Three Must Have Tips On Dating Women!

The world of dating is confusing to a lot of guys – and most of you are pretty good at it but you could use some tweaks.  Hey, even a plane flying cross country has to keep making adjustments so that it doesn’t take a bunch of folks looking to enjoy a Vegas Vacation and end up depositing them somewhere in Oregon.

What are the adjustments you need to make so that you end up as her boyfriend (and more) instead of getting the dreaded “let’s just be friends” speech -and doesn’t that USUALLY happen after you’ve dinged your Visa to the point that Morgan Freeman shows up on your doorstep and thanks you for buying enough to extend his commercial contract another few years!

THREE MUST HAVE TIPS ON DATING WOMENTIP #1 ON DATING WOMEN:  MAN – IT DOESN’T MATTER HOW YOU FEEL
Pretty callous right?  I don’t care how you feel guy – we’re men and our feelings don’t count when it comes to dating women.  Why?  It’s assumed that you’re not an idiot and that you actually asked a girl out that you like and it doesn’t matter how much you like her.  Many men project their own feelings onto the lady assuming that since they like her so much she will like you back equally – but it doesn’t work that way.

Welcome to the concept of FEMALE INTEREST LEVEL.  INTEREST LEVEL itself is a degree of love – anything below 50% is the “let’s be friends” speech and 100% is her robbing banks for you (not really but you get the point).

Again, I assume your INTEREST LEVEL is high so what matters is her INTEREST LEVEL – you have to be able to look for signs that she has at least 51% INTEREST LEVEL in you (which I teach guys to do in what you could call my “relationship dating education course” called THE SYSTEM).

If HER INTEREST LEVEL isn’t 51% or higher then you have no shot and Mr. Freeman is warming up his golden pipes in anticipation of all the money you’ll waste on his employer.

THREE MUST HAVE TIPS ON DATING WOMENTIP #2 ON DATING WOMEN: LEARN TO GO IN SLOWLY
If going rapidly in dating really worked then why not wander up to women on the street with a ring in your pocket bending down on one knee to the first girl that locks eyes with you.  Try that a few times and then when you get sick of having the sheriff haul you off then I have a better idea for you.

Listen, I’m being ridiculous up there to make a point – guys these days roll so FAST.  I think it’s because of our go-go-go-GOOOOOOOOOOO  society where your updates come to you in 6 second videos or 140 characters – we’re used to instantaneously getting – well, pretty much EVERYTHING.

However, the “mating dance” hasn’t changed in thousands of years – so be aware of what she needs and your role in it.

What is the “mating dance” I refer to?  The female of the species has being getting pursued by the male of the species forever and holds the REJECTION CARD.  You know the one where she either outright tells you no or “just can’t see you until the Cleveland Browns win a Super Bowl” (in other words – a LONG TIME).

When you think about it, that REJECTION CARD can appear any time – from the time you get the courage to walk up to her, to calling her, to setting a date, to picking her up, and then rinsing and repeating – at any time during that period she can just say TIME OUT – YOU’RE OUT.  Why?  Because you’re always ASKING!

YOU’RE ASKING FOR THE NUMBER

YOU’RE ASKING FOR A DATE WHEN YOU CALL HER

YOU’RE ASKING WHAT HER ADDRESS IS AND WHAT TIME TO PICK HER UP

She’s like one of those old time stereotypical CEO’s in those grainy black and white movies where the worker is coming to beg for a penny a year raise and gets glared at – she can flush you at anytime.

Before you pull your hair out or explode – I have a solution to this – YOU FLIP THE SCRIPT ON HER.  MOST EVERY GUY calls within a day or two (sometimes an hour or two) so you wait 5-9 days and do many other things that I teach that will set you apart from all the other guys just waiting to have a rejection card dropped on them like your average NFL DB is looking for the flag after he looks at a WR the wrong way.

The bottom line is you blunt THE REJECTION CARD by going in slower than the other guys and being a bit of a mystery to her because no other guy does that.

