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Hey Doc, 

I’ve been a student of “The System” for a little over a year now. I’m slowly
but surely applying your principles and learning a lot — and having fun doing it!

I have a slightly tricky situation that has me stumped, so I’m going straight to the source for coaching. I get invited out once a month by Riley, a good female friend of 10 years who used to have a crush on me in high school. We have a great time as friends.

However, in the last few months her younger sister, Amy, has been tagging along or showing up to wherever we are, which is fine with me. I’ve known Amy for almost
as long as I’ve known her sister, although I wouldn’t say that Amy and I are close friends.

Amy is what you would call a dangerous creature. She is pretty, though not a knockout, and is 20 years young. I am careful to always remain a Challenge around her and keep her laughing so I know that she is comfortable around me.

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Over the last few outings, Amy has been giving me signals that have made it difficult for me to assess her Interest Level. She has been touching me much more frequently and standing “too close.”

A couple of months ago on an outing she touched me over a dozen times.  However, she did make an impromptu comment about liking Asian men, which I am not, though I do often get mistaken for being part Asian. Rather than get upset about not being her type, I told her that I’d set her up and pointed to an Asian man who was at least in his seventies (as a joke). Amy then hugged me and said that she loves me — in public and in front of her sister. I didn’t respond other than to say that she has great taste in guys. But she later made a comment that it would be “weird” for the two of us to ride together alone in the car. I didn’t get it.

On our last outing, Amy continued to touch me in the same manner. I refrained from touching her, of course. I also politely declined her and Riley’s invitation for dinner afterwards since I already had plans. But when we were taking a picture together, she slapped my arm away when I wrapped it around her. 

Doc, I can’t decipher whether Amy’s actions are just that of a young girl who wants attention even though her Interest Level in me is low. Or maybe she has a moderate interest but is hot and cold because she isn’t fully grown up yet? What would you say that her Interest Level is? I am also making sure to keep my own interest low and hustle other women. I would like to hear your thoughts on this situation.  

Wes – who’s scratching his head

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Hi Wes,

I really want to congratulate you on having the ability to set your ego aside and follow the rules in my book. Most men won’t or can’t. And as I’ve mentioned to you guys before, “The System” IS A FUN TRIP, and it’s great that you realize that and are having a good time with the process. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “It’s not like you’re being tortured with calculus or advanced chemistry.”

Whatever you do, don’t, under any circumstance, touch Amy back when she touches you. That said, it’s absolutely phenomenal that you employed a sense of humor when dealing with Amy. Most men would not be able to use humor with a woman when she said she dug a different type of guy. But after you got trained by “The System,” you were able to turn a potentially sticky situation into a purely humorous one. To you Psych majors, HUMOR IS THE KEY TO WOMEN.

When Amy told you that it would be weird to ride with you in a car alone, she was just playing with your head. She’s flirting with you, Wes, but she’s only 20 years old, and you know what my book says about girls of a certain young age. She’s just too young for you, my friend.

Then Amy slapped your arm away when you wrapped it around her for the photo. I told you not to touch her, didn’t I? You swore that you don’t touch her, and now you’re telling me that you wrapped your arms around her. You don’t know what touching is, dude. There’s a section on it in my book. You need to go back and revisit that one. You shouldn’t have put your arm around Amy. You should have told her to put her arm around you instead.

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What’s going on here is this: Amy is young and she’s just flirting with you and that’s all there is to it. So what you’re going to do is play with her, like she’s playing with you, until she’s 23 or 24 years old and more mature. But you’re not going to entertain any illusions that you and Amy are going to actually get together down the road. And, like my cousin General Love says, “You’re going to keep her at arm’s length.” Moreover, we don’t know if Amy’s older sister is going to like you moving in on her. Even though Riley no longer digs you romantically, she knows that she has a 20-year-old sister and no doubt realizes that she’s a ding-dong.

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I would say that Amy’s Interest Level is 60%. The problem is that she has to have 95% Interest Level and she has to maintain it for at least six months, AND she has to be at least 23 or 24 years old in order for it to amount to anything. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “You’re dealing with a child in a woman’s body.”

Of course you have to hustle other women. Amy has to get to at least 23 years old before you ever think of asking her out. If you’re still going on outings with her when she’s 23 or more, then things could be different.

Remember, guys: to take any woman seriously in love, she has to be grown up.

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Online Dating Services – 3 Things To Know

Online dating services are great but as with anything in life there are pitfalls and things to know before jumping in.  I’ll give you 3 things below that will put you ahead of the game as far as having greater success with this platform that is allowing (as of this writing) 20% of relationships to start and flourish (and only growing).

