Women#1:  Speed Dating

I wrote a full article about speed dating with specific tips for success here but let me just give you the basics in case you don’t feel like clicking to another article at the moment.  The events are usually in a nice bar/restaurant with an even amount of age-matched men and women (for example, 25-34) and the men move around the room like musical chairs every 3-8 minutes chatting up the women that are usually sitting in some kind of circle around the location.

Each person has some kind of name tag or identifier and at the end of the evening you turn in the women that you’re interested in to the organizers and the women do the same.  If there’s a match then you’re given each other’s contact information and it’s on you at that point.

I love the efficiency of speed dating because the cost is moderate but still enough (usually $30-$50) that the women showing up are serious about finding someone.  Most ladies that pay $30-$50 and take time out of their schedules to come to a bar/restaurant to have a new guy talk to them every 3-8 minutes are there for a purpose.

Where Can I Meet Women#2:  Classes/Seminars/Arts/Etc.

If you’re attending any of the above with the specific purpose of meeting women then FORGET IT.  These types of things are great places to meet women in a low key fashion and get to know them over time and there should be some rapport that builds as you proceed because you’re both sharing a common interest and it’s a non-threatening way to get to know women.

However, if you’re going to commit time and/or money then do something you’ll personally get something out of.  You may not meet anyone so you should get SOME kind of benefit for your investment and if you have zero interest or dislike the subject but you think that “it’ll be good for you because women will be there” then you’ll fail because the women you do meet will see your disdain at some point.

When you do encounter the ladies at these events, don’t blow your chances!

Where Can I Meet Women#3:  Just Be Out  – Just Talk

I put sales into dating – great salespeople always have their antennas up.  For example, a salesperson is in line at the coffee shop and starts chatting with someone at random and finds out they have a business with “x, y and z” challenges that the salesperson has a solution for – so what do they do?  They gently push the conversation to what they can do for the person and they exchange information in hopes of a meeting.

You have to think the same way – scan for opportunities when out doing your normal thing.  Now, you won’t always be in line with a beautiful single lady just like the salesperson isn’t always going to be in line with a business owner that happens to have a need for their product but you have to always be ready and be willing to talk!

When you do talk, make sure to come off as best you can – this article will give you strategies to increase your odds of success.

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Online Dating Services – 3 Things To Know

Online dating services are great but as with anything in life there are pitfalls and things to know before jumping in.  I’ll give you 3 things below that will put you ahead of the game as far as having greater success with this platform that is allowing (as of this writing) 20% of relationships to start and flourish (and only growing).

Online Dating Services#1:  Two Professional Photos

You need one photo in business attire; one in casual gear.  Don’t let your neighbor take these shots on your Android Phone or iPhone or any other device.  Yes, yes, I know you have a great camera on the mobile device you just dropped hundreds on but only a pro knows lighting and what works best for your look.

Women zip through hundreds of profiles looking for Mr. Right so do you really want a couple hundred bucks to stand between you and the girl that might be with you for the next 40 years?

Stand out from the shirtless bathroom selfie guys with the reflection bouncing off the mirror and get her to stop and read what you have to say, which brings me to my next tip.

Online Dating Services#2:  Keep Your Profile Text Brief/Meet Her As Soon As Possible

All you should tell her is:

I’m not looking to text you 434,000x after date 1, I’m not going to tell you about all my toys or complain about the trike I didn’t get when I was 3 and I’m not going to fill your head with innuendos – I am looking for a self-reliant woman that likes to laugh and get to know a gentleman slowly.

That’s it – simple and to the point – you don’t need to sell her right in your profile text – you just need her to be intrigued.

As far as emailing back and forth with her allow 2-3 emails where you keep it light and funny with no heavy subjects or put downs – your object is to get her to meet you in the real world at a nice coffee shop or restaurant that everyone knows and she’ll feel comfortable at.

During that time with her you limit it to 45 minutes to an hour where you get her to laugh and see if she touches you.  I have way more on what you should be doing step by step over the first 60 days of a relationship (your beachhead that will set the foundation for everything with her) in my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM and The Doc Love Club so if you’re interested in learning more about this, then hit those links so that you’re so different than other guys that she wants to go beyond this first 45 minutes to an hour.

Online Dating Services#3:  Watch Out For Scammers

If a beautiful 20-something model looking type is messaging you and you notice the age range of guys she’s looking for is 45-70 then she’s probably actually a dude sitting in a basement looking to grab your credit card or social security number.  Basically if she looks too good to be true, then she probably is.