THREE MUST HAVE TIPS ON DATING WOMENTIP #3 ON DATING WOMEN:  GIVE HER FUN AND RESPECT BUT NOTHING ELSE ON A DATE
I could break this tip down to the don’ts – namely DON’T talk about your problems, DON’T talk about your exes, DON’T talk about the trike that broke when you were 3 (and caused you to be in therapy until your teenage acne attack caused more angst), DON’T stare at the waitresses….ANYTHING (even if she is hotter than your date), DON’T ask for the next date during the date, DON’T talk about the future, DON’T reveal how much you like her, DON’T dominate the conversation (let her talk mostly), DON’T let the date go on too long (let her want more) and DON’T put your mitts on her or get in her space.

All you care about is that she laughs a lot, feels respected and is hungry for another date with you because she can’t quite figure you out or where you’re coming from.  She’s pretty must used to guys tripping over themselves trying to make her the girlfriend and you’re going to be different – YOU’RE GOING TO BE A MYSTERY AND A CHALLENGE if you allow me to train you.

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DATING WOMEN ADVICE FOR GUYS: WOULD SEAN PENN TAKE BACK A GIRL WHO CHEATED ON HIM?

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Hey Doc, 

I’m going through a breakup and happened to stumble onto your columns. They are great and I intend to buy your book. But at this moment I am feeling pretty awful and I wanted to run something by you.  

My girlfriend, Melissa, cheated on me. She confessed it to me one night recently and said it was a terrible mistake which to this day she regrets to no end. She begged my forgiveness and wants us to move forward. On one hand, I have to admit that I want to forgive her. We both work as professional actors, so we have a lot in common and have a deep respect for each other in that regard. Melissa is very charismatic, smart, and fun to be around, which makes her incredibly attractive to men.  

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On the other hand, during the six months we have been together I have noted some red flags popping up here and there. Her parents hated each other throughout her whole life and their family legend is that Melissa somehow drove them toward their inevitable divorce. She has a pretty nonexistent relationship with her father. She also has an intense bite, an unforgiving nature (she wouldn’t talk to me for three whole days after what I thought was a minor fight), and parties a lot: she drinks heavily, smokes pot, does not work out, and eats basically whatever she wants but doesn’t gain any weight. She happens to have a fantastic metabolism so her body doesn’t really suffer from her appetite. 

Anyway, since Melissa confessed her indiscretion three days ago, she has reached out to me a few times but I have not responded. But Doc, I miss her, I really do. Should I give any thought to taking her back? Should I just consider infidelity an occupational hazard in my line of work? Part of me feels that I’m an artist and as such these things are liable to happen, and the other part of me is very conservative with corny old family values. I don’t know which side of me should win out. Any thoughts on my dilemma? I sure could use some coaching. 

Jonathan – who feels like he’s stuck in a bad Hollywood movie

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Hi Jonathan, 

What I don’t understand about you is that you’re getting absolutely massacred by your girlfriend and you’ve read my columns and agreed with everything I say, and yet you want nothing but a quick fix. You remind me of the guy who goes into the hospital with three broken ribs and a broken leg, but only wants treatment for his broken pinkie. It doesn’t make any sense. To you Psych majors, without the full course of treatment, you’re never going to recover. Just remember that every guy who invests in my book regrets not buying it earlier. What does that tell you, my friend? And if you feel so awful, why haven’t you bought my book? So you’re not really feeling that awful, Jonathan. If Melissa cheated on you with six guys, would you buy “The System” then? 

Anyway, Melissa confessed that she was unfaithful to you. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “This is the stupidest thing that women do.” They move all their pain onto the guy, and now the poor sap has to deal with it. Nice, huh? You can forgive Melissa, dude, but you’ll never forget. 

Melissa might respect you as an actor, but she doesn’t respect you as a man. Look at what she did, pal. Now she expects you to let her off the hook like it’s no big deal. You got a real sharp woman on your hands here, Jonathan! Actually, I don’t think she’s smart at all. I think she’s quite stupid. So are you supposed to just forgive and forget when she gets intimate with someone else? 