Online Dating Services#1:  Two Professional Photos

You need one photo in business attire; one in casual gear.  Don’t let your neighbor take these shots on your Android Phone or iPhone or any other device.  Yes, yes, I know you have a great camera on the mobile device you just dropped hundreds on but only a pro knows lighting and what works best for your look.

Women zip through hundreds of profiles looking for Mr. Right so do you really want a couple hundred bucks to stand between you and the girl that might be with you for the next 40 years?

Stand out from the shirtless bathroom selfie guys with the reflection bouncing off the mirror and get her to stop and read what you have to say, which brings me to my next tip.

Online Dating Services#2:  Keep Your Profile Text Brief/Meet Her As Soon As Possible

All you should tell her is:

I’m not looking to text you 434,000x after date 1, I’m not going to tell you about all my toys or complain about the trike I didn’t get when I was 3 and I’m not going to fill your head with innuendos – I am looking for a self-reliant woman that likes to laugh and get to know a gentleman slowly.

That’s it – simple and to the point – you don’t need to sell her right in your profile text – you just need her to be intrigued.

As far as emailing back and forth with her allow 2-3 emails where you keep it light and funny with no heavy subjects or put downs – your object is to get her to meet you in the real world at a nice coffee shop or restaurant that everyone knows and she’ll feel comfortable at.

During that time with her you limit it to 45 minutes to an hour where you get her to laugh and see if she touches you.  I have way more on what you should be doing step by step over the first 60 days of a relationship (your beachhead that will set the foundation for everything with her) in my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM and The Doc Love Club so if you’re interested in learning more about this, then hit those links so that you’re so different than other guys that she wants to go beyond this first 45 minutes to an hour.

Online Dating Services#3:  Watch Out For Scammers

If a beautiful 20-something model looking type is messaging you and you notice the age range of guys she’s looking for is 45-70 then she’s probably actually a dude sitting in a basement looking to grab your credit card or social security number.  Basically if she looks too good to be true, then she probably is.

Scammers usually have unusual age ranges, ask you for money or personal information quickly, have generic profile text that is sometimes so badly written you can tell it is someone from a foreign country that doesn’t have a grasp of the nuances of English and other tell-tale signs.

The male ego so badly wants to believe that this girl who is 25 and looks like she could be a pro cheerleader is actually messaging you at age 48 looking to meet you ASAP but in the vast majority of cases it’s a scam.

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Women And Dating – 3 Things You Must NOT Do

If you want to be successful with women and dating there are 3 NOT’s that I teach you via my website, book and dating women radio show.  The funny (not funny, ha ha either!) thing is that most men that I give advice to don’t even realize they’re doing these deal breakers until they encounter me.

You’ll be way ahead of the game if you move the 3 things below into the NEVER DO THIS column when going out with women.

Women And Dating#1:  Don’t Over-Compliment

Guys think compliments are to love as to what oil is to your car engine – just keep a steady supply in there and everything will run smooth.  Unfortunately, in keeping with our car analogy theme, too many compliments is like pouring sugar in the gas tank – they cause everything to break down.

“Women love to be complimented” is what you probably think and it’s common – but they love to be complimented by someone they have a relationship with.

Think about this – what is it that you can possibly compliment her on that will allow you to either not come off as a phony or completely bore her?

Let’s tackle the “bore her” part first – you bore her when you compliment her looks – if she’s pretty then she’s been told since her teenage years the same thing over and over and over and over again – she gets that she’s pretty – because she’s been told hundreds – if not thousands of times.  A variation of “you’re so pretty” said in different ways over and over again on the first date will spell a one way ticket to Rejection Junction for you.

So, you think that you can compliment her on something other than her looks – like maybe her brains or her kindness.  Great plan – except YOU DON’T KNOW HER – SHE’S A STRANGER.  How can you tell her how smart she is when you’ve talked to her for an hour?  You’ll come off as a fake because you don’t have enough time in with her yet.

What you need to do is aim for CONVERSATION and not compliments – just tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and that you had a fun time when dropping her off.  Stand out from the bores and the phonies in her mind – and have a chance at future dates.

Women And Dating#2:  Don’t Over-Communicate

Do you want to make it a full time job in answering her various messages?  She can text you, tweet at you, share a funny cat video on your Facebook wall, give you a quick video or photo on Snapchat and oh yeah, call you.

