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Hey Doc, 

I have read “The System” many times. It is a great book and you are a life-saver, as well the only person who understands men! 

I have a really serious, very complicated situation. I’m married and the father of two kids. A few years ago I moved from Russia to Malta to work at as a waiter in a restaurant. That’s where I met Mirka, who was from Bulgaria, and also came to work there as a waitress. She has a boyfriend and is the mother of one child. Anyway, we started talking and getting together outside the restaurant. We had a great time together. (I know — everything is nice in the beginning). Before I knew it, we were having an affair. 

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Mirka is still living with her boyfriend. I was still having an intimate relationship with her when my wife and kids came to Malta. Of course I started living with my wife then, but I kept meeting Mirka. Somehow my wife suspected that I had a lover, and she was right. One day I had an argument with Mirka, and she stormed over to my house and wanted to tell everything about our affair to my wife. I had no idea how to stop her, so I called my boss over to solve the problem because I knew he had an interest in Mirka. That’s how I prevented her from spilling the beans to my wife. 

Afterwards I decided to tell my wife about Mirka after all, and arranged for them to meet and talk and it has almost ruined my marriage. Doc, now I want to ruin Mirka’s relationship with her boyfriend by telling him everything that happened between us. I saved my chat history and videos of us together as evidence. I need you to show me the way here and the best way to do it. Mirka is now flirting with my boss, and all she does is put me down when other people are around. She deserves my revenge, since I’m going to lose my job because my boss isn’t smart enough to understand the kind of head games Mirka is playing. Please coach me. 

Nicolai – who wants revenge

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Hi Nicolai, 

You’re actually the first guy who’s complimented me on understanding men. It’s true that I understand women, but I also understand men and their massive egos, and that once their Interest Level climbs up into the 90s, they can’t see straight. 

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The most enormous blunder you committed was getting involved in an adulterous affair. Nicolai, there are children involved here, and you don’t seem to grasp that or you don’t care. You’re being extremely selfish, and “The System” is a pro-marriage program. It’s not a program that teaches guys how to sneak around on their wives and commit adultery. What you did was dead wrong, and you shouldn’t have done it. Again, it’s incredibly self-centered, especially because it’s going to end up messing up your innocent kids. 

Now let me ask you this: when your wife arrived in Malta and you went on sneaking meetings with Mirka, didn’t you think you were going to get caught? You’re really naïve, Nicolai! 

And why are you hurting your wife? Your wife hasn’t done anything harmful to you. Again, your actions are only going to end up destroying your children. This is just flat-out horrible behavior on your part, Nicolai. I can’t condone any of what you’re doing. It has nothing whatsoever to do with “The System.” 

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And what was the upshot of all this sleazy activity? Mirka decided that she wanted to come to your house and spill everything to your wife! So now you’ve got a nutcase on your hands. To boot, you insisted on bringing your boss into your love life. Hello? Are you sure you read my book? It sure doesn’t sound like it! 

Then you made the brilliant decision to tell your wife about Mirka after all. Oh yeah, that’s really going to raise your wife’s Interest Level in you! To you Psych majors, when you tell your wife that you’re having an affair with another woman, do you really think she’s going to say “Oh, you’re having an affair behind my back? I forgive you! Thanks for being so open and honest, dear! And I won’t harbor any resentment against you later – I promise!” That’s what some other love doctors will advise you to do nowadays, but not me! 

I got news for you, pal – your marriage was already ruined when you started messing around with a woman who had a boyfriend when you were already married. You have to learn how to take responsibility for your actions, Nicolai! 

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Now you want to tell Mirka’s boyfriend everything the two of you were up to. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “Revenge is stupidity.” Especially when you’re messing with Mirka’s boyfriend! What if he decides he wants to come to your house and beat you up? Or meet with your wife? You’ll just end up making this entire morass worse if you do something like that. You knew that Mirka was taken and that you were married in the first place, so anything you do now will only make this mess even stickier. 

You want my coaching? Walk away and forget the whole thing. Apologize to your wife and be loyal to her. That’s what you have to do. You have to quit being so selfish. Any vengeful action you take now is only going to screw up Mirka’s kid and your kids even more. 

Now you’re complaining that Mirka is flirting with your boss. Hey man, you’re the one who set that up by directly involving him in your affairs. You were the one who called him and asked him to intervene in your crisis. What did you think was going to happen? It was stupid of you to do that. All this mess that you’re trying to blame on Mirka was created by you. You were the one who cheated with her and you were the one who complicated it further by involving your boss. It’s not Mirka’s fault. It’s not your wife’s fault. IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT. You’re the problem. 