All the red flags you mention come under the heading of SCARS AND BAGGAGE. Women should love their moms and dads. When they don’t, they take it out on their romantic partners – which means YOU — later. And that’s what she’s doing by being intimate with someone else. 

The first time you’re able to tell whether or not you have a good girl is when you have an argument and she sits down calmly and says “Let’s work this thing out.” But Melissa showed the opposite. She pouted and didn’t talk to you for three days. You’re going to have differences throughout your entire life with this woman, so what does her behavior tell you? Would you really want to be with someone so hardheaded? And she wants you to forgive her for a major transgression? 

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If Melissa doesn’t gain any weight after all of her partying, she’s a very lucky lady. But like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “Let’s see what she looks like in ten years!” 

You say that you miss Melissa, but you just miss the good times. To the male, the most important factor in the relationship is LOYALTY. Melissa gets a big, fat “F” in Loyalty. Should you give a thought to taking her back? None whatsoever. But your problem is that you turned Melissa off because you didn’t have “The System.” Her Interest Level in you dropped somewhere along the line, Jonathan. When a woman’s interest is high, she won’t have an indiscretion. That’s what you don’t realize because you don’t know my techniques. 

And get off this “I’m an artist!” stuff. Your job has absolutely nothing to do with what happened. Whether she’s an actress, nurse, or Sunday school teacher has nothing to do with her messing around on you. You’re just rationalizing Melissa’s bad behavior but saying it’s “just the industry.” Meaning it’s not quite as bad if it happened in another industry? 

The System” is about corny old family values, guy. Those values are the ones that help you separate the keepers from the losers. The side of you that should win out is the side that was going to buy my book later. Remember — winners make commitments, losers make promises. 

Here’s my thought on your dilemma. You’ve got a woman who’s disloyal. Like my cousin General Love says, “When she can’t be trusted, she’s no good.” 

Remember, guys: do you want to be with someone who’s not loyal?

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“Why Can’t I Find A Girlfriend?” 3 Possible Reasons Why

"Why Can't I Find A Girlfriend?" 3 Possible Reasons WhyIf you ever asked yourself the question “why can’t I find a girlfriend” then you are asking something many guys have grappled with but the key is to not let it paralyze you.  If you let it your brain will come up with all sorts of negative reasons why.  If you ask that question and then start to answer “Because I’m too <fat, skinny, tall, short, smart, dumb, etc., etc.>” then you’ve already set yourself up for failure.

The better thing to do is start with YOU – finding a girlfriend doesn’t begin with her – it is all about what you bring to the table.  I teach guys that they have to be the type of guy she wants to be with – in other words you attract what you become.

Keeping that in mind, here are 3 possible reasons why you’re struggling:

"Why Can't I Find A Girlfriend?" 3 Possible Reasons WhyReason #1:  You Don’t Pay Enough Attention To The Image You Present
If you want a classy lady you can go long-term with you have to be a classy guy.  Yes, yes, I know you’ve seen beautiful women with what you consider to be dirtbags but take that out of your skull – you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors in their relationship and just because she’s beautiful and articulate doesn’t mean she isn’t a dirtbag either.  I teach guys to look for FLEXIBLE GIVERS THAT ARE KIND AND GENTLE (you can get more in my relationship advice column weekly found on my blog).

If you want to attract a lady like that pay attention to your teeth (FIX THEM if they’re bad), your clothes, and the way you groom yourself (growing a forest out of your nose? get out the chainsaw – err, nose clippers).

Beyond your physical appearance do you pay attention to the way you speak to women?  Do you have a light and funny demeanor or are you Mr. Serious or even Mr. Angry?  Remember that she’ll be attracted to the way you look (so look the best you can) but also if you’re what SHE considers a DIRTBAG then you have no shot.

"Why Can't I Find A Girlfriend?" 3 Possible Reasons WhyReason #2:  You’re Too Needy (Or Too Macho)
FLEXIBLE GIVERS don’t want a guy up in their grills (texting her 3 minutes after you get her number, sending flowers the next day, calling all the time) nor do they want a caveman that thinks he owns her.  Women want a GENTLEMAN – the perfect mix of Mr. Sensitive and Mr. Cro-Magnon.  You also have to learn how to be a CHALLENGE because women, whether they like to admit it or not, love the chase.