Scammers usually have unusual age ranges, ask you for money or personal information quickly, have generic profile text that is sometimes so badly written you can tell it is someone from a foreign country that doesn’t have a grasp of the nuances of English and other tell-tale signs.

The male ego so badly wants to believe that this girl who is 25 and looks like she could be a pro cheerleader is actually messaging you at age 48 looking to meet you ASAP but in the vast majority of cases it’s a scam.

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Women And Dating – 3 Things You Must NOT Do

If you want to be successful with women and dating there are 3 NOT’s that I teach you via my website, book and dating women radio show.  The funny (not funny, ha ha either!) thing is that most men that I give advice to don’t even realize they’re doing these deal breakers until they encounter me.

You’ll be way ahead of the game if you move the 3 things below into the NEVER DO THIS column when going out with women.

Women And Dating#1:  Don’t Over-Compliment

Guys think compliments are to love as to what oil is to your car engine – just keep a steady supply in there and everything will run smooth.  Unfortunately, in keeping with our car analogy theme, too many compliments is like pouring sugar in the gas tank – they cause everything to break down.

“Women love to be complimented” is what you probably think and it’s common – but they love to be complimented by someone they have a relationship with.

Think about this – what is it that you can possibly compliment her on that will allow you to either not come off as a phony or completely bore her?

Let’s tackle the “bore her” part first – you bore her when you compliment her looks – if she’s pretty then she’s been told since her teenage years the same thing over and over and over and over again – she gets that she’s pretty – because she’s been told hundreds – if not thousands of times.  A variation of “you’re so pretty” said in different ways over and over again on the first date will spell a one way ticket to Rejection Junction for you.

So, you think that you can compliment her on something other than her looks – like maybe her brains or her kindness.  Great plan – except YOU DON’T KNOW HER – SHE’S A STRANGER.  How can you tell her how smart she is when you’ve talked to her for an hour?  You’ll come off as a fake because you don’t have enough time in with her yet.

What you need to do is aim for CONVERSATION and not compliments – just tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and that you had a fun time when dropping her off.  Stand out from the bores and the phonies in her mind – and have a chance at future dates.

Women And Dating#2:  Don’t Over-Communicate

Do you want to make it a full time job in answering her various messages?  She can text you, tweet at you, share a funny cat video on your Facebook wall, give you a quick video or photo on Snapchat and oh yeah, call you.

My friend, there are only 2 things you can count on after being harnessed to her electronic leash – #1, you’re that much closer to carpal tunnel surgery and #2, she’s rapidly becoming bored with you over your lack of CHALLENGE.

Challenge is a concept I teach via my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM and I won’t go into that too heavily here except to say that when most every guy likes a girl he wants to be as available as possible to her because she seems to want his attention.  It’s harmless to talk to her daily, right?  She seems really into  you so why not give her what she wants – more of you?

The problem is that women get more interested when they have to chase you – why do you think the “bad boy” is the one that she ends up with more often than not?  Because he’s a Challenge – a negative one to be sure – but a Challenge nonetheless.  As counter-intuitive as it sounds, you have to disappear between dates – the only way she can become more interested in you is by her thinking of your last date when you had so much fun and how much she wants to see you again.  If you’re available via a wide variety of electronic devices then you short circuit her building up more feelings for you.

Let’s put it another way – I call this my Thanksgiving analogy.  Thanksgiving dinner for many people is highly anticipated – all the food, the fun, the people you haven’t seen for awhile are all things that make it a great day – but of course, mainly it’s the food.

When you smell that dinner cooking with all the fixings and desserts you can’t wait – it’s been so long since you had a feast like that and it’s going to be a lot of fun.

What happens after you’ve gotten way more than your fill?  Are you anticipating that meal anymore?  Unless it’s throwing a few tums down, you’re probably not thinking of consuming anything else!  You’re done – you’ve had it.  You have the leftovers the next few days and those are always fun – but mainly you come out of Thanksgiving thinking that it’s nice that it’s not a regular occurrence.

Same thing with the potential Ms. Right – not that you’d only see her once a year – but communicating with her between dates is like trying to have Thanksgiving dinner every single day of the year.  You have to pace yourself because without that anticipation of the next time you’re together – just like you anticipate Thanksgiving (since you don’t do it every day) – is where you want to be.