My friend, there are only 2 things you can count on after being harnessed to her electronic leash – #1, you’re that much closer to carpal tunnel surgery and #2, she’s rapidly becoming bored with you over your lack of CHALLENGE.

Challenge is a concept I teach via my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM and I won’t go into that too heavily here except to say that when most every guy likes a girl he wants to be as available as possible to her because she seems to want his attention.  It’s harmless to talk to her daily, right?  She seems really into  you so why not give her what she wants – more of you?

The problem is that women get more interested when they have to chase you – why do you think the “bad boy” is the one that she ends up with more often than not?  Because he’s a Challenge – a negative one to be sure – but a Challenge nonetheless.  As counter-intuitive as it sounds, you have to disappear between dates – the only way she can become more interested in you is by her thinking of your last date when you had so much fun and how much she wants to see you again.  If you’re available via a wide variety of electronic devices then you short circuit her building up more feelings for you.

Let’s put it another way – I call this my Thanksgiving analogy.  Thanksgiving dinner for many people is highly anticipated – all the food, the fun, the people you haven’t seen for awhile are all things that make it a great day – but of course, mainly it’s the food.

When you smell that dinner cooking with all the fixings and desserts you can’t wait – it’s been so long since you had a feast like that and it’s going to be a lot of fun.

What happens after you’ve gotten way more than your fill?  Are you anticipating that meal anymore?  Unless it’s throwing a few tums down, you’re probably not thinking of consuming anything else!  You’re done – you’ve had it.  You have the leftovers the next few days and those are always fun – but mainly you come out of Thanksgiving thinking that it’s nice that it’s not a regular occurrence.

Same thing with the potential Ms. Right – not that you’d only see her once a year – but communicating with her between dates is like trying to have Thanksgiving dinner every single day of the year.  You have to pace yourself because without that anticipation of the next time you’re together – just like you anticipate Thanksgiving (since you don’t do it every day) – is where you want to be.

Women And Dating#3:  Don’t Pressure Her

I know you like her – and it’s hard to get her out of your mind – but keep in mind that she holds something I call a REJECTION CARD and at any point she can pull it out.  You have to think of how you act in a store where they really want to sell you something and you have many stores to choose from that sell a similar product.  In this instance you’re essentially the woman because the sales folks in the store are approaching you like you would approach ladies – in either instance a “no” can be dropped on the pursuer – the dreaded REJECTION CARD.

When you come into a store, do you like the salesperson to be up in your grill the minute you walk in giving you a high pressure pitch, especially if you’ve let them know “you’re just looking.” Flip that around into your dating life and you’ll begin to see the point I’m trying to get across.

The product you’re selling is YOU – and like a salesperson at a store, you have to catch the attention of the people that are browsing – in this case women that are browsing for guys.  Getting her out on a date with you is the equivalent of you letting the salesperson show you the features and benefits of the product – you’re not sure if you’re going to buy but you’ll at least listen to what the product can offer.

That’s all you can do guy – you can present your product – you – and there is no way any amount of badgering or high pressure will sell you to her.

Your job on a date is to treat her with respect, make sure she has fun and wants to go out with you again – without the pressure that doesn’t work on you in stores nor her when she’s out with you.

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Ex Wants To Be Friends? 3 Reasons It’s A Bad Idea

I want to tell you that in all my articles, my dating and relationship education course and my radio show, my mantra is for you to be cool so keep in mind when you read the advice below that all of this is INTERNAL.  If your ex wants to be friends then you smile and tell her it’s fine and show her NOTHING as far as your emotions go – because making a point to tell her that you don’t want to be friends is proving that you’re pouting and you don’t want that.

However, here are 3 reasons why it’s a bad idea and you won’t follow through on your friendship – in fact, you’ll pull a disappearing act on her.  She won’t realize it but the last time she’ll physically see or talk to you is after you tell her it’s okay to be good buds (just tactfully avoid her calls/emails/texts and always be busy until she gets the message).

Ex Wants To Be Friends#1:  Once It’s Over, It’s Over

Either she lowered your feelings for her (Interest Level) or you did it to her (90% of the time it’s the guy changing from the person she started dating and she gets turned off) and there’s no going back from that.  Someone dropped someone here – which means SOMEONE IS INTERESTED IN BEING MORE THAN FRIENDS no matter how they pretend that being pals is a-okay.

I don’t know about you but I don’t need underlying tensions in my friendships and that’s exactly what you’ll get – you’ll either have to fend her off if you dropped her or you can be frustrated that she won’t be your girlfriend if she dropped you and is now your buddy.