The System” is not about guys wreaking vengeance on exes. When you have a good wife you’re supposed to treat her with respect and not mess around on her. That’s what “The System” is about. 

Don’t worry about how dumb your boss is, Nicolai. You’re not the president of a corporation – you’re a waiter. And there aren’t that many restaurants in Malta, so try to hold on to your job. If you don’t, you won’t be able to pay alimony and child support. 

Remember, guys: when a woman outsmarts you, it’s a waste of time to try to get back at her.

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Should I Text Her? 3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO

Technology is changing – human nature isn’t. When considering tapping out a quick message on your iPhone 6+ (because the screen is so big and it’s so easy!) then consider the 3 reasons below why it’s a bad idea to stay in constant contact with her.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#1: Body Language & Tone Are Out The Window

If you’re sitting right across from her you can tell your stories in such a way they come off humorous and light & see her reaction. You get instant feedback on your interaction – because you’re in the real world face to face with her.

Over text you lose that human to human interaction – and it’s a clunky way to have a conversation. It’s impossible to keep your fingers moving as fast as you can move your vocal cords and you really have no idea what impact your words had until the next text rolls in. Compare that to INSTANTLY seeing her eyes light up with your funny joke.

Also, you have to explain yourself too much in texts – especially if you don’t know her that well because you want to make sure she’s interpreting your commentary in the right way – you don’t want her to be insulted by something you’re kidding about, right? In person with your body language, tone of voice and the way you deliver things she can instantly know where you’re coming from – but in texts you have to overload the “LOL’s,” “J/K’s” and smiley faces to make the point that it’s a joke sometimes.

No matter what, a conversation via text is a bad look because there is so LITTLE feedback you can get for your words versus real world conversation.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#2: Want Her To Think You Have No Life?

She wants you to text her after the date to make sure “you got home safely” or likes hearing from you when she wakes up or enjoys taking a break in the middle of the day to read your texts. Aren’t life and love grand? Who knew that $100 a month you spent on your Smart Phone was the key to getting her to fall in love with her?

It isn’t.

I love chocolate ice cream and when I’m really hungry for it I can eat the whole half-gallon but on the rare occasions I do something that dumb my stomach resembles a drunken brawl among rival sports fans. Even though I love chocolate ice cream and THOUGHT I WANTED to eat the whole half-gallon I really didn’t.

Same with her – she THINKS SHE WANTS a guy to constantly communicate with her as he lavishes her with attention 160 characters at a time but in reality she’ll get sick of you texting just as my stomach got sick of having Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie poured into it.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#3: Can You Do This For 40 Years?

Okay, let’s just say you have a really insecure girl and she loves the fact that you text her all day long – because it’s validation of your undying love. You’re more than happy to oblige because it’s so cute she wants all this attention – and man, that long hair, those beautiful eyes , her soft voice as she laughs – how could you not want to stay in contact with this angel?

I’m here to tell you that’s it’s all fun and games until your orthopedic surgeon gleefully exclaims “New Porsche for me!” as he’s looking over your carpal tunnel. Okay, maybe not to that extreme but can you imagine having your HTC One be your electronic leash for the next 6 months, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 40 years???? Because that’s what it will be. Once you start the texting habit you won’t be able to go back.

Believe me when I tell you what once was “cute” will become a mind-numbing chore as you pass the 2,000,000 text mark quicker than you get to your silver anniversary.

There’s really only one of two ways to go with texting – either you have a woman with normal to high self-esteem that will get sick of your texting and drop you or you’ll get a low self-esteem type to constantly need a text “hit” from you as you rapidly dream of a day where you can sink your phone in the nearest body of water!

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3 Signs Of Falling In Love – And Why You Need To Chill!

3 Signs Of Falling In LoveYou love her, right tough guy? You’ve been spending a lot of time with her and it’s undeniable – you know she’s the one for you and she seems to be equally into you. I’m going to give you three sure fire signs below but also ask you proceed with caution because the “falling” part of falling in love can be pretty dangerous if you try to sprint instead of run a marathon.

So, you’ll get 3 signs of falling in love below along with some words of caution from the dating relationship education course I teach (called THE SYSTEM) so you don’t blow it with her!

3 Signs Of Falling In Love

#1: You Think About Her All The Time

I got the chicken dance song stuck in my head the other day – along with the images of people flapping their arms – not a fun thing to have on auto-repeat. Now in your case I’m sure that it’s her smile, perfume, beautiful hair, the skirt she wore when you picked her up Saturday that are stuck in your head.

Awesome, right? You’re just staring away at that spreadsheet you should have been working on for the last 20 minutes and the blinking cursor represents her dancing (yeah, you’re gone!)