Women And Dating#3:  Don’t Pressure Her

I know you like her – and it’s hard to get her out of your mind – but keep in mind that she holds something I call a REJECTION CARD and at any point she can pull it out.  You have to think of how you act in a store where they really want to sell you something and you have many stores to choose from that sell a similar product.  In this instance you’re essentially the woman because the sales folks in the store are approaching you like you would approach ladies – in either instance a “no” can be dropped on the pursuer – the dreaded REJECTION CARD.

When you come into a store, do you like the salesperson to be up in your grill the minute you walk in giving you a high pressure pitch, especially if you’ve let them know “you’re just looking.” Flip that around into your dating life and you’ll begin to see the point I’m trying to get across.

The product you’re selling is YOU – and like a salesperson at a store, you have to catch the attention of the people that are browsing – in this case women that are browsing for guys.  Getting her out on a date with you is the equivalent of you letting the salesperson show you the features and benefits of the product – you’re not sure if you’re going to buy but you’ll at least listen to what the product can offer.

That’s all you can do guy – you can present your product – you – and there is no way any amount of badgering or high pressure will sell you to her.

Your job on a date is to treat her with respect, make sure she has fun and wants to go out with you again – without the pressure that doesn’t work on you in stores nor her when she’s out with you.

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Ex Wants To Be Friends? 3 Reasons It’s A Bad Idea

I want to tell you that in all my articles, my dating and relationship education course and my radio show, my mantra is for you to be cool so keep in mind when you read the advice below that all of this is INTERNAL.  If your ex wants to be friends then you smile and tell her it’s fine and show her NOTHING as far as your emotions go – because making a point to tell her that you don’t want to be friends is proving that you’re pouting and you don’t want that.

However, here are 3 reasons why it’s a bad idea and you won’t follow through on your friendship – in fact, you’ll pull a disappearing act on her.  She won’t realize it but the last time she’ll physically see or talk to you is after you tell her it’s okay to be good buds (just tactfully avoid her calls/emails/texts and always be busy until she gets the message).

Ex Wants To Be Friends#1:  Once It’s Over, It’s Over

Either she lowered your feelings for her (Interest Level) or you did it to her (90% of the time it’s the guy changing from the person she started dating and she gets turned off) and there’s no going back from that.  Someone dropped someone here – which means SOMEONE IS INTERESTED IN BEING MORE THAN FRIENDS no matter how they pretend that being pals is a-okay.

I don’t know about you but I don’t need underlying tensions in my friendships and that’s exactly what you’ll get – you’ll either have to fend her off if you dropped her or you can be frustrated that she won’t be your girlfriend if she dropped you and is now your buddy.

Either way, it doesn’t sound like a fun way to spend a weekend night (or any night) to me!

Ex Wants To Be Friends#2:  What Do You Get Out Of It?

So, we discussed the tension above – what do you really get out of this?  Do you think you two are getting back together (never happen – at least in the way you want it to)?  Do you think it’s going to be fun and that you can just show up and pretend that neither one of you spent time in a relationship?  How about those old arguments – think they might surface from time to time?

Here’s the deal – SOMETHING NEGATIVE happened to break you two up.  It might have been a spectacular blow up or an erosion of feelings over time – but the bottom line is a conscious decision was made to END A RELATIONSHIP – that’s not exactly a great basis to start a friendship on.

Yes, yes, I know that maybe in rare instances you both fell out of love at the same time and a friendship is possible – that’s great – but in my experience as a guy that plays the odds, in the VAST MAJORITY of cases someone dropped the other and someone is smarting from the pain they feel over getting dumped.

There is no upside to this.

Ex Wants To Be Friends#3:  It’s Preventing Ms. Right From Showing Up

You’re doing one of two things by hanging with your ex – you’re either giving her false hope if you dropped her and it would be impossible to hit on other women when out with her (unless you’re really a jerk) OR you have false hope yourself and are hanging out with her saying “friendship is cool” verbally while not believing a word of it in your head – because in the back of your mind you’ll think that staying her friend is a path back to romance – it’s not.  YOU GET ONE CHANCE, PER WOMAN, PER LIFETIME.

I know you’ve heard the stories of couples that got back together but I’m here to tell you that it’s not possible to have the same relationship you did before. THERE WAS A REASON you broke up in the first place and I teach my students that going long-term with a woman has to be smooth sailing all the way through with no Red Flags or breakups or you might have things built on a bad foundation.

All you’re doing by staying friends with your ex is preventing yourself from meeting a woman that you really might have a chance with.

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