Either way, it doesn’t sound like a fun way to spend a weekend night (or any night) to me!

Ex Wants To Be Friends#2:  What Do You Get Out Of It?

So, we discussed the tension above – what do you really get out of this?  Do you think you two are getting back together (never happen – at least in the way you want it to)?  Do you think it’s going to be fun and that you can just show up and pretend that neither one of you spent time in a relationship?  How about those old arguments – think they might surface from time to time?

Here’s the deal – SOMETHING NEGATIVE happened to break you two up.  It might have been a spectacular blow up or an erosion of feelings over time – but the bottom line is a conscious decision was made to END A RELATIONSHIP – that’s not exactly a great basis to start a friendship on.

Yes, yes, I know that maybe in rare instances you both fell out of love at the same time and a friendship is possible – that’s great – but in my experience as a guy that plays the odds, in the VAST MAJORITY of cases someone dropped the other and someone is smarting from the pain they feel over getting dumped.

There is no upside to this.

Ex Wants To Be Friends#3:  It’s Preventing Ms. Right From Showing Up

You’re doing one of two things by hanging with your ex – you’re either giving her false hope if you dropped her and it would be impossible to hit on other women when out with her (unless you’re really a jerk) OR you have false hope yourself and are hanging out with her saying “friendship is cool” verbally while not believing a word of it in your head – because in the back of your mind you’ll think that staying her friend is a path back to romance – it’s not.  YOU GET ONE CHANCE, PER WOMAN, PER LIFETIME.

I know you’ve heard the stories of couples that got back together but I’m here to tell you that it’s not possible to have the same relationship you did before. THERE WAS A REASON you broke up in the first place and I teach my students that going long-term with a woman has to be smooth sailing all the way through with no Red Flags or breakups or you might have things built on a bad foundation.

All you’re doing by staying friends with your ex is preventing yourself from meeting a woman that you really might have a chance with.

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3 Great Tips On How To Approach Women

How To Approach Women

Wouldn’t it be great if there was a LED sign on every woman’s forehead?  If it lights up red you have no chance, yellow is proceed with caution as she has more baggage than the average big city airport and green means she’s really into you, is a good girl and is hoping you’ll come over?

I think maybe a Hollywood writer could go with the premise above – might make for a great fantasy movie!  Since we deal in reality and it gets down to guesswork many times, I’ll share 3 great tips on how to approach women below.

How To Approach Women#1:  Don’t Be A Creep And Leave Lines For Bad B Movies

It’s funny we were just talking about movies above because in the bad ones (and sometimes the good ones) there are lousy lines that sometimes work (because they’re written to work).  On the streets, unless you’re Handsome Harry and can get away with a cheesy line then forget about it (and even the most handsome of men can’t sustain a constant stream of lousy conversation so they need to learn to limit bad lines to the silver screen as well).

Here’s the deal – WOMEN HELP YOU WHEN THEY LIKE YOU (and are available).  If you’re going to build anything with her and she’s a good person then it’s not going to be on some lame approach – because you know, as you go on in a relationship with her you’ll actually have to talk to her like a real person – so why not start the real talk at the beginning?

Notice something in the environment (IE, are you both in a long line that isn’t moving? You could say “I think the next ice age will be here before we get our tomatoes weighed) or you could just say hi.  IF she’s available, IF she’s a good girl and IF she likes you physically then she’ll respond positively.  If she doesn’t then you wasted what, 30 seconds of your life?

Remember, just talk to her as you would any person and see if you get a response – and if you don’t then it’s onto the next.

How To Approach Women#2:  Understand Your Environment

Pop quiz – where will you have a better chance of meeting her?  A wedding where your sister is the bride and she introduces you to her friend that showed up for the reception or at a loud nightclub where your potential Ms. Right has tipped back her 3rd Jack & Coke in the last half hour.  I’m not saying it’s impossible to meet women in a loud bar or that you’ll have 100% success at a wedding but the more low key the environment the more chance you have to just talk and get to know her.

At a nightclub you are probably the 15th guy to approach her that night and women naturally have their guards up – while at a wedding everyone is (generally) in a good mood and it’s more normal to talk in a non-threatening way.  Plus, you have the commonality of knowing someone associated with the wedding as opposed to maybe going in completely cold at a nightclub.

I can’t possibly cover every scenario where you might meet someone but keep in mind that the more things you have in common from the get-go and the more low-key it is, the better off you are (like a wedding, house party, seminar).