Reason #3:  You Start Out Strong And Finish Weak
Everything was going GREAT for the first few months or so and then bam – once again you’re out in the cold.  Why?  In many cases it’s because the guy thinks he can relax once he’s got her. First of all UNTIL SHE’S YOUR GIRLFRIEND COUNT ON NOTHING WHEN IT COMES TO HER.  I don’t care if you’ve had 8 dates with her and you think she’s the greatest thing going since the networks decided to show football nearly all week long – she is a STRANGER until you really vet her out.

I see so many guys OVERRATE her feelings towards them just because they’re attracted to her and she *seems* like a good girl.  I teach guys to go SLOWLY and really make sure she has long-term potential.

Assuming that you found a long-term potential candidate – and I assure you that if you’re reading my materials for the first time your definition of what constitutes long-term potential is much different from mine (due to all the brainwashing in your head from the major media and Hollywood) – don’t veer from what got her.

So many guys start out one way with the girl and think they can “relax and be themselves” once she’s showing signs of being into you (or if she’s your girlfriend).

NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH!!!

Remember this – ROMANTIC LOVE IS CONDITIONAL – if you want her long-term you must start out strong and stay strong – for, say, about 40 years (or however long you’re together).

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Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50

Portrait Of Young Woman Sitting On SofaIt seems like all the dating tips for men are geared to the younger dudes – what about dating tips for men over 40 or dating tips for men over 50?  The principles I’m about to give you are good for any age but your strategy has to be a bit different because your pool of available women without scars and baggage has decreased.
Let’s take for example when you were in your teens and 20’s – you likely knew a lot of single women that just wanted to have fun and it seemed like there was a lot of them around because if you’re like a typical guy there were.  Now that you’re dating in your 40’s and 50’s you are likely seeing the same faces at work, at the gym and during your favorite happy hour stops and the women you are seeing could be unavailable, bitter or have baggage – that’s not to say that every woman is like that but just like you have buddies that have joined the “he man woman haters club” due to a bad experience, there are women like that too.
The paragraph above basically says that your options shrink as you get older plus if you’re like most folks in today’s economy your time has shrunk too (but if you’re a successful guy who has retired in your 40’s or 50’s – bravo – you’ll have more time to implement the strategies below – and if you have limited time – well, the strategies are just for you).
As a guy dating over 40 or 50 you have to be very efficient in your search.  First of all if you’re not finding the right women for you right now then STOP doing what you’re doing.  Running into the same faces over and over again?  Then it’s time to change up your routine.
Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50Tip # 1:   Get online ASAP
At this point in the article you could call it “online dating tips for men” because I’m going to tell you to go online for maximum efficiency.  If you’re a guy over 40 or 50 you can remember a time when the personal ads were in a newspaper (younger guys reading this can’t fathom what a personal ad is and they’re rapidly having trouble with what a newspaper is).  Do you recall how you felt about guys you heard were using personal ads?  Yeah, I bet it wasn’t flattering.  TAKE ALL THAT OUT OF YOUR HEAD because online dating is not the personal ads moved online – it’s a way for you to efficiently get through hundreds (depending on your city) eligible women in an afternoon.
One out of five relationships start online and the number is only growing.  You have Match.com, eHarmony, Date.com, Zoosk, an app for your smartphone called Tinder and so much more.  My #1 recommendation of a dating tip for men over 40 and 50 is to get online.
Call my dating women radio show  if you want advice from me on this – I take calls every Wednesday from 5:00 p.m. – 6:00 p.m. PT / 8:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. ET
Tip #2:  Speed dating
The other thing I suggest is speed dating – if you’re not sure what speed dating is just plug that into your favorite search engine.  You get anywhere from 3-8 minutes with a lady in your age range before you move onto the next one – if you both like each other then the organizer of the event (usually held in a nice bar/restaurant) will give each of you the contact information of the other and then it’s on you.
Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50Tip #3: Think like a great salesperson 
You see where I’m going with all of this?  Why do you think I suggest online dating and speed dating as my 2 best ways to meet women efficiently?  Because my dating tips for men are always sales-based.  You want as many QUALITY LEADS as you can get – like if you were selling cars.  You wouldn’t want to get in front of a bunch of people that have just signed an auto lease or those that had terrible credit, right?  You want to be in front of as many people as you can that have the means to buy now and are ready to buy now.
When you do online dating and speed dating at least you know the women there are “ready to buy” – like you they’re online or at the speed dating event because they’re looking for a relationship (or at least some of them are).
Of course all the leads in the world won’t matter if you blow them – finding where to meet women open to a relationship is one thing but making sure you go out with them and then figuring out which ones are right for you is another.
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DATING WOMEN RADIO SHOW – NEVER HIT WOMEN