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: It’s great to feel this way but you’ll blow it if you stay in constant contact with her. You know how you’re greatly anticipating the next date with her? She should be doing the same thing – so don’t short circuit that process by getting in her face by trying to see her every day or texting her all day long. Space is what you need so that both of your feelings grow.

3 Signs Of Falling In Love#2: She’s The Only One You See Even In A Crowded Room

There are plenty of people around you when you’re out but as far as you’re concerned she’s real and in full color and they’re vague black and white shadows. It’s unbelievable that you could exclude everything else in your head besides her – but here you are!

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: If you two are in love you might go the distance – I know your hormones and the newness of everything has kicked in but all of this is the opening gun to the NYC Marathon and not an Olympic 100 M dash – so pace yourself and be careful not to try to exclude everything else when out with her. It’s natural to want her all to yourself because all you could think of was her all week long and now that she’s here you want 100% – but it’s not realistic – at some point you two will settle into a relationship that has time with friends, time apart and of course your time together. All I’m saying is not to go too over the top when your hormones are in Mexican Jumping Bean mode so you don’t scare her off.

3 Signs Of Falling In Love#3: Her Kiss Vibrates Through You

This requires no explanation – you might be able to bench 250 but when she locks lips with you this 110# woman has you exactly where she wants you – or at least that’s what your brain is telling you! All I know is a variation of “YEAH, THAT’S RIGHT” pulsates from your head to your toes.

Word of caution from THE SYSTEM: As Jodeci once said in the great song “Stay” she feels so sexy and so good – and that’s cool – as long as you keep that feeling to yourself. It was okay for Jodeci to sing it and make millions but it’s not okay for you to utter it and blow it with her.

YOUR ACTIONS with her and not you saying a bunch of stuff is what’s going to keep her feelings (INTEREST LEVEL) for you high. The biggest mistake guys in love make is to blurt out a bunch of stuff about how into her they are and even use the “L” word and tell her they love her. It’s ANTI-CHALLENGE and while you think you’re scoring points with her all your doing is stamping down the ability for her to fall for you more deeply.

Listen – she is into you already – keep treating her well via what you do instead of what you say and you’ll be much further ahead.

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Get An Ex Girlfriend Back? 3 Reasons It’s a BAD Idea

Ugh.

All over the internet – all day long – I keep seeing all these products that show you a multitude of ways to get an ex girlfriend back and I’m here to tell you that you’re wasting your money and time.

If you’re ready to move past the false hope and stop living in a time that’s never coming back then read on. If you want to ensure you get half the relationship you deserve with the old girl versus the great relationship you could get with a new lady in your life then stop reading.

Your choice.

Get An Ex Girlfriend Back#1: There Was A Reason You Broke Up

Person A loves person B and vice versa – they always have a great time together and people comment all the time as to how in love they are.

Then why did person A just flush person B down the tubes?

It can’t happen if what I said in the first sentence was true – if two people are in love and having a great time then one can’t blow off the other (unless one of them has something really wrong in their thought processes).

In the game of love there is but one parachute on the plane – and in a crash one is going to survive and one is going down. It’s the one that loses their feelings first and gets out that floats to the earth ready to get on another flight (probably even have their ticket already) while the other experiences the emotional equivalent of careening into the mountain.

People don’t just simultaneously lose their feelings for each other – usually one person’s interest is dipping down until it’s time to move on – and in the relationship education course I teach called THE SYSTEM, 90% of the time it’s a guy that got her to fall in love but couldn’t keep her in love.

Point is – someone is really hurting because they got blindsided while the other has enough reasons in their head to be the one that wanted out and their emotion is one of relief to be gone.

Get An Ex Girlfriend Back#2: How Are You Going To Find Someone New?

She’s out and around – dating Tom, laughing with Dick and having fun with Harry – and you’re in front of the computer with your friend Jack Daniels thinking that your life is over . Do I paint a pretty accurate picture?

If your mind is bent on getting her back then all you’re doing is living in the past and trying to get to a time that will never be again.

In my course the female INTEREST LEVEL is most important – think of it as a degree of love – in the 90’s she’s madly in love and you can do no wrong in her eyes – when it gets to 49 or lower then she’s got a date with Harry and you’re waking up with a splitting hangover thanks to your buddy Jack.

You think if she was once in love then you can get her there again – and you’d be wrong. She might forgive and forget all the mistakes that caused her to leave on an intellectual level but her INTEREST LEVEL will never rise above 49 again – she cannot at a base emotional level ever feel the way she felt again – it’s just not possible!