Also, I can’t emphasize enough that just approaching her when she’s alone on the street in public (like going to her car in the parking lot, walking down the block, etc.) is a big NO.  Talk about attacking a woman’s comfort level!  There are so many crazy stories out there that women are on their guard.  If you approach her and she is feeling fear then you won’t be getting the number and you might even be having a conversation with a law enforcement official before long so forget about the “street approach.”

How To Approach Women#3:  Don’t Be Scared

Have you ever seen headlines where a guy was physically harmed after innocently approaching a woman in a book store or at a wedding?  I’m sure there have been rare instances where a guy hit on a woman that was a psychopath and it turned out bad but the vast majority of time all you have to risk is a blow to your ego if she rejects you – and for some guys that’s the last thing they want!

I’m here to tell you that you have to PUT YOUR EGO ASIDE because it is your BIGGEST ENEMY.  I teach more methods of how to stamp down the useless noise your ego puts in your brain in my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM but for now it is enough for you to know that the worst that can happen is you feel a momentary rush of humiliation when you get rejected – because no one likes to be rejected.  However, getting rejected means you’re TRYING and TRYING is the only way you are going to find Ms. Right.  Plus, how do you know she’s going to turn you down?  You might be pleasantly surprised because that imaginary LED light might very well have been GREEN all along.

The point is to always give it a shot – you have nothing to lose.  Keep this in mind as well if you’re going back and forth as to whether to approach or not.  If someone gave you a million dollars to walk over to her and say something about the cantaloupe she’s looking at in the grocery store, could you do it?  For a cool million, of course you could!  You wouldn’t care what happened because you knew that your reward outweighed the risk.

I’m here to tell you that if you could do it for a million dollars you could do it for free because that momentary feeling you get when rejected is worth risking to possibly meet Ms. Right

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3 Great First Date Tips For Guys

3 Great First Date Tips For GuysAh, the first date – the most nerve racking palm sweaty time you can have outside of getting ready to compete in a championship game – or at least that’s how it feels.  Why is it like this? Because it’s not natural.  You take two complete strangers that have some semblance of interest in each other and you hope that by the end of the 2-3 hours that the interest has risen on both sides – but there is no real way to be sure since, again, you’re strangers.

On the dating women radio show that I host weekly, I have guys call in from all over the world and a lot of times they’re looking for first date advice.  Below are 3 great first date tips for guys based on my radio show andteachings.

3 Great First Date Tips For Guys#1:  You Can’t Win The Tournament Early But You Can Lose It

My co-host Jeff is a poker player and there’s a old concept in tournament play that states that you can lose early but it’s impossible to win.  Basically each player is given a certain amount of chips and you have to get all the chips to win.  Early on there is no way you can get every chip in the field but you can give yours away to the other players.

Bring that concept to dating – you are not going to develop a relationship with her on date 1, date 5 or even date 8.  In my relationship and dating education course called THE SYSTEM I teach guys that they have to SLOW DOWN because it will take at least 10 dates before you build up enough chips with her to consider the long haul with you – so relax and just enjoy yourself.

3 Great First Date Tips For Guys#2:  Just Have Fun

Dovetailing on what I said above, you don’t have to prove yourself all in the first 2-3 hours you’re with her so RELAX and HAVE FUN.  Yes, HAVE FUN.  I teach guys to keep it light, keep it funny, and don’t give her any heavy subjects or put downs.  It’s amazing how many guys will go to a first date and act like she’s clergy or his shrink.  They put all their problems on the table thinking they’ll make a deeper connection with her but all she is thinking at the end of the date is how bummed she is after listening to your string of sob stories.

We all have pain from our past – but if you’re going to raise her INTEREST LEVEL in you then it’s not your job to expose your pain to her – your job is to make her laugh and forget her pain for awhile so that she wants to see you again.  Dating is supposed to be fun so concentrate on that!

3 Great First Date Tips For Guys#3:  Control The Evening

Notice I didn’t say control her – that’s not what were here for.  My principles can be boiled down to this – good men showing good women a good time that makes both want to spend the rest of their lives together wishing each other well and supporting one another.

It all starts on date 1 – your campaign to show her that you are different from the other guys she’s gotten rid of.  You can’t just wing this – make sure you know and do all of the following:

*Where you’re going – know how busy it is, noise level, where to park, fun stuff to do there, the specials, etc.  She should feel as if you’ve been to the place you’re at 100x before.

*Where she lives – always make sure to pick her up 5 minutes early – getting lost beforehand will make this impossible so scout out where you’re going before picking her up.