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Your  free weekly excerpt from the Dating Women Radio Show is below – this week we have Doc’s take on abusive men

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DATING WOMEN ADVICE FOR GUYS: You Changed My Life

Guys,

From time to time I like to publish a good “you changed my life” letter and we will cover this on tonight’s (1/16/14) www.datingwomenradioshow.com so tune in at 4:00 p.m. PT/7:00 p.m. ET

In his own words….

Hi Doc, 

I started reading your articles back in 2006, but I was young and stupid and did not buy your book until 2011.  After years of failed relationships, heartbreak, wasted time, money, and emotion, I put my ego aside and realized that I needed real help. 

Your book and radio shows changed my life. 

I’m a fairly good looking guy.  I’m confident, have a good job, am a gentleman, and a have a golden retriever.  But I went through life dating whoever I found attractive and happened to like me back without much thought to anything else.  You showed me how I could raise my standards and what qualities I needed to find to make a lasting happy relationship.  

I had confidence down, but you taught me the importance of (self) CONTROL and CHALLENGE

Thanks to The System, I found the love of my life.  We met at the young adult group at my church.  Prior to learning your System, instead of asking for her number, I would have hung out around her for a few months hoping to get a hint whether or not she liked me first before maybe asking her to “hang out.”  Instead, I confidently asked for her number, waited 7 days, asked her out, and won her over with charm and confidence in person on the date.  

Also, before learning The System, I would have texted her in between dates.  My (now) wife says that it drove her nuts in between dates that I didn’t text her, but at the same time, she loved it.  She says not texting told her that I was secure in my self and that I had a life of my own.  Also, it added MYSTERY.  Let me be clear, I am NOT a naturally mysterious man.  But this simple bit of self-control made me seem like a mysterious man, which upped her Interest Level

Also, she was ready to say the “L” word after about 4 months of dating, but I didn’t give in.  I saved it for the day I proposed.  She says that because I waited to say it at such an important time and made her wait, that made her respect me even more. 

Additionally, I never pushed the physical boundaries of the relationship.  We discussed our boundaries early and established that sex is for marriage.  The fact that I didn’t just say it and had the self-CONTROL to do it, made her respect and love me even more. 

Also, she thinks my corny jokes are hilarious. (They aren’t that funny, but she thinks they are.)  Humor, as you say, is absolutely the GLUE of our relationship. 

On top of all of this, she is a flexible giver.  Every morning she wakes up and makes my morning cappuccino and breakfast while I get dressed for work even though she doesn’t have to get up for another 2 hours.  She lets me lead and actively wants to learn more about the things I am interested in, even if it’s something she never had previous interest in, like football and baseball. 

Not to mention, she is absolutely drop dead gorgeous.  If we have daughters, I am going to have to keep an eye on them and train them to only date “System” guys. 

Coming from a family with a strong history of divorce, I am confident in saying that I will be the one who breaks the chain.  I am confident in this because of two things:  my faith and the “System.” 

I may have been able to find her, but I never would have been able to KEEP her without you, Jeff, and the “System.” 

Once again, THANK YOU. 

Spartan,
Blake

Austin, TX

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