Get An Ex Girlfriend Back#3: “But But But I Know Of Couples That Got Back Together”

Yes, yes, yes – there are PLENTY of examples of this happening – I can wander around for the next month interviewing couples and I bet I can find plenty of examples that go something like this for our hero and heroine Tom and Caprice.

*Tom and Caprice are in love.

*Caprice slowly falls out of love until one night she blindsides Tom with the “I need my space”/”We might need to take a break”/”I don’t feel the same about you anymore”/”You’ll always be special to me”/”etc.” speech.

*Lots of tears are involved.

*Surprisingly Tom’s friends say they spotted Caprice two days later with another man! Shocking!

*Tom spends the next months pathetically leaving messages and staying in touch so she knows he’s available – after all she’s his one true love, right? Love conquers all! (ugh).

*Caprice surprisingly doesn’t care because she’s got HIGH INTEREST LEVEL in the new guy and Tom’s messages are just irritants she has to endure.

*Caprice then gets flushed by new guy (or a series of new guys) and is feeling hurt, rejected and doesn’t like to be alone.

*She goes back to old reliable (Tom) whose been staying home just waiting for her call – he’s now allowed to come back off the bench and go into the starting lineup!

*Cue the cheesy music – let the credits roll – she came back! They will live happily ever after….except….

*Caprice still has the feelings that caused her to leave imprinted on her brain – but she’s back because she couldn’t do any better. She’ll spend the next couple decades subtly (or not so subtly) telling Tom why he doesn’t really measure up and Tom will utter the phrase “What’s the matter honey” multiple times as she stares out the window dreaming about the stud that got away.

If they leave it was because their INTEREST LEVEL plummeted – so if you can put up with half a relationship when she’s back just because you can’t be without her then prepare for a nasty ride. Personally I think it’s better to be alone than it is to be with a girl that’s half interested in you.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do? 3 Ways To Make It Sting Less!

The end of a relationship can be painful because 90% of the guys never see it coming.

On the dating women radio show that I host guys will call in and talk about their breakups and those that don’t have my materials yet are usually surprised because they don’t understand that the lady has been planning her exit strategy for weeks or even months.

If you have that feeling of being kicked in your gut right now I’m here to coach you to make things better so please take the 3 strategies to heart below.  By the way, feel free to call me weekly on my radio show if you need more advice (get the numbers and more details here).

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do#1: She Could CARE LESS About You Now

Ouch! I know that was painful but believe me when I tell you that accepting this will help you feel better faster. You have to understand that women are very calculating when it comes to dating. She’s been giving out many signs you’ve missed in the last weeks or months but her INTEREST LEVEL (a degree of love I teach in my course) has been steadily going down. Once she built up enough resentment for you then she planned her escape.

DON’T BELIEVE HER TEARS, HER DESPONDENCY OR ANYTHING ELSE THAT MAKES IT SEEM LIKE SHE’S SO TORN BY HER DECISION – SHE’S NOT.

She has been planning this for awhile and she’s trying to slip away with the least drama possible so she’ll do whatever it takes to soothe your damaged ego by making it seem like it was such a tough decision. At one point it probably was for her but she built up enough resentment for you that now she’s ready to move on and don’t be surprised if another guy magically shows up in her life soon after she flushes you.

Guy, that’s the way they operate and the sooner you realize that, the better. You’re sitting at home on Friday night with Jack Daniels and sob songs on the radio while she’s out with the new dude. Don’t let yourself wallow too long because she’s not upset about the end of your relationship, no matter how many waterworks she pours on when she’s breaking up with you!

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do#2: Do Positive Things

I know that when you’re wandering around feeling like someone fired a cannonball at your gut that it’s hard to feel positive and I’m not asking you to feel that way because all your brain is going to do is scream “BS…I DON’T WANT TO BE POSITIVE” at you. So, I’m not discounting your feelings – you feel like crap and you’ll continue to feel like crap for a little while. However, you can compound this crappy feeling by doing negative things.

If your reaction is to pour yourself into food, booze, cigarettes or any other vice then all you’re going to do is physically feel like crap to go along with your mental state of feeling bad. If you cut yourself off socially then all you’re doing is getting out of practice for the next girl and you might be out there as a less svelte and more angry version of the guy you used to be if you do the wrong things.

No matter what you’re going to feel bad if you loved her because no one likes to be rejected and you’re going to go through the grief process but you can make it worse by doing negative things.

Do positive things because at some point you will be ready to move on and find another girl and you want to do that as the best version of yourself. I know you don’t feel like doing positive things but believe me you’ll thank yourself for doing so because your odds of getting a new girl go up when you are in the right place physically and mentally.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do#3: Don’t Listen To Your Ego

Your ego is your worst enemy right now because all it wants to is strike back at her for calling its coolness into question. The ego suffers greatly when rejected so it conjures up all sorts of negativity.