*What you’ll do – don’t take her to a movie or loud concert – you have to be able to TALK and get to know her.

*What you won’t do – and that’s over-compliment – MOST EVERY guy tries to score points by complimenting – be different & tell her she looks nice when picking her up and that you had a nice time when dropping her off.

*How long you’ll do it – remember she’s a complete stranger and you don’t have any rapport built up – and that takes time.  Remember what I said in tip #1 about losing early on?  The quickest way to lose is to not have her anticipating the next date with you.  It’s better to leave in 2-3 hours at the height of fun leaving her wanting more rather than wearing out your welcome for 5-6 hours and having her think – “I can’t do that again!”

Dating is like sales guys – great and successful salespeople control every detail of the process – from the initial call to the time when they close the contract – they leave nothing to chance and neither should you.  You’re not selling a product – you’re selling YOU so make sure that YOU ARE PREPARED.

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3 Tips For Speed Dating Success

  Venic Beach Doc Love New Article Jeff   12/14/14   Keep this message at the top of your inbox   To: doclove@doclove.com, Eddy Salomon jbilet@neo.rr.com Guys,  Please let me know what you think  Thanks  3 Tips For Speed Dating SuccessSo you’ve decided to delve into the world of speed dating, eh?  I should explain what it is and then we’ll get into 3 great tips to make it a successful experience for you.

If you live in a bigger, urban area (usually tough to get it going in smaller towns) you should find a number of events – just search for “speed dating events in <fill in your area>” – then you should see the ones that match your age range and are within your geographic location.

The basics of it are there are usually 15-30 men and women in a restaurant/bar.  The women sit in the tables in pretty much a circle around the venue and then the guys have 3-8 minutes to talk to the ladies before some kind of sounder goes off and they have to move (usually clockwise) to the next table/lady.  It kind of reminds you of organized musical chairs with the added pressure of trying to attract strangers – bonus!

All kidding aside, I like it a lot because you know that since there’s usually a fee (nominal – like $30-$50) the women there are serious about meeting someone – or at least certainly more well-qualified as potential dates than random women you might meet at a bar on a given night.

You all usually get name tags with your first name and a number – so Doc 43 might meet Caprice 34.  At the end of the night if I liked Caprice 34 I’ll write it down on my sheet and turn it into the organizer of the event.  If Caprice 34 did the same then they’ll email (typically email) each other’s contact information and then you’re off and running – you have made a potential connection.

Now that you have the basics, let’s get into my 3 tips for speed dating success.

3 Tips For Speed Dating Success#1:  Scout It Out

Unless you’re super familiar with the venue don’t leave anything to chance – either arrive early or make it a point to go before the event.  Why?  It’s going to be nerve-wracking enough to meet 15-30 strangers – you don’t want to add being clueless about the place you’re at to the mix.  You want to throw off an air of confidence and being comfortable in your surroundings can really help.

Also, during your 3-8 minutes with her, how cool would it be to point out something unique about the place?  Yeah – you’ll set yourself apart!

3 Tips For Speed Dating Success#2:  Dressing The Part/Acting The Part

It would be great if you could check out a speed dating event BEFORE yours – if you don’t have time for this because your event is coming up too quickly, I understand, but seeing how other guys dress would be very helpful – and then you make sure to dress a notch above them.  At the very least dress up that night – nice shirt, nice slacks – look like the type of guy that she’d want to meet and stand out from the other dudes competing with you that night.

Remember, with 3-8 minutes you won’t have much time to showcase your personality – you have to hit hard on the physical attraction so look as SHARP as possible and make sure you stand out from the other guys – or at least match the other dudes in their GQ posture.

Now, just because you don’t have much time to talk to her be bright, lively and funny – take control of the conversation by asking her something about what she does or what she’d do if she won the lottery and REALLY LISTEN TO HER.  Most guys will be so nervous that they’ll be blurting anything out trying to get her to write their name down – basically they’ll keep throwing things against the wall and hope they stick.

Not you – you’re going to look good, you’re going to smile and you’re going to ask her an intelligent question or two and really listen to her – remember that you need to show her in 3-8 minutes how nice it would be to be out with you.

Oh, and it goes without saying not to get sloppy drunk – a few cocktails are okay to loosen up but if you’re slurring with your tie at half-mast by girl 22 then you probably aren’t inspiring her to write your name down.

3 Tips For Speed Dating Success#3:  CLOSE The Deal

Normally in the dating relationship education course I teach (called THE SYSTEM) I tell guys to wait 5-9 days to call so you build CHALLENGE but in this case you want to wait not more than 2 days to reach out to her after getting her contact information (the women you do succeed with that is) because you’re still a stranger to her and you only got 3-8 minutes in.  It’s important to set up a date with her as soon as you can (without being desperate).  The important thing is to turn the “speed date” into a “real date.”

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3 Ways To Be Better In Online Dating For Singles

Online dating for singles is becoming big because many of us have run out of time and are surrounded by devices that make it easy to connect with each other – you take those 2 factors and there you go – it’s time to find romance virtually.

What are the best ways to go about it?  How do you stand out from the millions online – how do you attract the one you want?

3 Ways To Be Better In Online Dating For Singles#1: Get TWO Professional Photographs

As Jerry Seinfeld once said, the first date is like a job interview that lasts all night long – so make sure that you are presenting the best image possible.  She flips through hundreds if not thousands of pictures and it takes less than a second to click through each one.  You’ll want a business-oriented pose and a more casual pose but you want a pro to do it.  If you’re worried about the expense then don’t – because if you can’t afford the professional photographs then it’s likely you can’t afford dating – you want to put your best out there so you attract the best.

3 Ways To Be Better In Online Dating For Singles#2:  Carpal Tunnel Is Not Needed

You want to banter with her back and forth on email so she’s comfortable but make it a max of 3-4 messages.  Anything more and you have a TIME WASTER on your hands who wants a virtual pen pal more than she wants a guy in her life.  One profile I read from a woman said:  “You can’t tell anything at all from internet pictures and I want to actually meet you soon so let’s not waste each other’s time with email.”  Bingo.

As I teach in my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM you always have to keep it light and funny with no heavy subjects or put downs.  This is especially true when it comes to online dating for singles – because it’s so easy to just ignore the person since you’ve never met each other.

Your whole object is to make her comfortable enough to meet you in the real world, which is the only place you can actually start building something anyway.

3 Ways To Be Better In Online Dating For Singles#3:  Get Out But Not For Long Though

She’s expecting this meeting in the real world to be a full on date but you’re going to be smarter than that.  First of all, you know nothing about her or even if her pictures are the most recent. What if you get there and you find she’s not what she looked like in photos and you’re immediately not attracted – do you really want to be committed to 3 hours and $100 on your Visa Card?

The better play, and this helps build MYSTERY and CHALLENGE (another thing I teach) if you do like her, is to keep it to an hour for a drink or a coffee at a nice place – that way you can spend enough time to see if you like each other but not too much that you’re stuck.  Also, the added bonus is that if she likes you, you’ll leave her wanting more.

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3 Tips For Successfully Dating Women In The 21st Century

Are women really that much different today from the ones your older relatives talked about when relating their dating women stories?  Listen I get that were in the era of instant status updates that can connect folks to a YouTube Channel that tells your life story in the span of a half hour but I’m here to tell you that human nature hasn’t changed in thousands of years and that when you’re looking for Ms. Right then you better keep in mind the 3 tips for successfully dating women in the 21st century below.

3 Tips For Successfully Dating Women In The 21st Century#1:  Forget Technology

I’m not saying go back to the days of smoke signals and Pony Express (Google that fellas – or recall back to your 5th grade history class – it’s where they used to deliver messages by horse) but you shouldn’t be technology-dependent.

I know it’s funny that I’m telling you to use less technology considering you’re reading my dating tips for guys blog and I have a website, YouTube channel, Facebook and Twitter but it is important you limit yourself on technology.

Why?  You must be a MYSTERY and CHALLENGE if you want to have success with her.  If you spend all your time texting, tweeting or sharing Vine videos with her then you are just burning yourself out in her mind.

It’s like when the WIMPUS AMERICANUS guys of the past spent hours talking on the phone only to realize she was BORED with them on the actual dates as she knew too much about them.

Women roll different – they want to get to know you SLOWLY – even if they protest that fact.  When you give them too much too soon then it’s easy for them to say “here’s another one I’ve got in my pocket.”  Of course they don’t say that outright but the results are when you get the “let’s be friends” speech from a girl that only weeks before couldn’t wait to give you her work number, home number and cell number.

It’s easier than ever for them to get information on you and in the relationship dating education course I teach you MUST BE A MYSTERY AND CHALLENGE if you want any chance.