Harming her, her new guy, yourself or anything of that nature is something your ego will bring up to you but as you sit in jail for 15 years for assault then you won’t remember why you felt the need to go nuts – but you’ll be paying the price for it. So, control any negativity surrounding her and the situation – remember strategy #1 that she doesn’t care about you anymore no matter what you do.

You might be saying “well, I’d never do anything like that” and I sincerely hope you wouldn’t but there are other ways your ego can harm you – like thinking you have to sleep around to prove a point to her (again, remember she doesn’t care) or overcompensating in another area like the gym or work to show her how incredible you can be.

Don’t get me wrong – negativity can fuel motivation as long as you channel it right and I’d rather see you obsessing at the gym or work rather than seeing how many shots of vodka you can drink – but remember that no matter what you do you’ll feel bad for awhile – just try to be as balanced and positive as you can be for awhile and just realize this will take time.

The bottom line message I want to get across to you is that you will be okay as long as you don’t let yourself get out of control. If you got her to fall in love with you, you can get someone else.

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3 MORE Tips On Dating Women

Dating women seems like it’s easy to do – you’re a dude, she’s a lady – you’re attracted to her so it’s time to just go wing it!  Right?  Right?  Unfortunately 90% of the guys out there get their Visa and hearts beat up before they make it past a couple dates because they do more wrong that right – but this advice will help you reverse that.

There are 3 other tips as well in this article so let’s give you 3 more (by the way, they aren’t meant to be read in order – but I would read both of them!)

Remember guys, I’m here for you and it’s so easy to connect with me for all sorts of goodies but let’s get you to the good stuff and start you on the path to setting yourself apart from 90% of the guys you’re competing against in the dating scene.

Tips On Dating Women#1:  Never Be Uptight About The Process

Let me break this concept down to you:

YOU WILL BE REJECTED.

You can’t let it affect you – it happens to everyone.  You’re a tall guy with blonde hair and her dream guy is Mario Lopez all the way back to  the poster she had in her bedroom from his “Saved By The Bell” days (Google that one if you’re not sure what I’m talking about!)

Point being is that you will not appeal to every girl in every situation – or maybe you do appeal to  her but she’s got a boyfriend or a husband – or she’s moving 1,000 miles away in a week or (etc., etc., etc.)

They must be INTERESTED and AVAILABLE for you to have a shot (obviously) and you won’t hit 100% of the pitches thrown your way.  The idea is not to be embittered, uptight, depressed or have any lasting negative emotion when you’re pursuing her because you never know when the right one is going to turn the corner.

If you start getting a “chip on your shoulder” because of all the rejection you’re taking then Ms. Right is going to pick up on your being bitter/desperate.  Believe me when I tell you that you’ll be much better off if you look at every woman like a salesman looks at a potential customer – he approaches, gives his best pitch and not everyone buys.

He doesn’t wander around being angry at the prospects that didn’t purchase because he’s too busy making new proposals.

In summary it’s okay to be aggravated/angry/frustrated when you get flushed by a girl you really like as long as you keep it in perspective and move quickly onto the next girl!

Tips On Dating Women#2:  Make Her Laugh

You might be thinking “I’m not funny.”

Fair enough.

GET funny.

Quickly.

I know you probably won’t be groomed by Jimmy Kimmel to take his place someday – but that doesn’t mean you can’t improve your humor.   Thousands of times I’ve heard this from women:  “I want a man to make me laugh.”  They like to have fun on dates guy – dates aren’t meant to be a serious thing – they’re an escape from real life and problems – a chance to chill and relax for a few hours.

You don’t have to be a stand up comedian either – you just have to learn to have light and funny banter and there are a ton of ways to do this.  I’m detailing some below but if you’re looking for more ideas, call me on my Dating Women Radio Show every Wednesday at 5:00 p.m. PT/8:00 p.m. ET – get more information here

*Watch the Cary Grant movies – one of the BEST at light/funny banter

*Take an improv or stand up class (no, you won’t be performing but the classes will help you tweak your funny bone)

*Get a book on being funnier

*Pay attention to people that are funny and ask how they do it if you can – sometimes they won’t be able to explain it but it’s worth a shot

*Develop in your mind that she likes you to keep it light and funny so groove your mind and actions to do just that

Tips On Dating Women#3:  Really Get To Know Her

Ask questions and listen for the answers – ask follow up questions on what you heard and listen more.  No, you’re not an interviewer where she feels as if she’s on the hot seat.  Think more along the lines of Jimmy Kimmel or Jimmy Fallon – that late night talk show banter where the guest (in this case, your date) is doing most of the talking but the host (in this case, you) is moving things along by really listening and interjecting funny stuff based on what’s going on in the conversation.

In fact, it’s great to watch those guys interview people because they’re very adept at the light and funny banter you want to develop and by engaging with her this way she will relax and be more comfortable with you.

That’s the whole object – you want her to feel as if you’re different than 90% of the guys out there and if you internalize my materials I guarantee you will be because many guys just fumble around dates while you’ll have a game plan to get to know her as she’s totally at ease, having fun and wondering when the next date will be.

It’s really not rocket science but you do have to TAKE YOUR TIME and look at this as a campaign instead of a “I’m doing it all on THIS date” type of way (which many guys do – they want to get to the relationship so fast that they miss just building something slowly with her).

One of the chief complaints women has is that men don’t listen – and you will be different my friend because with me on your side you’ll learn how to stand out in her eyes.

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Older Men Dating Younger Women: No Country For Old Men

(Editors note:  this article first appeared in the Doc Love Club’s ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS in 2011 & is one of 80+ ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS articles available in MASTERY IV)

Older Man Dating Younger WomenHugh Hefner, Rush Limbaugh, Howard Stern (among others) would certainly dispute the title of this article.

What’s Hefner’s new fiancé?  24?  He was 60 before she was born, by the way Hefner’s worth 47 million dollars- she loves him.

Mr. Limbaugh’s lovely wife is 33 and Mr. Limbaugh’s what?  59?  About 26 years her senior, Limbaugh makes millions of dollars EVERY year- she loves him.

Howard Stern (for years) has played the raunchy morning jock, but always faithful to his first wife, well, exit first wife (with a hefty settlement) and enter Mr. Stern’s beautiful young Barbie Doll wife, he’s also worth millions and she loves him.

Rich older guy marries beautiful young trophy wife, nothing new.

What does rich older guys marrying trophy wives have to do with THE SYSTEM?

First, we all agree that Hefner, Limbaugh and Stern (if they were regular guys) would not stand out in a large crowd of guys.  IE, women would not flock to them- hardly.

We could also say that if these older gents’ current wives were hooked up to lie detectors and asked “did your husband’s money have anything to do with your marrying him?  If they said “it didn’t have to do anything with why I married him,” the needle would jump like there was a 9.4 earthquake on the Richter scale- or how about asking her the question “is he the most physically attractive man you’ve ever been attracted to?  There goes that needle again….

The radio guy Don Imus jokes about marrying a younger woman.  He makes himself the butt of a lot of jokes about the older man married to the younger woman.  It’s an act, obviously.

One thing those older rich guys have in common, they all have huge egos.

THE SYSTEMLike THE SYSTEM says, “put your ego aside.”  These rich older guys with the young wives never do.

All of the women that have married (or are about to) older rich men have at least one thing in common.  Their rich husband’s INTEREST LEVEL is higher than theirs.  Oh, they have high INTEREST LEVEL to marry for security, IE- money, but romantic love?  Uh-uh.

Hefner, Limbaugh, Imus and Stern have 9 marriages between them (soon to be 10 when Hefner marries for the 3rd time).

They can twist it, rationalize it, and joke about it, whatever.  The simple fact is that they bought their wives.

The odds that they stay married to their current trophy wives?  Less than 50/50.

Guys, whether you have millions of dollars, or not, if your INTEREST LEVEL is higher than the INTEREST LEVEL of your girlfriend, fiancé or wife, you’re just a stand in.

Hefner, Limbaugh, Imus or Stern may be in control of their wife’s daily life, but they’re not in control of their hearts, oh if they knew what their young wives were really thinking, these huge egos would take a hit- harder than NFL Linebackers deliver on Sundays.

Why do they keep marrying young attractive women?  Because they’re young and attractive – it’s why older men start dating younger women to begin with.  They reject women their own age. Why?  Because older women remind them of themselves.

Picture a woman that looks exactly like Imus, Stern, Limbaugh, or, are you ready?  Hugh Hefner!  Oh Lord….

Guys, let me say it again “if you marry a woman with low INTEREST LEVEL in you, get ready for the pain.”

Let me revise the title of this article from- “No Country For Old Men” to “No Country For Foolish Old Men.”

They can afford to be foolish and play the fool, don’t you do it.  There are already too many children being raised in single parent homes.

Note, one quick piece of advice for older guys married to younger women, when you jump out of bed and have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night (and you will)- make sure you cover that elephant arse you have, your young wife has enough to deal with.