3 Tips For Successfully Dating Women In The 21st Century#2:  What Kind Of Girl Is She?

If you think that integrity, kindness, flexibility, giving and having a sweet, supportive way about her is old-fashioned then you’re completely off base in what you should be looking for. I wrote an article in my popular book Mastery IV where I detailed whether or not I was “lost in the fifties” because I wanted her to have the things I just mentioned (and no, being “lost in the fifties” is not a bad thing if you read that article).

Guy, if you’re going to spend years, if not decades with her, you better make sure she has the qualities above – and women like that still exist.  You can’t settle for anything less because it’s better to be alone than to be with a life partner that is a nasty, taking, selfish person.

3 Tips For Successfully Dating Women In The 21st Century#3:  What Kind Of Guy Are You?

By the same token if you want to have a kind-hearted giving woman with integrity then you better be a guy that gives her respect, affection and romance – just not right away.  Okay, give her respect always but as far as romancing her or giving her too much affection keep MYSTERY and CHALLENGE in mind.

YES – she wants you to be romantic and affectionate – just not too soon!  I remember a story where a woman told me on the FIRST DATE he was trying to kiss her and put his arm around her and guess what?  He was OUT soon after.

She does want your attention but not until she’s comfortable.  Remember how I said women move SLOWLY?  You’re going to move even SLOWER and drive her crazy enough to come at you wanting more of your time because you’re smart enough to hold back.

Always keep in mind that she holds the REJECTION CARD and can pull it out at any time.  You will flip the tables on her because it’s impossible for her to REJECT you when she’s coming at you asking to see you because you’ve pulled a disappearing act on her.

Let me train you and you’ll see how to accomplish the above in no time at all!

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How To Tell If A Girl Likes You – Three Foolproof Ways

How To Tell If A Girl Likes You - Three Foolproof WaysEver hear this BRAINWASHING?
“You have to chase her.”

“Women play hard to get.”

“Just keep trying and you’ll win her over.”

 

 Those are popular but false statements that keep good guys like you running over and over again into brick walls with women you have ZERO chance with.

You want to know how to tell if a girl likes you?  Read the 3 foolproof ways that I teach in my dating and relationship education course called THE SYSTEM

How To Tell If A Girl Likes You - Three Foolproof Ways#1: Women Help You When They Like You
Let me tell you how a woman acts when she really likes you:

*Her body language has her leaning in toward you

*She asks you personal questions

*Her eyes are lit up as she’s talking to you

*It’s easy to talk to her

*She touches you – such as brushing your arm or leg as she laughs – at least once but usually multiple times

*You get no hesitation when asking for her number

*She doesn’t look away and give you one word answers to your questions

Gut feeling guys – don’t stop listening to the little voice inside you.  You know when a woman is into you – but sometimes you feel so strongly about a girl you really like that you try to project your INTEREST LEVEL on her.  You really want the girl you like to demonstrate the above and she doesn’t – so you make excuses as you try to grasp at straws hoping she’ll be into you – but remember this:

WOMEN HELP YOU WHEN THEY LIKE YOU.

How To Tell If A Girl Likes You - Three Foolproof Ways#2: They Don’t Break Dates
Broken date = no chance.

Think about the women you REALLY LIKE – you know the ones that you can’t stop thinking about once you got her number.  Have you broken any of those dates?  Did you just decide a few hours before that she wasn’t for you?

I’m not talking about the girls that you were half into – I’m talking about the ones that had that immediate lump in the throat/your brain screams “who is THAT” feeling.

Have you broken dates with those women or were you counting the hours and then the minutes until you could pick them up?

It would take a catastrophe for you to miss the date with her and even then you’d probably try to reschedule during the ambulance ride.  If she doesn’t have the same feeling for you then FORGET IT.  Why would you want to waste your time and money on a girl that isn’t anticipating going out with you as much as you are her?

“Women are different Doc, ” you might say.

WRONG.

They’re just like us – they get strong feelings for guys just like we get them for ladies – ever seen a bunch of them at a concert as they’re watching a hot singer?  Yeah, so don’t tell me that they can’t act just like we do!

How To Tell If A Girl Likes You - Three Foolproof Ways#3: She’s Totally Focused On You

When you are on a date you might as well be the only person in the room because if she really likes you that’s how it will seem to you.  If you have to drag conversation out of her as she is looking more and more bored then you should forget it.

I would think that’s obvious to a lot of guys but sadly it’s not.  Again, with the BRAINWASHING in our society when it comes to dating women guys think that all they have to do is try harder and pursue more.

I’m going back to point #1 because it’s important.  If you don’t remember anything else from this article remember this:

WOMEN HELP YOU WHEN THEY LIKE YOU

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