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Questions To Ask On A First Date – 3 Great Ones

Questions To Ask On A First DateThe first date is the most nerve-wracking time for a dude.  We like to play like were so macho but when you meet her, can’t stop thinking about her and then actually get to go out with her? Yeah, you’re not such a manly man anymore – you feel like it’s the first day of high school and the bell rang without you having a clue as to where your first class is located.

I’ve got 3 great questions for you to ask on a first date below but I also wanted you to realize that in the dating relationship education course I teach called THE SYSTEM you don’t have to get everything accomplished on date 1 because this is a marathon, not a sprint – just relax and have fun with her.

Before you start reading below REMEMBER NOT TO MAKE THIS LIKE AN INTERVIEW – you might only get to one or two of the questions below and that’s okay.  They’re designed to start conversation so if you end up going off on tangents then go with them – again, you just want to relax and have fun.  Make sure also to really LISTEN to her answers because if you rapid fire through questions without showing comprehension then she is going to get turned off.

Oh, and always keep things light, keep them funny, never give her put downs and stay away from heavy subjects.  Okay, are you ready for some conversation starters?

Questions To Ask On A First Date#1:  What Do You Love About (Career, Volunteer Work, Exercise Routine, Etc.)

In the process of getting the number you probably learned a few things about her – such as she’s a high powered attorney or loves the kittens at the animal shelter she volunteers at, swims 5 days a week – whatever it is she’s passionate about something so the best way to start the conversation in a positive way is to ask her about things she loves.

Don’t be afraid to throw in your own examples of things you love but always tilt the conversation back to her – we want her talking on the date 80% of the time because women love to talk about things they’re into and the less you talk the better – too many guys oversell themselves when they should just lay back and be a mystery – because women love mystery in a guy – they love finding out about you slowly.  You’ll find that’s a common theme in my giving you questions to ask – they are all to spark conversation from mostly her.

Questions To Ask On A First Date#2:  When You’re Not Out With A Handsome Gentleman, What Do You Like To Do For Fun?

Again, you’re getting her to talk about herself and also you’re gathering future date ideas. Win- win!  Make sure to say the handsome gentleman part with a nod or a wink so she knows you’re not pulling some kind of ego move on her. As I said when I opened this article you want to keep it light, keep it funny, with no put downs or heavy subjects.

Also, a bonus to this question is that you might find out she’s, for example, super into playing volleyball  and you play beach volleyball all summer – now you have a point of commonality you didn’t have before.  The more she talks about what’s fun to her the better – because it’s keeping the date on a positive spin and you never know what things will pop out that will show how similar you two are.

Questions To Ask On A First Date#3:  The Lottery Question (aka, a goofy “get to know you” inquiry)

I’m never afraid to be playful on a date and admit I have a goofy “get to know you” first date question – it disarms her because she knows I’m a confident enough guy that I have zero problem admitting that were in the awkward phase of getting to know each other – I mean there’s nothing more awkward than a first date.

My favorite way to say this is:  “Ready for a goofy first date ‘get to know you’ question?”  If she’s playful and having fun (I wouldn’t do this question right off the bat by the way – you need a little rapport first) then she’ll smile and be open to it.  You continue on with something like “Let’s say our bartender is a secret millionaire and he won the lottery last night but has decided to give the next person that tips him more than 15% all the winnings – you’re that lucky person – what do you do with millions?”

Her answer should be fun and it will spark further conversation (and if it doesn’t then you have a non-playful woman on your hands so it’s good you found out now!)

Think about what your answer would be as well – because it’s likely she is going to reverse this question back on you (and also, the first 2 questions as well – always be prepared with what YOU’D answer).

Don’t be afraid to be a little playful with your initial answer – don’t default to what you’d think she’d want to hear like “I’d feed the homeless for a year.” You might intend to do that but you’re not trying to win a beauty pageant so don’t give that type of answer because you’ll come off stiff and not fun. I might say something like “After I buy my island, fleet of 14 cars and re-invest the rest of the money in that stock tip from the guy that recently friended me on Facebook gave me, I oughta be ready for – well, another lottery ticket to try to get out of the hole I dug with the first batch of winnings!”

She should at least chuckle at your scenario that shows you ending up broke because of a bad string of investments and then you can hit her with what you’d REALLY do with the money. The idea is to never take yourself or the date too seriously – the first date is the opening bell of a 15 round match so just have fun and make her laugh enough so she wants date 2 with you.

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Overcoming Jealousy In A Relationship – 3 Strategies

Overcoming Jealousy In A RelationshipAh jealousy, one of the oldest ways to sabotage yourself in what was a good relationship.  We all have the feelings – ALL OF US – they’re natural – but when you act on them and she’s a good, trustworthy girl with class then you will get a one-way ticket good for spending weekends alone. The 3 strategies below should coach you not to act on those feelings and for you to realize how stupid they really are.

#1:  She’s Not An Idiot, Right?

When you pull the jealousy move you’re really telling her how dumb she is. Since she’s with you but you assume she’d rather be with him then she must not be that sharp of a knife since she actually likes steak but keeps ordering liver.

That’s right – RELAX – SHE CHOSE YOU – YOU’RE THE STEAK TO HER – she didn’t choose random guy at the party – she doesn’t even know random guy at the party and didn’t even notice him until YOU STOPPED TALKING TO HER and started staring at him.

Bottom line?  She’s with you – for now – so don’t give her a reason to think she made a bad choice.

Overcoming Jealousy In A Relationship#2:  You’re Not An Idiot, Right?

When you have that elevated heartbeat and feel your anger rising because she’s going out with her girlfriends and you just know guys will be hitting on her and taking her from you, are you engaging in fantasy or do you have reason to believe that the random guys will be successful?

If the former than refer to tip #1 above – she’s not an idiot and if she chose you then you have nothing to worry about.  If it’s the latter and you really do have to worry about her getting into some kind of trouble without you around to stare coldly at any guy that notices her, THEN WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH HER?

Why in the world would you make a conscious decision to delete every other number in your phone and go out with her exclusively if you can’t really trust her?

If that is the case then you are with the wrong girl my friend and need to re-evaluate your choice of  women to get into serious relationships with.

More likely than not you weren’t an idiot – you chose a really good girl that would never think of cheating once she commits to a guy so refer to tip #1

Overcoming Jealousy In A Relationship#3:  Get Over It – She’s Attractive!

You know the feeling you got when you first saw her? Yeah, you were into her – and the reason you have a relationship now is because she felt the same way – I love it when a plan comes together!

However, you’re not the only dude in the world with working eyes and active hormones.  No matter where your honey goes she is going to get noticed and guess what?  That’s a good thing! Again, if you’re with a good, trustworthy girl (and if you’re not, refer to tip #2, you’re an idiot) then you can imagine the other guys suffering as they hit on her and hear the words:  “I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.”

You should love it when she gets hit on a lot because many want her but only one has her – YOU!

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Where Can I Meet Women? 3 Ideas

I know where you’re not going to meet women – staring at the football game or having a game controller in your hand – yes, you can meet women online and it’s a great place to start but I’ll give you 3 additional ways to encounter them in the real world below.

Where Can I Meet Women#1:  Speed Dating

I wrote a full article about speed dating with specific tips for success here but let me just give you the basics in case you don’t feel like clicking to another article at the moment.  The events are usually in a nice bar/restaurant with an even amount of age-matched men and women (for example, 25-34) and the men move around the room like musical chairs every 3-8 minutes chatting up the women that are usually sitting in some kind of circle around the location.

Each person has some kind of name tag or identifier and at the end of the evening you turn in the women that you’re interested in to the organizers and the women do the same.  If there’s a match then you’re given each other’s contact information and it’s on you at that point.

I love the efficiency of speed dating because the cost is moderate but still enough (usually $30-$50) that the women showing up are serious about finding someone.  Most ladies that pay $30-$50 and take time out of their schedules to come to a bar/restaurant to have a new guy talk to them every 3-8 minutes are there for a purpose.

Where Can I Meet Women#2:  Classes/Seminars/Arts/Etc.

If you’re attending any of the above with the specific purpose of meeting women then FORGET IT.  These types of things are great places to meet women in a low key fashion and get to know them over time and there should be some rapport that builds as you proceed because you’re both sharing a common interest and it’s a non-threatening way to get to know women.

However, if you’re going to commit time and/or money then do something you’ll personally get something out of.  You may not meet anyone so you should get SOME kind of benefit for your investment and if you have zero interest or dislike the subject but you think that “it’ll be good for you because women will be there” then you’ll fail because the women you do meet will see your disdain at some point.

When you do encounter the ladies at these events, don’t blow your chances!

Where Can I Meet Women#3:  Just Be Out  – Just Talk

I put sales into dating – great salespeople always have their antennas up.  For example, a salesperson is in line at the coffee shop and starts chatting with someone at random and finds out they have a business with “x, y and z” challenges that the salesperson has a solution for – so what do they do?  They gently push the conversation to what they can do for the person and they exchange information in hopes of a meeting.

You have to think the same way – scan for opportunities when out doing your normal thing.  Now, you won’t always be in line with a beautiful single lady just like the salesperson isn’t always going to be in line with a business owner that happens to have a need for their product but you have to always be ready and be willing to talk!

When you do talk, make sure to come off as best you can – this article will give you strategies to increase your odds of success.

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